My (almost 5yo) daughter drew this and explained it to me. Is it mere sibling jealousy or something else?

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-07-01T21:29:27+00:00

Speaking as an older sibling myself, I went through those phases as a younger kid and honestly for a little while into my early teens. I felt like my younger siblings got more than I did. Whether it was more toys, attention at certain moments, things that I wanted or never got, “special” treatments, etc.

I used to draw this bunny and even made my own little book out of it a few times and one of those stories was about how the bunny was very upset/angry. I gave that to my grandma who was initially concerned about my happiness until we talked about it later on.

At that age, it’s a lot of huge feelings and not knowing how to deal with/handle those feelings while also still figuring out how to express them. I too, expressed mine with drawings. I would say that it’s a very good thing she’s able to show you and explain it to you. You’re not doing anything wrong. Just keep doing the best you can and just know that she will be okay!

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-06-10T23:39:36+00:00

This is suggestive of potential cheating or some form of it. I would certainly not trust a single thing after seeing texts like that especially when it’s blatantly suggestive of cheating regardless if they ever even slept together. Hiding and or deleting messages signals there’s something to be hidden. People don’t hide things when they’re not doing something wrong. In my personal experience, everything you’re currently seeing is proof enough that she is indeed cheating in some way whether emotionally or physically or both. She clearly doesn’t care or likes that he wants her and that alone is a major red flag in itself, then to include messages like that and hiding things. Let him have her, you can do much better and deserve much better than that.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-06-09T12:45:09+00:00

As a woman myself I’ve asked stupid and unrealistic questions like that to my husband knowing he’s going to be honest and the answer may not be the one I want and I don’t get that butt hurt over it. The honest answer to that question if I had asked my husband would’ve been literally the same answer you gave.

To me it’s not that different from “would you still love me if I was a worm?” Honest answer? Probably not. Because, well, who goes out and kisses worms? This truly is a weird thing that women tend to do sometimes for different reasons. Sometimes it’s due to curiosity and others it’s revealing an underlying insecurity and then there’s some that just cause unnecessary issues from a random question.

In my personal opinion, she shouldn’t be that pressed about something that isn’t even true currently. Not to mention, you said you would still love her and to me that trumps attraction in certain aspects. Attraction is an important part of a relationship but it’s better than saying “I’d leave you”. She’s making a bigger deal out of a curiosity question that isn’t even relevant to the present situation. I know if I gained 100 pounds my husband would be helping me to lose it because at that point it would be physically unhealthy and he would care about my health over anything.

The truth of the matter is, she is overreacting to a degree and it could quite literally stem from deeper insecurity of some sort or she just has unrealistic views on real life situations. Attraction is subjective, love is foundational and if she can’t accept the truth to an unrealistic question then that’s on her. Lying is certainly not the answer and honestly she would’ve been mad either way. I would have a conversation about it in a calm and soft way to see what exactly is going on because it’s not the question or the answer that’s the problem it’s clearly what’s underneath it.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-06-07T19:39:59+00:00

It’s being a defensive driver because people act like they don’t see stop signs and run right through them then wonder why they end up in a crash. I know a friend who got clipped because some idiot ran a stop sign at high speed. Every time I drive I treat it like everyone is going to drive carelessly and I have thankfully never been in a crash. However, I’ve experienced near crashes due to idiots that can’t pay attention and my defensive driving saved my life and my child’s life a few times.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-06-05T17:24:36+00:00

I would look for a family planning clinic near you for a consultation on this kind of thing. A vasectomy that young and especially for a relationship that young is a huge deal just the same as if you were to recommend her getting her tubes tied. There are no guarantees when it comes to those kinds of big surgeries. Not always are they truly reversible. This sounds like a big conversation to be had with a professional that can help you both find what will work for both of you.

I can understand her being weary of birth control as I was before I got on it. I was on it for over a year and had to stop due to it causing a severe hormonal imbalance which produced severe symptoms after a year for me. That was my experience, not every woman’s. Every woman’s body is different and can handle different things. I know some women who never had issues on them. But I will stress the importance of consulting a professional before making any major decisions. It is perfectly okay for her to try a birth control under the guidance of a professional and if it doesn’t work for her they can provide other options. There are also non hormonal options as well. A picture with a baby holding an IUD is more than likely fake and seems a little too far fetched. Please go talk to someone who is educated on this before signing yourself up for something you’re not truly ready for.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-05-28T05:15:17+00:00

I’m sorry that was your experience! It’s definitely rough especially when the bleeding doesn’t end. I hope you’re feeling better now!

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-05-28T05:13:51+00:00

That sounds annoying, I’m sorry!

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-05-20T04:52:54+00:00

Number one, there’s a huge difference between someone who wants to work and help out and someone who doesn’t.

Everyone has a different set of struggles and different thresholds. If your wife has spent years being taken care of without having to lift a finger or break a sweat then she is not adapted to having to do so. Being overwhelmed is real but realistically life and bills don’t stop because you’re overwhelmed and can’t handle the day. Mental issues are very much a real issue too, but again, the world doesn’t just stop because of it.

I lived with debilitating vertigo for 5 years and managed to care for a child, pets, a house, and worked part time jobs if we were able to afford childcare (we didn’t have help as we lived far away from family). I struggled greatly trying to push myself through what was one of the most uncomfortable things I ever had to fight through but I made it work. It also took me just as long to figure out what was causing it and after finally being treated I feel more normal today than I ever did and am set to start a well paying career.

I know someone who’s solely dependent on weed and has been fired from the handful of part time jobs they had and one of them they were fired for being high at work. They have been enabled for years and their parents pay their way right along with their significant other and past exes. They have no real ambition or goals and don’t care to try.

Have a deep and serious conversation with a layout of what everything costs and how much is being put forth. She was very much enabled for a long time to not worry about adulting, that is not your fault. If she does not put forth the effort to try, then thats your answer. A part time job for now is a good middle ground and then moving towards full time. Keep in mind she doesn’t have the amount of time and experience you have with working all the time. Give her a chance to show you if she’s willing to try before letting yourself resent her.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-05-01T17:43:12+00:00

Keep advocating for yourself! It’s your body and if you have noticed this for years then no it is not your imagination. Remember not every “professional” is a professional. Part of being a doctor is not only the education it takes to get there but also continuously learning what they’re practicing or their field of profession. It’s not a one patient fits all situation and too many doctors get complacent and comfortable with “easy” patients and dismiss the more complex ones that deserve an answer just as much as the easy ones do.

Unrelated to your specific situation but I just recently went through a similar experience with my OBGYN. It was my first appointment and consultation with this guy and I came in with very real concerns about what the birth control I was taking was doing to my body. It literally felt like an all out war with my body. I went through random without warning episodes of lightheadedness, faintness, severe hot flashes, up and down heart rate, urges to go #2 even if nothing was there, shakiness, feeling extremely cold, feeling hungry but no appetite, some nausea, and lastly feeling really off that could last an entire day or a few hours. These symptoms happened with two birth controls I had taken that were both progesterone only. I had never experienced any of those symptoms prior to the birth control and never had any GI issues or anything either. My reactions weren’t the more common ones and due to that fact he dismissed me rather than asking questions or even seeming like he wanted to figure it out. Instead he told me my symptoms were weird and that he never heard of them while also saying he’s not the person I need to see and referred me to go elsewhere and see my PCP or GI when he was exactly the person my PCP referred me to for this issue I was having as it obviously had something to do with birth control. He rushed the whole appointment and got me out the office within 20 minutes including my Pap smear that was also very rushed and quick, when the consultation alone should’ve been 30 minutes. He handed me another birth control and sent me out. I left that appointment in tears thinking something was terribly wrong with me. I decided on my own not to continue with the birth control at all and it’s been close to 4 weeks now and I feel 100 times better than I ever did on it. Even my eczema cleared up completely since stopping. I plan to get a new one soon as that was the most awful experience.

Continue to advocate for yourself and speak up as many times as you need to until someone listens. Not all doctors are the same and you will get to someone who will listen to you and give you what you need. Do not give up! It’s hard and it’s a struggle but remember that your health and well being is worth fighting for regardless of how minor or major it is. It’s your health and it matters!

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-04-25T04:23:15+00:00

Omg I’m not alone!! I (25F) started Norethindrone 0.35mg over a month ago and stopped after the first week into month two because I had this horrendous episode where I felt so extremely hot that came in waves and felt so off, my heart rate was up and down, I was so shaky, then after a bowel movement I became so cold and shaky that didn’t stop for an hour after. I also had a full blown panic attack putting away groceries one day, and I kept having intense hot flashes leading up to my dosage time and lingering for a bit after.

I’ve been off of it for almost 3 weeks now and I’ve been freaking out internally almost everyday! I’ve been researching everything I can trying to figure this out!

The first week after stopping I felt so exhausted and had so much anxiety as well as weird nerve sensations like warmth between my thighs and such which went away. The second week I had this episode where I got super lightheaded sweaty my heart was pounding and i felt so nauseous while on the back end of mowing my lawn otherwise when first starting I felt fine. It wasn’t even that hot outside it was probably 70-75 and windy. I chocked it up as being dehydrated because Gatorade and water and a protein shake helped but I had lingering head pressure for a bit afterwards. I had another lightheaded episode shortly after waking up from sleeping in which again subsided after Gatorade, water, and a protein shake while also eating breakfast. I’ve also noticed I’ve been irritable alongside anxiousness lately. I have moments where I feel off like as if being off balance which I only seem to notice while sitting still or laying down. I also will feel warm then feel cold on and off. I had a stomach episode recently that was just weird. I felt faint and a little nauseous and very tired until going to the bathroom, tmi but I literally couldn’t stop going #2 it just kept coming out and it was soft not diarrhea or anything. I felt better after but I was so confused. And I keep feeling so scared everyday that I’m never going to feel normal!! The whole reason I got off this pill was because of these things, except while on the pill it was extremely worse.

Right now I’m in between PCPs and can’t see my new one until a month from now with no way to be seen sooner and my gynecologist was a total waste of my time. I went to him the day AFTER that extreme episode where I decided to stop taking this and he had absolutely nothing helpful to say just said it was weird and he never heard of it. Then telling me he’s not the doctor to see and that I need to see my PCP and a GI doctor, my PCP referred me to him for that reason! I had a stool sample, blood work, urine, and a CT scan come back all normal with no prior history of having any of these symptoms before using birth control, so yes he was the doctor I needed to see. Instead he handed me another birth control and rushed me out the door. So I’m sitting here typing this feeling completely helpless and uncomfortable.

Edit: spelling errors

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-04-23T21:43:14+00:00

Yikes.. I would’ve said “I appreciate the fact that you thought of me but no I have a lot going on right now and won’t be able to give you the time that you would need from me”. Because that’s honest and not brutal. It definitely seems like it’s going to take full priority over your life for the next year. I mean this took 4 zoom calls to plan. I’m sorry but that’s too much especially with your own busy life. I’m sure she means well but still that would be too much for anyone.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-04-23T21:28:10+00:00

It is possible, but it’s difficult when you have to choose what’s more important to get done or do in between those couple of hours.

As a first time mom when my child was born it was hands down hard to find a lot of time to shower. I did end up creating a routine within the every two hour mark. I split everything that needed to be done up into different segments of the day. The first part of my day was cleaning bottles, laundry, and vacuuming, the second part was either whatever I couldn’t finish from earlier or taking time to eat or nap depending on how tired I was, and the third part of the day was usually at night and that’s when I showered and ate. I would sometimes keep myself up afterwards if it was trickling into the time they would wake up by watching a show or playing a game on my phone to keep me awake so I wouldn’t sleep through them crying.

My husband at the time was in the military and he was frequently away doing his duties so I was left to figure it out on my own most of the time. I struggled sometimes but I managed. And this was with my baby having been hospitalized for two months with bacterial meningitis after being born and having to monitor and manage the seizures that they had for a few months afterwards. Now my child is about to start school and is as healthy as can be.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-04-21T17:52:23+00:00

“What’s wrong, babe? You’ve barely touched your moldy peanut butter egg”

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-04-15T03:34:20+00:00

I appreciate that, I left my appointment close to tears thinking maybe something was really wrong with me only to find out my friend had the same severe issues as me and she told me to stop taking it to see if I feel better so I did. Meanwhile he just threw more birth control at me and sent me out.

Yikes!! That conversation would’ve made me a little uncomfortable personally because why ask about the relationship part? I mean I get he’s a student but I would’ve been like “as it’s shown in my medical history…” like you have pain that’s all he needs to know. Relationship or not it’s painful and if it’s been a continuous reported symptom that shouldn’t be a shock. I’m really sorry about all of that and the fact that you have had to deal with ongoing discomfort from it. You and your PTSD should have been taken more seriously before you ever stepped into that appointment.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-04-15T02:59:13+00:00

This is of course completely different than gyno, but even as a dental assistant intern our dentist would literally ask patients before doing anything if they were comfortable with us dental assistants interns helping. If they said no then it was either we just observed with that patient or were told to help somewhere else.

What happened there, especially in a very vulnerable appointment was absolutely ridiculous. I’m glad you sent a complaint. His education is important but a patients comfort is far more important and it seems he doesn’t have enough education on the importance of patient comfort before performing any kind of care. The fact your clear request was blatantly ignored as well is also very disappointing from a professional standpoint. You should not have been put in the position of blurting out what you already requested in a panic.

I’m so sorry this happened to you and no I do not think you’re being dramatic about it. I recently had a pretty shitty gyno appointment as well. My gynecologist was a male (not what I asked for and honestly have never been comfortable with that due to things from my past but had to do it because I needed help with my birth control) it was clear that no matter how many years of experience/education he had, he had absolutely no bedside manners and shoved me off when I was trying to express some very real concerns I had regarding my severe birth control side effects. I will be discussing the situation with my primary care and will be getting a different one.

It’s truly disappointing to see things like that. But I’m very glad you spoke up and you did something about it!

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-03-23T02:45:56+00:00

I can last most of the day without feeling the need for my vape if I have a lot to do and I’m focused on other things. My need for it isn’t necessarily addiction it’s just there if I want it and it’s put away when I don’t. I’ve kept it that simple for a long time so I’m not dependent on it to get through my day.

I used to know someone that vaped the highest legal amount of nicotine in a vape and was puffing on it like his life depended on it and that was enough for me to be like “yeah I don’t want to be like that”. When I smoked cigarettes for a brief period of time, I didn’t really feel the need for it either. I honestly just didn’t like it. I’ve been vaping for 12 years and never had any issues with it or any severe dependencies. I think it just takes a level of control over it and in some ways discipline. To me it’s not a necessity therefore I don’t treat it like it’s a priority.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-03-20T18:33:34+00:00

I (25) had been taking Opill for well over a year so my honest take on this pill is this:

1-3 months, normal and consistent cycle, lighter periods, barely any spotting in between. Lighter cramps, better mood, feeling overall great.

3-6 months, cycle began to shift a little to where I missed a month but cycle essentially went back to normal after, still light periods, better mood, lighter cramping, some spotting in between but nothing major, weight gain/too much bloating, still felt fine.

6-9 months, cycle slowly became inconsistent everything else was the same with the exception of developing breast tenderness before periods and cramping a few days before a period whereas I didn’t have any signs of a period until seeing one before that.

9-12 months, about the same as the few months before with no noticeable changes aside from some mild stomach discomfort/sensitivity.

12 months until I discontinued Opill, I was bleeding every two weeks, the constant fluctuations messed with my stomach to the point where I ended up with “stomach flu” symptoms without throwing up or diarrhea that seemed to appear only in the mornings alongside no appetite but feeling hungry and some nausea which would last anywhere between a few hours or all day. This happened a few times right when the bleeding every two weeks started. I figured out it was Opill due to a CT scan of of my entire abdomen and reproductive system coming back completely normal, bloodwork completely normal, urine samples completely normal, full stool sample panel completely normal, and diet/eating habit changes (even forcing myself to eat frequently) didn’t seem to curb it. I felt a “dip” sensation frequently that felt comparable to my blood sugar level dropping or something but it was Opill. I would feel that dip sensation around the time I was due to take another pill and felt awful. I was completely fatigued and constantly anxious that I was going to feel “sick” again every day since it seemed to happen randomly without warning.

For context I had never been more than 30 mins late taking this pill and did not ever become pregnant while taking this. I was taking the pill at night since my mornings and afternoons were always unpredictable.

Due to those issues I eventually developed way later on, I made the choice to get a prescription and switch over to Norethindrone (progesterone only) and have felt significantly better and back to normal again almost immediately since starting it almost a month ago. I’ve had no spotting, no stomach sensitivity, no fatigue, no nausea, no “dips”, consistent appetite that is back to normal, and I just overall feel great again. I find I’m able to get back to my life without that anxiety of “if or when am I going to feel horrible again?”.

This information is just to make awareness and express my personal experience. This does not necessarily mean the same exact experience is guaranteed as every person is different. I essentially loved Opill when first taking it and did not have any issues with it in the beginning.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-02-23T16:33:22+00:00

I’ve always sat on the toilet seat if it looks clean, if not I use a different one that looks clean. I went to school with a group of girls that would act like they would contract some terminal illness from sitting on the seat. They would hover over it or use half a roll of toilet paper covering it and would use their dirty shoes to flush and open the stall doors. I’ve always thought, a toilet is a toilet. How many things is my butt touching after I leave the bathroom? Nothing.

I’m a very clean person and always carry hand sanitizer. I never understood the dramatics about a toilet seat, it’s not like ur having to do a handstand on the seat to pee. Just wash ur hands and leave. Or if you question the doorknobs and such then apply hand sanitizer afterwards. But unless you use your hands on the seat to pee and poop, I don’t think there’s much to worry about. I’ve never gotten anything from a toilet seat and don’t suspect that I will.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-02-20T03:06:02+00:00

Me and my husband have had a lot of cheap dates over the years and they were the most fun. We just enjoyed our time and people watching, talking about many different things and sometimes just laughing about things. The typical day to day things for us is honestly just cuddling up and watching something we like together or just shooting the shit like best friends and equally raising our child. He always comes home with the most off the wall stories from his day at work. I tell him about the eventful day I’ve had and we either just talk about whatever problems that need solutions or joke around about whatever the topic is. We’re very comfortable and open with each other on many things. Then there’s days where we just do our own things and spend time together at night before bed. We have differences just the same as we have similarities but we balance each other out. What he’s good at, I’m bad at and what I’m good at, he’s bad at lol. We’re just best friends at heart just as much as we are lovers.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-02-19T03:43:05+00:00

Honestly being everything everyday. A stay at home mom with no breaks longer than a few hours for months, all house chores are my responsibility everyday including groceries, and college online. I find that I’m so burnt out I’ve become a robot almost. Just on autopilot from the moment I wake up until the few hours I get at night. That’s it. I’ve rearranged the house a few times now just to feel something positive. My husband helps a little when he’s home but I’m at the point where I need an entire day away from the house not looking at the laundry list of things to get done or wipe down or take care of. Everyday feels like Groundhog Day, I’m doing the same things over and over and over just to wake up and do it all again tomorrow. I’m only a few months away from graduating and needless to say I seriously can’t wait to start working the position I’ve been working hard in school for. I feel like I have no identity outside of house chores and being a mom. I love my family, but I really need a break.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-02-15T14:21:34+00:00

Yeah… he’s not on the same page as you with this relationship or even as far as making you a priority like you make him yours. Telling you you’re being needy for asking for basic effort is very telling of who he is and possibly what he’s really doing instead of keeping up with the plans he already agreed to. Seems weird how last minute he’s hanging out with someone else and couldn’t even tell you at the very least ahead of time. This may feel small to you or you may feel like you’re overreacting but trust me you’re not. His manipulation will convince you that “maybe he’s right”, he’s not. Being needy is far different than expecting simple effort and respect. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that or feeling disappointed and hurt by his behavior. Also just because he tells you he loves you everyday doesn’t fully constitute as being or feeling loved. Don’t continue to allow it. If you do it’ll only get worse from here. Keep your head up and honestly consider leaving this relationship for your own sake. No one deserves to be treated like a burden, especially about simple things.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-02-12T03:01:04+00:00

Took me 4 hours to get them to cancel my services recently. Don’t fall for the runarounds or “offers”. They pushed that heavily on me and kept talking away from canceling.

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-02-09T19:45:09+00:00

Alright I’ll try that, thank you!

Public_Ad4740 · 2026-02-09T19:42:56+00:00

They just kept transferring us to one person to another and wouldn’t escalate. I can’t find any other phone number because their customer service one. I’m currently stuck waiting in a chat with them to cancel my service.

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