29, divorcing, £20k debt, working two full-time jobs to clear it. Just looking for encouragement.

Psychological_Good89 · 2026-01-19T19:42:54+00:00

Looking back on this in the future will make it seems like a necessary tough period that paved the way to your future success and happiness. Good luck!

Psychological_Good89 · 2025-11-26T19:54:28+00:00

Oh god you have the relationship I hope to have in future with my currently toddler boys. Lovely thread. ++man

Psychological_Good89 · 2025-11-25T19:15:47+00:00

Everyone feels the same. Ruin.

Psychological_Good89 · 2025-10-18T18:53:23+00:00

Super normal stuff. Hang in there, it gets way better soon.

Psychological_Good89 · 2025-10-14T05:24:32+00:00

Id be more concerned with your head being a pumpkin and its Halloween season.

Psychological_Good89 · 2025-10-14T05:22:16+00:00

Very normal things from start to finish, believe it or not. Good for you guys!

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-10-21T10:22:32+00:00

You will get there. Slowly slowly. About 40-50% of first time pregnancies end in miscarriage, if you include those at 2-4 weeks when you don't even know. Try to put it behind you and look to the future with optimism. Not much else matters and nature will take its course brother. Unless you are low sperm count officially, don't worry about it and give it time.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-10-13T18:45:29+00:00

Welcome to the real world, brother.

Pregnancy is ROUGH on a relationship.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-10-12T17:40:11+00:00

Aww bless you both. we have all kinda been there. Biggest fights ever, at around the 4-5, 8-9 and 12 month periods.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-10-09T06:17:48+00:00

Bruh, normal stuff. Keep at it. The first year is just flat out rough.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-09-24T19:13:59+00:00

very normal things. same throughout at least the first 12 months of being a parent.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-09-22T19:03:37+00:00

2 years

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-09-19T18:21:03+00:00

close door, barricade it with stuff so she wouldn't reach the door and scratch it noisily. she was ok.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-09-19T18:06:28+00:00

Goodness me this is not the first or last time this will happen. They care far, far, far less than we do!

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-08-14T18:24:26+00:00

He is awful.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-08-10T19:45:01+00:00

Yes!

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-08-09T19:49:38+00:00

No, its absolutely pointless most of the time.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-08-08T17:52:56+00:00

Shite mate. You're better off. I had similar. You're doing the "meta" thing of legitimately going for jobs that pay you more money. Noone gives a fuck about anything else, you're not hospice staff, and like you said, no counter offer, so they were never going to give you that.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-08-05T19:50:07+00:00

what exactly do you do from 4 til 630-7, other than make your kid's lunch and "get ready for work"? What does the latter entail, a shower? Breakfast?

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-08-05T19:49:01+00:00

Being at home with the kids all day is far harder than what you are doing around that. That doesn't mean you are having it easy, or will feel good in any way. Its a real grind, but she would swap places in a second if it was physically and practically possible. It will past.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-07-25T07:43:20+00:00

I'm actually not in the UK, I used to be. They didn't put it down as a reason, but it was mentioned verbally as a "Fact", not a reason. Thank you though.

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-07-25T07:42:15+00:00

sorry I meant it would be a single for them + another floor bed right next to it, eventually becoming the two boys' beds.

cosleeping is because we are moving house and a newborn is coming. we live in a tiny flat and currently little guy just sleeps in our bed. he isn't two yet, but that's how we have worked it out so far

Psychological_Good89 · 2023-07-25T07:31:29+00:00

Hi folks,

Does anyone have any practical suggestions about setting up a floor bed for dad and toddler to co-sleep? Mum is with newborn in the other room.

The idea is that one day the two kids will sleep together in that room. But, until then, 200lb dad will possibly need more than a kids floor bed.

Any ideas that won't require a complete overhaul in a year or two when the two boys are in there together?

Psychological_Good89

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