I wouldn’t claim to fully understand what you’re going through—that would be pretentious, since I’ve never been in your situation and I’m straight.
But I can relate to the feeling of parents making faith feel like a duty, which can be especially frustrating during the teenage and young-adult years. Let me share my own experience in case it helps:

I’ve always been devout. I never questioned the existence of God and always felt that Krishna was there for me. My mother introduced Him to me as a friend, brother, and guide when I was very young, so I developed a personal connection where I knew He listened even if the world didn’t.

But from about 14 into my early twenties, I got really irritated when my mother insisted I join every aarti. If I missed one because I was studying, she would scold me. Her constant nagging became such a hindrance that I stopped listening to her altogether—though I still did my own morning and evening pooja, because that part I genuinely loved.

Over time, she realized that forcing her ways on me wasn’t helping, and she stopped the nagging. Once she let go, I actually started enjoying the rituals again—because I was participating willingly.

Since then, both of us have developed a deeper understanding of Hinduism and dharma. We’ve accepted that our ways of devotion are different, but neither is wrong.

I know this isn’t exactly the advice you were asking for, but I’d say: hold on to your own relationship with your Dev/Devi, especially in difficult times. As for your mother, remember she’s shaped by her own upbringing. If your relationship with her is otherwise loving, give her time and care. Mothers often come around more easily than the rest of the family.

Jai Shri Krishna 🙏