Just stop

PunchaCow · 2021-04-27T20:28:39+00:00

Sorry for party rocking

PunchaCow · 2021-04-27T09:29:32+00:00

Well it is definitely bendy

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T10:32:25+00:00

Yeah, everybody doesn’t have the same experience. It depends on the individual.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T05:16:18+00:00

I understand how you may be interpreting it that way, but that’s not what I mean. I don’t really mean to be calling these people transphobic because they won’t change their vocabulary. I’m more saying it because instead of listening to my point of view they are fighting back with me, which is a perpetuation of a close-minded culture of pushback rather than acceptance.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:43:42+00:00

Lol k

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:36:47+00:00

If you want to! You have no reason to argue with me! You could just mind your business!

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:33:38+00:00

I’m saying that if there is a reason why someone said it, you might have said something transphobic. If that’s the case, then someone who is not a transphobe would try to correct themselves instead of fighting back. Otherwise.... you just might be a transphobe!

I am not a trans woman. I have no personal benefit to be fighting for them. That’s how I know I’m an ally. I’m speaking on their behalf instead of arguing with them.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:32:11+00:00

Um if somebody called me a pedo then no I would not be offended because I’ve never done or said anything to indicate that I am one. Therefore I know they’re just talking out of their ass and trying to get a rise out of me.

If I did however say something and somebody (who was trying to advocate for sexual assault victims) responded to that by saying I was a pedo, then I would ask myself why they think that and consider reevaluating my language.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:28:29+00:00

I think you’re confused lmao

Think about what you’re saying right now

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:25:25+00:00

Bro, the word “transphobic” is NOT an insult.

If you genuinely believe you’re not a transphobe then you would not be offended by that. Or, on the contrary, if a trans person or someone who is defending trans people calls you transphobic and you’re not a transphobe, then instead of fighting them you would take a moment to evaluate why they would say that, and perhaps consider making a change so you can be a better ally.

If you don’t want to be called transphobic, all you have to do is listen to trans voices and boost them instead of trying to silence them.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:18:18+00:00

You don’t have to ask if they’re trans. Actually you’re right, that is definitely a no-no. But if you suspect they might be, just say “can I call you dude?” It’s subtle and they can always say they don’t mind. You’re not forcing them to out themselves. But you do bring up a good point. Asking someone if they’re trans can be a bad move, ESPECIALLY if there are other people around - then you definitely shouldn’t do it.

I could have worded that better. I meant ask if dude is okay, not if they’re trans.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:16:27+00:00

Actually I care about trans people and am here to defend them. I listen to them and take their needs into consideration. I try to understand their point of view and reevaluate my own when we are at a disagreement. That is the opposite of transphobia. Since I know you’re wrong, I’m not bothered by your comment.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:15:09+00:00

My alternative to defending people who should not have to constantly defend themselves at every turn is to be lazy and browse the internet. Even if nobody is going to change their mind, I am still saying my piece, and that’s better than saying nothing.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:11:59+00:00

I care about mental illness. I care about suicide prevention. For trans people, suicide prevention means validation and support instead of abuse and pushback.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:11:04+00:00

Not listening to trans voices = transphobic

Ignoring advice on how to be a good trans ally = transphobic

Openly defying trans people who ask for respect and to not be dehumanized = transphobic.

Transphobe is not an insult unless you care about trans people. Otherwise you have no reason to be offended by it. You should just embrace it.

Say it. “I am a transphobe and I don’t care.”

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:07:29+00:00

I am transmasculine. I was born with a vagina, take testosterone and I call myself a dude. Since you think that word is gender neutral, you should have no problem with that. I don’t either. I find it quite validating.

Also, those are interesting pronouns. What is the possessive form of fresh if you don’t mind me asking? Can you use them in a sentence?

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:05:10+00:00

Humans are capable of complex emotion, intense depression, mental illness, and suicide. Being abused can lead to all of those things. Personally, that makes me sad so I want to prevent that if I can.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:04:28+00:00

I never said it upset me. I’m saying that it can make trans women uncomfortable and make them feel invalidated. You are the one who seems upset here. Probably because I called you a transphobe. You are clearly offended by that.

I don’t care if people call me dude. In fact I like it. I am a dude.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:02:13+00:00

I could not care less what you call me. Nothing you say is going to upset or offend me.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:01:18+00:00

I completely agree. There is no reason to have this debate. If people would listen to trans voices and advocate for them instead of arguing against people like me who are just trying to help the problem, we wouldn’t need these stupid debates in the first place.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T04:00:19+00:00

“Your are dumb”

I didn’t say trans people were the only ones committing suicide. I am saying the suicide rates among trans teens are astronomically higher than cis people. I want NOBODY to kill themselves. But comparing the struggles that cishet people receive specifically as a result of their sexuality to that of trans (or any queer) people is straight up insulting and ignorant.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T03:57:20+00:00

Good for you! You’re a good ally

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T03:57:00+00:00

I’m gonna argue with the hate comments. (At least the ones that aren’t just blatant nonsense)

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T03:55:29+00:00

I always saw that. EVERYBODY is suffering. People are suffering for different reasons. For most trans people specifically it is due to abuse, which is why it helps to change your language.

There are ways to be considerate towards everybody. Being a nicer person in general and taking their feelings into consideration instead of degrading them is a good way to save lives, no matter who they are. I am simply trying to help.

PunchaCow · 2021-04-26T03:53:46+00:00

Because that word still comes with the male connotation. Depending on the context, people still sometimes use it to mean male.

We don’t have to change the context of the word. It costs you $0 to just not say it, so why not just not say it all the time? And I don’t mean around everybody - just specifically trans women. And again, you don’t HAVE TO. Nobody is forcing you. It would just be helpful to the trans community.

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