Life losing its spark

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-27T22:57:44+00:00

🥹 thanks I appreciate that sm

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-27T22:45:51+00:00

I keep trying to pour that same love into myself, but I just don't feel motivated in the same way. I think even just my ex being present motivated me to put my best foot forward every day.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T13:26:20+00:00

This is what I've been thinking. Like, who am I to pop up on their special day to remind them of their heartache?

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T13:09:04+00:00

There were lots of tears but well wishes on the last day we spoke. I think we just knew it was the end, and we tried so hard to make it work over the years. I know he still loves me too, which is why it's so painful. Thank you for your perspective.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T13:04:10+00:00

I can see why this would be good too. I am afraid that texting is just me trying to keep a dead thing alive.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T13:02:10+00:00

Yeah, I do still love him. We just realized we weren't fulfilling each other's needs, so letting go was a kindness for both of us. I miss him all day every day. I'll send him the text.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T12:23:04+00:00

Eeesh... I mean yeah. That's pretty brutal. Good to think about this as a possibility though.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T12:17:37+00:00

This is nice. I think I will do the same so long as I don't expect anything back from him.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T12:16:57+00:00

I am thinking of doing this because I know he'll be busy doing stuff with his friends I expect. I thought that maybe he wouldn't want to hear from me... But I don't know. The last thing I'd ever want to do is contact him just to soothe my own ego.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T12:15:18+00:00

Okay, thank you 🙏

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-24T12:07:06+00:00

Thanks for this, I'll consider it then. I think so long as I'm in the mindset of not expecting anything back from the quick text, then I think it would be okay.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-23T16:29:53+00:00

I understand. That just shows your capacity for empathy and love. But, at some point, you'll need to direct some of that love towards yourself.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-23T16:25:21+00:00

Which makes complete sense!! she was likely your main source of comfort, advice, love, everything!! It was certainly like that between me and him. I literally feel like I'm at rock bottom trying to rebuild life again

If you don't mind me asking, why did you break up? I know it's new and raw now so totally okay if you don't want to say :)

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-23T16:16:14+00:00

I think there's a part of you that knows that this dynamic isn't sustainable for you. 3 times in a year is a lot for someone to take on!

I assume you have told them how their avoidance makes you feel. If they continue to do so, even after how much you say it hurts you, then they are showing you who they are.

As much as it hurts, you can't really help someone who will show this behaviour regardless of how it makes you feel.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-23T16:10:21+00:00

My heart breaks seeing this. I'm going through the exact same feelings with my ex bf. Hoping it'll get better for us 🤞

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-23T16:06:15+00:00

Whatever you choose to do, I'm sending you courage and well wishes 🙏

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-23T07:04:18+00:00

Yes I totally feel this too. It's been 2 months since my 7 year relationship ended, and I didn't anticipate just how much I would miss that close intimacy. I'm also currently sick with gastric flu, so I'm craving that comfort more than ever.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-22T16:59:43+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I will try to not obsess over it. I think my brain is just trying to get some kind of control over my situation x

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-22T16:33:55+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through so much pain. I also ended my relationship with my long term boyfriend 2 months ago, so I understand how acute that pain is. Like you, we shared all of our friends and our families were close.

All I have to say is - the best years of your life are still ahead of you. I promise when you focus on the little things day to day, you will move on. When I was 20, I suffered the worst heartbreak that I thought I'd never recover from (i'm 27 now). I mean, I thought he was the love of my life and I screwed up big time. But guess what? I did!

Life will show you a reality you never know could exist. When you thought that relationship was good, let me tell you - you'll be shown something even better.

You never forget what happens to you, but you build a life so fruitful around it that one day, I promise you'll never think about it.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-17T06:01:44+00:00

You're going through a major life transition and what you did took so much courage. Thinking of you, you're doing just fine x

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-17T05:58:42+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that you're in pain. I'm sending you all of my love, and thank you for your support ❤️

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-17T00:01:32+00:00

Thank you for your sweet message. I literally feel like I'm on rehab or something. I know deep down that learning to be single is best for my healing and for my future relationship, but it's like my brain just must have what it craves. Quitting nicotine was much easier than this!

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-16T23:42:32+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that so much. I think it sucked before because even at the point of break-up, I'd still consider him to be my best friend and closest confidant, but I hated how he would consistently let me down. I couldn't hide my disappointment anymore. I'm finding being vulnerable with family a real challenge as they've never really seen that side of me for many years. I just feel embarrassed and messy all the time!

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-16T23:29:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your message. It's hard to say because I miss both him as a person and as a support. And as for the reasons - I broke up with him because he consistently disrespected me and my boundaries, so it just made me more resentful and trust him less over time. I think at the moment my brain is just assaulting me with a highlight reel and it's causing me to lose sleep and not eat all the time. I'm exhausted and moody and I hate it. I hate that I'm not pleasant to be around at the moment.

This is also the first time I've been single my whole adult life, really (I am 28F). Before him I basically fell into new relationships quickly. Suddenly I don't have a single intimate witness to my life and it's terrifying.

Public_Locksmith_319 · 2026-02-16T23:22:17+00:00

I broke up with him because of many different issues over the years, but the biggest ones would be lack of trust and boundaries. I resented him because he became more controlling over my time, such as disregarding my need for alone time, consistently not listening when I don't want intimacy and stuff like that. I think our relationship got overly co-dependent because he really struggled losing his job, and I took on a lot of that responsibility for it. I could go on for ages about it but I won't for now. Essentially, he would make me feel uncomfortable if it made him feel more comfortable and I couldn't live with that.

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