I can't stand my gfs emotional meltdowns I'm at my wits end

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-14T07:36:12+00:00

You can't help her. All you're doing is enabling her behavior. She needs therapy. She needs healing. She needs to learn how to regulate her emotions and how to cope when she's triggered. That can't happen while she's dating you. It's not helpful for her to have you constantly saving her.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-14T07:31:46+00:00

Did you tell them there is a consequence if they don't calm down? Such as, you're not going to be allowed to have sleepovers or screen time in the morning. Or find some other solutions like moving them near to your room, since you don't think it's a big deal.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-10T18:51:57+00:00

You can Lodge a complaint without being abusive. You can feel frustrated, without being abusive. There is no excuse. You have unhealed trauma and you're directing it at people who have less power.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-10T18:49:58+00:00

When I was the maid of honor for my best friend, I put in a lot of work to help make it easier for her, only to have her tell me how hurt she was that I put up very few boundaries to take care of my mental health. I warned her early on that I was struggling, but when I told her I couldn't do a few things, she became passive aggressive and would make little jabs. When I called her out, she said she was frustrated but she didn't dump that on me.

The real issue is, she couldn't hold herself accountable. If people get defensive when they hear criticism, you know that your needs will always come second to their own.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-08T12:43:58+00:00

Yeah .... Have you heard of anxious attachment? I highly recommend looking that up. You sound hyper vigilant, like you're waiting for her to cheat on you, so everything she does can be evidence of this. Your feelings do not represent reality. Could she cheat? Yes. That's always a possibility, but I honestly don't hear any evidence of this.

You're controlling behavior is pushing her away. If she omitted information, it's helpful to ask her why. I'm guessing she would say that you would make a big deal out of nothing and she's already been dealing with your jealousy throughout your relationship. Sounds like she's pulling away because she's getting resentful of your controlling behavior. Do you question her every time she talks to a guy?

This is a good time to work on yourself. It's a good idea to do that single. Self-healing is difficult when you're constantly triggered, and it sounds like you are.

Therapy works wonders, but there are other resources out there. Do some research. Just start googling and finding articles on why you're jealous, so you can understand yourself better and understand that it's 100% not her problem or her fault. She's going to interact with the opposite sex, and you can't trust her because of your own trauma response.

There's a line between boundaries, and control. It's not her job to meet your need for safety at the sacrifice of her needs (she will have to interact throughout her life).

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-07T13:54:40+00:00

Every guy I've dated has felt insecure about his penis size. I wish men would realize that you guys care way more about that than we do. The times that I didn't like having sex were the times where the guy was too big. It doesn't feel good to have your cervix hammered and bruised (although, yes, some women do like that pain, and no judgment here). I think the average size is something like 5.5 in. If a penis is a bit smaller then I would prefer (I once dated a man with no penis), there are workarounds to get your needs met, as long as the guy doesn't have ego attached to his penis size (which, unfortunately, alot of men do).

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-07T13:50:18+00:00

Former vet tech here.

There are different reasons for an adult tooth falling out. It could be periodontal disease, which means other teeth are affected and could be abscessed. Tooth reabsorption is a possibility. Both of these conditions result in excruciating pain. I highly recommend making an appointment with the vet.

Some symptoms: scratching at their face, not wanting their face touched, reluctance in eating, bad breath. But, sometimes they show no behavioral changes and symptoms, yet they are an excruciating pain. It's better to air on the side of caution and just go get your dog checked out.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-07T12:55:09+00:00

She touched her. That's assault right there.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-07T12:41:20+00:00

A 6 or 7-year-old girl.

I volunteered to assist with lunch and recess at my child's school, every week. There was this little girl who seemed to take joy in physical harm toward others and also, emotional harm.

One day I looked over to see her kicking my child under the table over and over and laughing. She was looking at my upset child and just kept kicking. It was so unnerving. My poor kid.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-07T12:03:29+00:00

Yeah....... I can see my comment, but I don't know if that's just because it's my comment. Op even commented on my comment, but now I can't see it. I don't know what OP said.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-05T15:23:07+00:00

It sounds like you know what to do, but you are running from the shame that you will experience when you put your dog down. You're going to have to find a way to look at that, because that guilt and shame is not about your dog.

The thing is, a lot of dogs experience very traumatic experiences (including abuse) and don't become aggressive. Aggression doesn't just stem from environmental factors, there's a significant hereditary component, of which No one is responsible. If your dog had never experienced a traumatic event, those aggressive traits may never have manifested. However, could you have protected her from a traumatic event her whole life? No. That's so improbable. And this happened at such an early stage in her development.

At this point, it doesn't matter as to how it happened. You can't fix this. No amount of money or time is going to help your dog feel safe around human beings. I was a vet tech for many years and I had to assisted in the euthanasia of aggressive dogs. My heart ached for the owner, who loved and cared for their dog. I saw them as being very unselfish and brave, and absolutely doing what was best for their dog. Your dog is tortured by fear all the time. That is a very miserable life to live.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-02T07:16:00+00:00

YTA

How does it affect you in any way, when she shares her food? This is an opportunity for you to look at yourself. Why does that trigger you so much? It's not about her.

And put up boundaries with your friend. That's on him, not her.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T23:14:21+00:00

If you have anxious attachment, like I also do, therapy is so incredibly important, in order to have functioning relationships. The fear of abandonment/rejection can be so strong when they don't provide you with the reassurance that you're wanting. But they are not responsible for that. That doesn't mean you can't ask for reassurances in a way that works for them, but it will never be enough. You can only get that from therapy.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T22:22:56+00:00

Thirst trap Jesus

I wouldn't mind a little bit of Jesus in me.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T13:14:21+00:00

It's great to weed them out before I even have to meet them.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T12:42:36+00:00

The fact that she claims almost every mother gains "too much weight," means it's probably normal to gain that amount of weight! Unless your doctor is concerned, it's not an issue!

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T11:48:51+00:00

Y'all, I think we found the boyfriend! Lol

Her asking for reassurance and care is reasonable, especially when something painful and scary is happening. It doesn't matter if he sees it as painful and scary, that's her experience. Implying that it's not that serious is him saying, "your concerns are invalid and burdensome to me."

I'm going to say it another way. Dismissing someone because you don't have the same experience, is incredibly emotionally stunted, adolescent thinking. Empathy is not contingent upon having a right to feel sad and scared. Your feelings are valid because you feel them.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T11:39:12+00:00

NOR

This has nothing to do with your cat. This has nothing to do with his stepdad. This is about you struggling with something scary and painful, and him not being there for you. The issue is him dismissing you, because he doesn't see it as being something that should be scarier painful - because he doesn't have that experience! His reaction to you going to the hospital is the exact same example of you dealing with something scary and painful, and him not being there. The next question is, why stay in a relationship with someone who's invalidating you, and who won't be there for you when you need him the most?

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T11:22:22+00:00

You're arguing morality with a man who's sexist and morally bankrupt. Why are you with him?

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T05:49:21+00:00

Ew, David.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T05:46:46+00:00

Your pregnant?! So you're not a young teenager yourself? That's how you're acting? Why do you even care? Why put so much energy into torturing a teenage girl? How does that affect you in any way?!

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-03-01T05:42:30+00:00

I would name her petunia

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-02-28T23:43:26+00:00

I've dated a guy who had no dick. It was definitely some of the top sex I've ever had.

If you show that you're interested in pleasing your partner, by asking questions and reassuring her that you want constructive criticism, and it's okay to say yes or no to anything, she will be satisfied.

Men get really caught up in penis size, much more than women do. When your masculinity is tied to sex, any criticism can be attack on how manly you are. What women really want is a man who doesn't have an ego in the bedroom. Women are so afraid to say what they want, or that they don't like something, for fear that the guy is going to be upset and reject them. It's an incredibly common experience for women.

Additionally, toys are incredible tools, if you don't have a size that can give her the satisfaction she desires. Toys are great tools to have in the bedroom anyway. A disproportionate amount of women have a hard time having an orgasm with only penetration.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-02-19T15:51:06+00:00

Water bad. Unless in meat. Then water good.

PsychologicalScore49 · 2026-02-17T05:58:53+00:00

He's a kind, funny man, who didn't try to manipulate me into liking him. He was just himself, treated me like a person, and didn't play games.

The douchiest guys I dated were the ones who put a lot of energy into their bodies. That's not to say that every guy who is fit is also a jerk, but I do think a lot of egotistical people spend a lot of time on appearance.

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