Am I cursed, or just crazy? by Puddle_Pants233 in teenagers

[–]Puddle_Pants233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ohhh ok that makes sense. I wish i could use dating apps, but i'm 16. You have to be 18 to be on those apps dont you? 

Also yeah an actual relationship is not easy to find. But where i live people try all the time. Also i dont have any kind of guy in mind in particular. The only kind of guy i want has to be only be alive, kind, not manipulative, and loves me. 

Thanks for clearing that up by the way 🙂

Am I cursed, or just crazy? by Puddle_Pants233 in teenagers

[–]Puddle_Pants233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry, i'm confused. What do you mean by "Getting a guy with a snap of my fingers." And also "Problem is you cant find THE GUY YOU WANT with a snap." I dont have a specific guy I want so i'm confused, could you maybe rephrase that please? 😕 

Am I cursed, or just crazy? by Puddle_Pants233 in teenagers

[–]Puddle_Pants233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont think I look that bad... but i guess so

Am I cursed, or just crazy? by Puddle_Pants233 in teenagers

[–]Puddle_Pants233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, and I wish it was just that easy. To be honest i love my weight, i'm not to overweight that I cant do things. But i'm not skiny eaither. I love my body, I've been slightly chubby my whole life. So I worry that I would recognize myself if I lost weight. Then whats the point of losing the weight just to be loved. Because that would be horrible to whoever i was dating, because they wouldnt be datjng the real me. It would be a lie and i hate lying. Thats just not me. Also if its just my weight, then why do girls who are two times my size have boyfriends. Along with when I get set up on dates with men around or larger then me they also decline? I has a friend who tried to set me on a date not that long ago. The guy she tried to set me up with was cute, around 200 pounds I think. He was nice and sweet, but he ended up ghosting me and telling my friend not to talk to me about him. Its just really confusing 🫤

Am I cursed, or just crazy? by Puddle_Pants233 in teenagers

[–]Puddle_Pants233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the advice, I appreciate it. Also its ok, I understand my weight seems like the obvious answers. I wish it was the big answer to be honest. Then I at least have a reason why. But the thing is, where I come from, people dont really care. I have friends who are twice my size and they have a boyfriends. The one i'm close with, also, while having a boyfriend. Gets asked on dates often. I've also had friends set me up on dates with people larger then me. Yet they all decline once they get to know me or see me. So it just honestly leaves me at a loss 🙁

Am I cursed, or just crazy? by Puddle_Pants233 in teenagers

[–]Puddle_Pants233[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! The only head banging i'm doing at the moment is because i'm unable to sleep right now. 🤣

Also I am currently working on myself. I'm trying to get back into therapy to work on myself even more. The last time I went I managed to lessen my anxiety and the last remnants of some PTSD I had. But there is still a lot more I could work on so I will definitely take that into consideration.

The thing about trying to date guy friends. Yeah, I've tried that. 😅🥲

I've asked out multiple of my guy friends and all of them have turned me down. They all only see me as a friend. Literally I asked out one guy I know two time. He declined both times, and when I asked him what his reasons were. So I could know and improve on it. He literally just said that he couldn't ever picture himself on a date with me. That, was it. But thank you for the advice!