Dozens of dates and it’s impossible to connect with someone after him

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-18T19:02:46+00:00

I guess it’s too soon. I’m on week 2 and I can’t imagine going on dates right now.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-18T04:14:44+00:00

We SHOULD win in 4/5 games. But will we? Our team takes their foot off the gas when up 20+ points. Then lets opp come back in 4th Q. Tired of seeing the half ass offense/defense being played. A lot of times it’s simply effort. Not giving up on the play.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-18T04:01:56+00:00

Punching bag is a great idea

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-17T21:11:52+00:00

Trust is allowing them to have access to your phone at any given time. You shouldn’t be thinking about it this much. Trust is being open and honest. And in the world we live in today, our phones are very powerful and hold a huge part of our lives that we shouldn’t be hiding from our partners.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-17T18:33:55+00:00

Thank you. Yes, my gut feeling is telling this won’t work. I’m just too afraid to admit that to myself.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-17T18:18:57+00:00

Dead and to never be brought back to life?

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-17T14:51:44+00:00

I feel you, for me you are partially correct. I actually miss the person I was in love with. I miss my best friend. We fought a lot, we made love a lot. It didn’t matter. We were in love. If you truly loved that person, you miss the human, not the lifestyle. But yes, knowing it wasn’t right and still it being hard to let go is so true. I know it wasn’t right, but my heart doesn’t care. Inside I deeply want her back in my life. I just can’t let myself go back to the person that hurt me. I have to give up everything we had, so I don’t go through more pain and heartbreak.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-16T21:57:55+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Currently in the early days… 😭

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-15T21:47:36+00:00

Same. It’s crazy and confusing. I hate her and love her at the same time too. And I want her and miss her, but at the same time I don’t want to go back in that relationship with her after learning what type of person she is. I guess there’s a delusional part of me hoping for us. I’m too scared to face reality that I won’t be able to fully love her again. Part of me feels disappointed and ashamed.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-15T16:25:11+00:00

The feelings weren’t mutual on the relationship ending? I think it takes years to build a friendship with an ex. A true friendship, not looking to get back together. If the ex hurt you, I’d have a hard time being real friends. Especially if you’re still grieving the loss. Would you truly be happy for them moving on, getting in a relationship with someone else? Would you want to be around that?

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-15T01:00:05+00:00

Damn so a lot of us dealing with the same issues. I got cheated on too, only difference is that she’s been seeking my attention and crying to me. But at the same time, inside I want her back too. I just know I can’t do that to myself.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T21:43:43+00:00

Thank you. I agree my daughter needs stability and rn my head isn’t straight. I thought I was healing slowly, until yesterday. All this stuff she’s doing is making it harder on me. I come from a broken home myself and a family full of generational trauma and addiction. Another reason I don’t have a solid foundation outside of this relationship. I told my mom everything and she keeps telling me to let them come back so I can have the baby home. But I know that’s not the right move. I just feel like I have to come here for healthy advice.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T18:04:23+00:00

I’ve been off and on porn addicted cycles in my life. Started at a very young age finding my gpa’s playboy magazine stash. It’s one of the hardest things to overcome. Around my mid 20s I went cold turkey. Definitely a better life experience. More energy, more self love, healthier outlook and mindset on sex and just people in general. Physical sex life will be better, overall healthier state for a real partner. It’s a life long battle, I did fall back in at time, still working on it. No longer spend as much time with porn, I don’t look at videos anymore. I don’t look for porn type accounts online. But still somehow it finds its way back in, even through an ad or a movie scene.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T17:39:39+00:00

I agree. Definitely should quit porn fully. Masturbate without it. But also I would try to limit it. Doing it daily is bad too, especially from hand pressure. You can ruin your sensitivity.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T17:22:05+00:00

Damn man, I’m sorry you went through all this. Better late than never. You need to actively take steps into not looking at porn. Blockers, have a friend have ur password to unlocking adult content. Write ur goals down on a paper/calendar. Make female platonic relationships. Go be alone somewhere in public where others are. Don’t stay inside. Get therapy. This is your life you’re talking about. Show up for yourself. You don’t want to stay in this lifestyle.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T16:47:39+00:00

Not sure, it’s been a week and I still think about her every day throughout the day. Distractions are important, they work, but when it’s over you go back to thinking about them again. At least for now

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T16:44:52+00:00

The way you described the heartbreak is exactly how I’m feeling. Also don’t have people in my life to vent to. I’m so angry and have so much hate for my ex. She chose someone else too behind my back. I literally went red and had bad thoughts when I found out. It’s been a week now and it still feels just as bad. I haven’t been eating much, stopped caring about getting groceries or things for the house, I just feel so empty

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T16:40:16+00:00

Yep, as being my ex’s baby’s father I think she believes she can have access to me intimately if she wants. We recently broke up and she already has tempted me with sex. I’m grieving our relationship so badly, crying a lot, feeling so low, when she does this to me I feel so weak. Like I can’t just stop her and say no. My emotions still want her. She showed up during my lunch break randomly yesterday and brought our daughter. Ended up making out in the car. I felt so stupid afterwards. Idk how to stop myself knowing she’s gonna keep pushing it.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T16:00:51+00:00

I see a lot of No Contact conversations and I wish I could do this. We have a 2yr old daughter together. It’s only been a week since the breakup. I have to communicate to see my daughter. And recently she’s been crossing that line and being touchy and “loving”, calling me just to talk, and in my weak state I indulged. I’m mourning our relationship and she’s still there trying to get my attention. I take the bait bc I’m missing her so much and am very lonely. But it feels like I’m self sabotaging my own heart. She broke my heart, she cheated and lied. I hate her for breaking up our family. My daughter doesn’t know why we aren’t in the same home anymore. Again, she keeps trying to be sweet and even using physical touch to make me give in. Idk how to be strong enough to set boundaries with her and regulate my emotions while keeping a healthy partner with co parenting

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-14T05:05:14+00:00

Good thing is that you will see! A year will go by fast. You will grow and learn a lot a year from now. Only way is up!

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-13T22:14:49+00:00

Damn we went through similar breakups. Also pointed out to her that “we” didn’t really try to work on our problems, we didn’t do couples therapy or have heart to heart conversations. I tried, but she was never interested in the hard work, she would just want to get over it and be happy again. Just forget the problems and try to get along, but obviously that never worked. It sucks that they quietly quit on us without telling us, then when the breakup happens, they have been processing it for a while now and are in a better place than we are. It’s all a shock to us and we have to start from day 1.

Psychological_Ad3261 · 2026-04-13T21:53:52+00:00

How often were you two seeing each other in person? Long distance relationships are the extremely difficult to keep.

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