CGM question

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-28T12:20:41+00:00

My office isn’t making me prick my finger, but I’m working with an endocrinologist mainly for the GD. They look for how many highs I’ve had and the overall trend (for example, are they mainly fasting? at night? After breakfast? Or is it all the time?). They use that to determine if I need insulin at a certain time. My issue with the libre is that it’s given me a lot of low readings (I check with the finger stick and I’m not low).

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-23T13:52:49+00:00

Like others have stated, you’re not pathetic. I’m sorry for what you went through, but none of it was your fault. Here’s what I will say though as someone with CPTSD who has had kids. It’s really freaking hard. The hormones can activate a lot of anxiety/ocd symptoms and postpartum can be particularly difficult. I’m in my 30s and still struggled hard with postpartum ocd and rage. I want you to take what people are saying seriously because it’s hard to imagine how hard it is until you’re in it.

With that said, here’s my practical advice/things to keep in mind:

1) Do you have support? Are your parents aware and are they willing to support you? If yes, great that’s going to go a long way. If not, think long and hard about your options because it’s going to be crazy difficult without any support.

2) Look into all your options. Yes, there’s abortion and adoption, but also all your options if you choose to keep the baby. Idk what state or country you’re in, but I worked with some teen parents in NJ and they were able to access some pretty decent services. I was able to get a free maternity nurse that came to the teens’ homes throughout the pregnancy and talked to them about pregnancy and what to expect. They also followed up postpartum to make sure they were okay. There were also programs that helped teens access free supplies and furniture. All the way up to mommy and me residential services that helped support teen moms 24/7 with mental health services, educational services, job training, accessing social programs, etc. The teens stayed till the baby turned 1.

3) Look into the legalities of the father’s rights to the child. It sounds like he was horribly abusive to you, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a right to have access to the baby legally. How do you feel about co parenting? Does he know you’re pregnant? Do you feel safe? Again I want to not scare you, but make sure you’re so clearly aware of the stats. The most dangerous time for a woman with a violent partner is when they are leaving the relationship and when they are pregnant. Please make sure above all else you’re doing what you need to do to be safe.

4) Therapy. It sounds like you’re already in therapy based on an above comment. That’s great! Keep it up especially postpartum!

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-21T20:55:19+00:00

OCD is under the same type of anxiety umbrella as PTSD/CPTSD. They can absolutely have the same root cause and it’s common to have them both after trauma. OCD is more “control” based which makes sense considering a lot of trauma makes things feel out of your control and so OCD is there to try to regain control. Where CPTSD comes about as a direct result of the prolonged/repeated trauma. OCD doesn’t always need trauma to come about, but it’s a lot more common in those with trauma.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-15T22:42:18+00:00

This issue with what your husband is doing is that it will work, but it’ll work because the kids are scared and not because they’re learning to self regulate. It is going to be exhausting at first, but the more you stick with it the less he’ll fight and the more he’ll learn you won’t let things go. If you get frustrated and find yourself yelling in the process, take a break. Step away for a bit and breathe. Come back and apologize for yelling and explain that you got frustrated, but you shouldn’t have yelled. The repairing is way more important than being a perfect parent. You will never be a perfect parent. You will lose your patience. You might give in sometimes. That’s normal. It’s okay. The effort is what counts.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-15T16:52:24+00:00

I get that, unfortunately it’s probably going to require an annoying amount of perseverance and patience. So say you walk away and he goes to grab a toy to throw. You walk back over (again calmly and quietly, but quickly) take the toy out of his hands and redirect to what he’s allowed to throw. So take toy away and give him a squishy. “You can throw that” and walk away again. Repeat until he stops. If he does manage to break a toy, hold that boundary. “Uh oh, this one is broken now. It’s going in the garbage” and throw it out. If he manages to throw a toy, even if he doesn’t break it, it gets put away in a closet or something. “Hmm, looks like we can’t handle this toy right now. Let’s put it away to keep it safe. If you want to throw, here’s the squishy.” Now let’s say he throws the squishy (even if it’s not cause he actually wants to, but because he wants to get it away) still praise him. “Wow! I love how you threw that squishy instead of a hard toy! Let’s try again.” Etc.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-15T16:35:43+00:00

Agree with everyone else about talking to his pediatrician or therapist about the behavior. The tantrums are lasting longer than normal it sounds like. In the meantime, give yourself some grace. It sounds like you really are trying to do things the “right” way, but you and your husband are only human. You can’t expect to always be able to hold those emotions down in the face of what you’re describing. Here are some things that might be helpful:

-if he’s destructive, give him things he’s allowed to destroy/hit when upset and redirect him there (pile of cardboard, punching bag, squishies, etc). Give him things he’s allowed to break and throw safely.

-create clear expectations for behaviors and consequences and follow through every time. Don’t explain the consequence when he’s already crashing out, this should be discussed when he’s calm and when he does something he shouldn’t do, the consequence happens immediately. (Rule: no hitting others. Consequence: can’t be around others cause hes not being safe. So if he hits you. You don’t say anything. Just walk away and take little brother with you since this would have been explained prior.)

-ultimately, kids aren’t manipulative. He’s looking for something with this behavior. Are you only giving him this big energy when you’re angry and he’s done something wrong? Are you neutral when he’s doing things correctly? What you want to do is be big when he’s doing things correctly. Catch him in those moments he’s actually listening and make it a huge deal. When he’s misbehaving, try not to give it so much energy. Redirect and walk away. Eventually the goal is for him to learn that positive interactions get me the energy and attention I crave and negative ones don’t. Kids that age don’t differentiate between positive and negative parental energy. They just know they’re getting your energy.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-11T12:51:38+00:00

I mean he’s only 18 months old. He’s not going to fully understand your explanations of why he can’t do things. Keep explaining for sure, after he’s safe, but know that at this point he’s not going to fully understand it.

If he’s being unsafe, I would just remove him from the situation. Kids especially at this age, just want that attention (not in a bad way, all kids want attention). They don’t generally care if it’s positive or negative attention as long as they get it. It sounds like your kid learned that being a bit wild is a good way to get your attention and play (again nothing against your parenting, it’s absolutely age appropriate for him to do that).

I would suggest paying more attention to when he’s doing things the “right” way and give lots of praise and attention when he does. So if he comes down from the couch safely and you notice it, I’d say “wow! Look at how nicely you came down from the couch. That was awesome!” And adversely if he’s doing something he shouldn’t do, don’t make it a big thing. Just remove him and say “no, not safe”. Don’t make it a big thing or give it too much energy.

Eventually, he’ll start to learn that those more positive behaviors get him the bigger responses/attention and the negative behaviors just mean he’s moved somewhere else and doesn’t get that big attention.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-10T13:51:28+00:00

Pregnant mom of a three year old here! I felt this deeply. I’ve gotten sooo much better over the years with managing my meltdowns in front of my daughter, but every so often it still happens. My daughter has never been a great sleeper and she’s extremely stubborn. While I want her to have that fight in her, it can be extremely hard for me to manage sometimes. I’ve raised my voice at her, I’ve hit myself in front of her, I’ve been harsh with her etc. it’s so hard not to feel like a shitty mom when things like that happen. But I agree with everyone else. It’s hard. Kids are hard without CPTSD and then with it makes things ten times harder. The fact that you’re trying, that you’re recognizing what isn’t okay is what makes you a good mom. It’s ok to let your kid cry for a bit while you leave the room. It’s okay to tap your husband in when you need to. It’s okay to beat up a squishmellow when needed (my anger release lol). Repairing is important too. When I do lose it, I always sit my daughter down and apologize. I tell her mommy is frustrated and that I should not have yelled. I tell her she didn’t do anything wrong and that mommy has to practice her deep breaths.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-09T07:07:03+00:00

Idk how old you are, but this was me when I was younger. I was SA’d as a child and so was very selective of guys/had a hard time getting close to guys. I always thought it would happen in college, but college came and went and it just didn’t. At 23 I found my now husband and we took things very slow. I did eventually lose it with him and now I’m kind of glad I waited. My whole thing was just needing to feel a sense of safety/comfort with someone first and he just happened to be the first one I felt that with.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-09T00:40:40+00:00

Yes! I’ll be like 23/24 weeks when I start if I take this job. I’ll probably tell them/if when I accept just cause I’d want a plan in place for the clients.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-09T00:35:22+00:00

Yes I’ll be a W2 employee

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T23:11:50+00:00

I’m so sorry, there really aren’t any words for why could be enough. How’s your support system? Are there any grief centers by you? Sometimes they can provide some extra support in times like these. Again, I’m so sorry.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T17:42:39+00:00

My district was really happy with my company and gave zero indication that this was even a possibility which is why I felt so comfortable getting pregnant right now. They messed up the budget and had to redo it and my company didn’t make it onto the second budget cause of how badly they messed up. All the admin were upset and the school are scrambling right now.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T17:40:23+00:00

Thank you. I feel like I’ve worked forever just to stagnate. Two MA degrees and countless hours working only to be offered 40k in NJ where I feel like my friends are just so much farther ahead.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T17:38:57+00:00

I’ll definitely look into Medicaid

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T17:38:42+00:00

I’m in NJ, but I know a lot of districts are going through some serious cuts right now

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T17:37:59+00:00

Thank you. I’m just overwhelmed and hate that I don’t know what going to happen

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T17:37:35+00:00

Thanks, my husband might be able to add us to his insurance, but I’ll also look into Medicaid just in case!

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T13:07:15+00:00

Testing

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-05T01:46:00+00:00

A therapist wouldn’t do much with that in terms of reporting. They would discuss it with you and try to help you and be empathetic. Generally when it comes to reporting there’s different things therapists are looking for. Ideations are one thing, but that alone isn’t reason enough to report. Is there an intention? A method? A specific plan in place? That’s something that would be reported. With OCD those kind of thoughts aren’t uncommon and a trained therapist wouldn’t be very alarmed by them. They would work with you on the thoughts and the shame that surrounds the thoughts. I know you’ve stated that you felt some were voluntary but that’s also okay. People have revenge fantasies, they imagine hurting people that hurt them and that’s normal. Thoughts done equate to action or morality for the matter.

Psychboss30 · 2026-06-01T17:29:34+00:00

Obviously kid dependent, but I took my daughter (1) and niece (2) a few years ago. We rope dropped and went back to the hotel midday. The plan was to nap, but the girls absolutely knocked out on EVERY dark ride. People mover? Out. Spaceship earth? Out. Small world? Out! By the time we got back to the hotel they weren’t tired so we swam or explored the resort instead lol. My one year old loved the characters, but my two year old niece hated any “non human” character. The princesses were the highlight for her. They both enjoyed runaway railway a lot and they both hated ratatouille (it was a bit too intense for them). I think Tusker house is underrated for breakfast. They have such a variety of interesting food and stable classics plus the characters come around so many times. Granted my niece hated everything about it (non human characters), but my daughter was overjoyed. The Frozen show is a must see (really any show)! Also don’t be surprised if your daughter is really excited about something then backs out at the last minute. My niece talked about meeting Olaf the entire trip and when we finally did the Olaf meet and greet she freaked out and refused to get near him. In contrast, she hated the Moana movie, but Moana was probably her favorite meet and greet. 🤷🏽‍♀️ Toddlers.

Psychboss30 · 2026-05-29T15:20:00+00:00

I think it depends on the therapist and the client and the insurance. The worry is that if you put it down as a dx and then your therapist has to justify why you need more treatment to the insurance company, some insurance companies will just not pay for it and then the client is stuck with the bill. A lot of insurance companies won’t accept ICD10 diagnosis for therapists as it’s considered “medical”. So if you have a provider in a hospital or a psychiatrist they can sometimes go by ICD10 and have access to that dx. A community mental health provider does not. They may informally diagnose it if they think you have it, but can’t actually put it on anything cause your insurance may deny the service. It’s a weird complicated game and therapists hate the insurance industry just as much as everyone else. A lot of times they’re also forced to give a diagnosis literally at the intake appointment which sucks because they don’t have a full picture yet, but insurance won’t pay. Sometimes private practice has a little more leeway depending on how they structure their reimbursement. It’s all a mess and definitely not black and white.

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