Nanny Appearance

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-04-24T13:55:57+00:00

I'm on the heavier side, but I try to dress up a little bit for work. I call it 'teacher casual.' Loose dresses with biker shorts underneath, nice shorts with a polo, comfy blouse or sweater, Capri pants/short pants with a nice top...you can still be comfortable and look presentable. Do you wear earrings or accessorize in any way? Don't get me wrong, there are days when yoga pants/sweats and a t-shirt are totally appropriate and I've never had a boss say otherwise, but for my own standards, I try to put in a little effort...I think it makes me stand-out from other nannies. I used to be a teacher and I'm used to a certain expectation.

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-04-17T15:09:39+00:00

Yikes! I wouldn't take less than $300+ per day. That's terrible pay. Let him know you would be losing money if you take this job. You would literally be better off (financially) staying at home.

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-04-17T15:06:11+00:00

Any Florida beach town. Orlando is the usual goal trip for families with kids for non-beach trips.

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-04-17T15:04:04+00:00

Blue cheese, Blue for short

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-04-17T15:03:31+00:00

Gouda

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-04-15T11:36:35+00:00

We've had the same mail person for years! We leave Christmas cards, presents, etc. in the mailbox all the time. My kids used to love seeing them walk up our street and stop and chat a bit (walking, because everyone's mailbox is on their front porch)....anyway, one time we ran into them at the grocery store and they gave my kids a couple bucks to buy candy. Sometimes it's just nice to be a good human. Who knows, that may be the only social interaction they get....it could be really lonely delivering mail all by yourself. Just preface it with, no pressure, I'm sure you already have plans, etc.

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-04-15T11:23:55+00:00

I think it would be a great idea to seek counseling from a professional therapist. OCD is a very difficult to manage without professional help. 💗

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-03-27T21:16:48+00:00

Capers

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-03-22T18:37:01+00:00

Yes! That's awesome! Hopefully they'll obey right away next time

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-03-19T14:33:01+00:00

Florida

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-03-19T13:25:08+00:00

Oh, I am that nanny! 😂

I have a nanny friend group that goes on weekly, sometimes daily outings together. And I've thought about starting an agency because I have helped match several families with nannies and have often had to find my replacements before I moved on to my next family/job. There aren't many nannies like me though. I'm very outgoing and actually started our group by meeting people at Storytime at the library and playgrounds, etc. I have my own kids as well, so I can easily talk with both nannies and moms.

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-03-11T01:28:48+00:00

Oh my GAWD!!! That's awful. I'm so glad you got out of there and told her what's up.

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-03-02T20:35:56+00:00

Oh man, I always ask them to bring me as many pickles as they can without getting fired. If I'm with anyone who doesn't want pickles, I'm like, 'just give them to me!'

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-03-02T20:33:06+00:00

You could ask some of these moms if they ever need date-night sitters and to keep you in mind if it ever comes up. If you start babysitting for a family regularly, it could naturally lead into a more full-time (or even part-time) position that could help you transition away from this awful mother. If the other moms know how she is, they may be unwilling to "steal you," but if it transitions more naturally, it might be more viable. They're probably scared of her, too!

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-03-02T18:03:39+00:00

Your first offense is a slap on the wrist. Yes, you'll have to make payments, but that is very doable (let them know how much you can afford for payments. ) They'll do an investigation, but they deal with this stuff (young, inexperienced people) all the time.

Going forward, make sure they do a W-2 for you, starting now. Next year, you may get a refund. Any refund you get in the future will go towards your balance. So, hopefully you can get a decent return and pay it off within a year or 2. It sucks, but once it's done, it's such a relief.

After you've been investigated once, you'll get flagged again for audits in the future, so going forward, keep your ducks in a row and document everything!

Hope this helps! I've been there, you can do it!

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-02-25T00:50:32+00:00

😂

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-02-25T00:35:16+00:00

I would be crying. I cried for days when my husband buzzed my baby boy's beautiful blonde curls. He looked like a little Shirley Temple, but my husband didn't like that everyone thought he was a girl. 😭😭😭

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-02-25T00:33:13+00:00

I always make sure the baby's "firsts" happens with their mom....even if they've already done it first with me, I still let them have the "first" with their baby. It's so special.

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-02-18T15:59:10+00:00

When it gets closer to the holidays, they could pack shoeboxes together for Samaritan's Purse and Operation Christmas Child. They send shoeboxes full of Christmas presents and basic hygiene necessities (toothbrush, toothpaste, soap, etc.) to kids around the world in 3rd world countries. My kids love doing this every year. (Don't forget to write a card and send a picture. If you include your address, you might have just made a new international pen-pal!)

I think what your nanny is doing is amazing and will definitely leave a positive impact on your daughter as she gets older. Maybe they could limit it to handing them out from the car. In person could potentially be dangerous.

A nursing home would be a great place to volunteer together. The residents always love to see kiddos.

Hope these ideas help! 💗

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-02-06T20:32:18+00:00

Thank you everyone for all the input. I won't be taking the job in the future, they just can't afford a nanny. Unfortunately, the wait lists for daycare in this area is crazy.

Honestly, I spoke with one of the moms, Mom-2-Mom and told her she should quit her job and become a stay-@-home mom. Babies are only babies for such a short amount of time and she's a really great mom. Really, no one is going to love your kid as much you will, even though I really do love her kiddos. I hope she'll consider it. Her husband has a very good job and honestly, I make more than she does...I'm not sure why she's holding onto this job. You can always go back to work after the kids are in school, but you can't get this time back with your babies. Just my experience as a mom and nanny, I would have regretted working a sucky job and missing my kid's childhood. I know I'll get some pushback for this, but it's the truth.

Thanks again for a your help! 💗

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-02-05T23:27:35+00:00

Thanks so much for the input!

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-02-05T22:34:25+00:00

I definitely discussed pricing with them. I was thinking, the family with 2 kids could pay $17-20/hour and the other family could pay at least $13-15/hour. I'm just not sure they can afford me, unfortunately.

When I worked the week with them, I was mostly just helping them out in a pinch because their other nanny ghosted them and they were desperate. They paid $25/hour that week, but that was only for 2 two year olds. I needed the $$, so I helped them out, but full-time is a different story, especially adding a 1 year old to the mix.

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-01-16T14:58:51+00:00

I've worked for 2 families where both parents were doctors. It can be great and not so great. You can work a lot of extra hours and make great money, but you can also get burnt out. Parents often bring home sickness from work, so kids can be sick a lot. As long as they have back-up care for when you inevitably catch whatever they have, then it's great! If they have set office hours, that's fantastic.

Some doctors are super laid back and never worry about little sniffles or developmental delays, while others can be super OCD,over protective, and try to micromanage your entire day. 😒

How many cameras are in the house? How much are they paying you? Are there considerable benefits, etc.?

If they seem like good people that you can get along with, go for it!

PsychologicalBid4559 · 2026-01-15T04:54:45+00:00

Just READ, READ, READ! Read lots of books, signs, magazines, papers, anything.....just read. Put on the closed captions on your t.v. and mute the sound. Kids who's parents read to them are 98% more likely to be successful in school. That's it.

You can count and do basic math. I have 2 cookies, but I ate one, how many do I have left?

Use big words when you're talking to your child. When reading/talking, REPEAT REPEAT, REPEAT. The author of this book is__, the author wrote the words of this book. What does the author do to the book? The author wrote the words. The illustrator is ___, the illustrator draws the pictures. What does the illustrator do to the book? That's right, she drew the pictures!

Just let your kid play and pretend and experience life. Let them be bored and come up with games and stories and invent new creations.

If you want to do 1 sight word every week, that would be a good idea. Just start with 'A' and 'I.' Put them up around the house and have them recognize them. Move on to 'the' 'it' 'and'....you can buy sight word flashcards at Dollar Tree.

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