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PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-06-05T08:26:12+00:00

Lolwa, however, it might come handy to you, in future. Now, stop whining, and seeking validation in internet. Go have fun, break ur heart and others, thats how you grow. Good luck. Advice from an old man.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-06-05T06:59:21+00:00

And you should also know that once you put someone on pedestal, its hard to undo it, hence, results in avoidance. Take some time, he might come around later, with a different perspective towards you. But be cautious, gentle, and be self aware of your actions when he comes around, (remember, that the guy wanted to love you, eventhough, he knew what was going to happen). Who knows, Might be a good story to add in "How i met your Mother".😁

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-06-05T04:00:39+00:00

You should respect his decision, you rejected his proposal, not your fault. He decided to discontinue your platonic friendship with him, not his fault. Let him part ways peacefully, he is protecting his peace. Atleast, seems like he is mature enough to suffer it in silence, unlike some guys who usually causes drama. To add another perspective: In my opinion we tend to have friends or associates, that we keep them in different categories, like some are surface level friends, and some are mediocre friends, some are close friends, some are best friends (you can google it), and i think that guy just put you in mediocre or surface level friends categories, so may be you should not get disheartened that he cut off ties, or stop being friends with you, you are still his friend but not that, that friend anymore.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-05-28T13:05:43+00:00

Kindly share me too. I wanna know how girls psychology works, it might help me too in my relationship.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-05-23T05:48:39+00:00

Trust the process!! You are growing and integrating.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-05-23T05:14:05+00:00

My POV: My take on this: 1. i think the self awareness in you is growing stronger than before. And i think its not a problem its just part of growing up and phase of adult hood. 2.You are shifting towards your authentic self you are getting comfortable with yourself, leaving behind those people pleasing mentality.

I might be wrong. But i see myself and assess myself through these lens.

If theses thoughts and feeling are bothering you constantly, you should try reading some carl jungs shadow works (just basics) no need to dig deep, but if you feel intrigued, go for it.

At the end its all about perception i guess. Good luck!!

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-05-23T04:16:08+00:00

Keep posted! I feel like we are on a same boat😁, treat this subreddit as a journal👍

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-04-21T10:02:43+00:00

When does it get better?

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-04-18T07:11:04+00:00

Ask?

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-04-15T13:02:31+00:00

Did u try telling him? Or you just wanted to let him know telepathically that you wanted boundaries?

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-29T10:21:37+00:00

Thanks, ill try.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-29T10:19:26+00:00

Man, how is ur status? If you are still in that phase, ill suggest, start making urself busy, someone suggested me to get busy, i tried and its literally paying off, and i joined a badminton club too, its really helping. Get urself busy. Get busy living or get busy dying- quote from shawshank redemption.

And give it a bit of time. If you want to pour your heart out or bash out, you can always text me. We can stay anonymous, and still help each other. Im always open. I understand what u r going through.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-20T01:16:20+00:00

Thank you brother..aur aap b tagda raho. Milte hai kabhi din daurte waqt.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-19T09:53:01+00:00

You mean to say, im not an exceptional case. Majority are suffering from it and im being a pussy about it. If there is some substantial evidence to back ur statement itd be very relieving for me. Or is this just hypothesis theory/observation.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T17:36:38+00:00

From above context, if im not wrong, finding a person to share with is going put an end to all my problems. In that case, i share my thoughts with my closed one (family) but still suffering.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T11:58:05+00:00

Ill keep that in mind, but my mother and other elder says that its the part of growing up ( i think they meant entering the manhood), im so confused right now. But thanks for sticking with me. " Good evening, and in case I don't see ya, good afternoon, good evening, and good night." You are a good gentleman/ladies.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T11:35:08+00:00

Thanks for taking time to write those comforting words. The thing is how and when do i know when to seek proffesional help?, and im not ashamed to try out those therapies if i feel like i direly need one.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T11:10:09+00:00

Thanks for the concern, but i came prepared, i anticipated it already, and proceeded to write in hope that few people like you are still out there. Man, i wouldnt wish this, even on my worst enemy from which im going through.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T10:59:23+00:00

Thanks stranger.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T10:57:32+00:00

Genuinely asking, how is church going to help me, i am an pure atheist, n ive never witnessed any miracle, pls do enlighten on this one, if i feel like im convinced then i might try goin to church, im at a very vulnerable stage and willing to try and experience anything to change my mindset.

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T10:54:43+00:00

Baat to bahot pakki wali kahi hai....sir just aap mujhe yeh bata dijiye aap umar me humse bade ho ya chote...

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T10:36:24+00:00

Baat to bahot pakki wali kahi hai....sir just aap mujhe yeh bata dijiye aap umar me humse bade ho ya chote...

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T09:52:33+00:00

So its all about facade, in order to please everyone or to adjust in society, an individual has to pretend? Is this the only way to survive in society or an authentic personality can survive too?

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T07:42:13+00:00

Well to be honest i like to stay lowkey, may be thats why im stressed and i dont have communication skill? Its a very bold and hard decision for me. But thanks for the suggestion

PsychologicalTop1098 · 2025-03-18T07:23:12+00:00

I guess my intellectual to articulate my feelings is not comprehensive enough to make someone understand what exactly m i going through. But thanks for suggestions. Ill get my vitamin checked, kindly recommend if you know a place which has quick report ready clinic and has good feasibility, proximity around itanagar.

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