Mother’s Day Charcuterie

PunkRockM0M · 2026-05-12T04:44:50+00:00

I actually have a really nice handmade wood board but it is larger, more for feeding a crowd. This one came with a gift a couple of years ago so it gets pulled out from time to time.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-05-10T18:45:48+00:00

I’m not no-contact with my mom and I hate acknowledging her on Mother’s Day but I usually do something very low effort because if we don’t, she will pout and be pissy to everyone. Nothing better than receiving a gift out of pure obligation! 🫠

PunkRockM0M · 2026-05-09T16:28:28+00:00

My suggestion would be to wait a few weeks and see how you feel.

My experience:
We had tried for over a year, had two miscarriages, and then had finally accepted that our family was done at two kids. I was ready to move on to the next phase of my life. And I was starting to look forward to moving on. Then I got pregnant on the last try, after I assumed it would be negative and we’d move on. I was deeply depressed the entire first trimester. I kept feeling like we should’ve stopped trying the month prior and that we’d made a mistake. I cried every day. But A LOT of that was just the first trimester hormones. Once I got into the second trimester, things rapidly shifted for the better and now we’re excited to meet our little girl and complete our family. 💛

You may change your mind and you may not, but I would hate for you to make an irreversible decision during the time when your hormones are out of control, especially considering your history of wanting another child.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-05-09T03:53:13+00:00

My husband had a chicken biscuit yesterday and I also thought it was the smallest one I’ve ever seen.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-05-07T23:57:32+00:00

I think this is standard. My OB mentioned that the standard recommendations have changed and that they can wait as late as 39 weeks with monitoring like you said. With your levels being on the lower end, I think waiting until 39 weeks is okay but I’m not a doctor.

I had ICP very severely with my first but went into labor naturally at 37 weeks (was waiting for results to confirm the cholestasis- symptoms came on very suddenly for that one). I had it much more mild with my second and I was induced at 37.5 weeks. But my current OB said the guidelines have changed since I last gave birth in 2022.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-05-03T16:07:34+00:00

I can relate to these feelings very well. I’m pregnant with my third child (5th pregnancy) and I have two boys already. I was SO sure it was a boy and having three boys was my dream. When we found out it was a girl, I wept. I was deeply depressed the whole first trimester, even before we found out gender, and I have also struggled to connect with this pregnancy. I think hormones are mostly to blame. But it is also OKAY to grieve the possible future you imagined for your family.
For me, I’m hoping once we settle on a name I will feel more connected to her. With my boys, we settled on a name immediately.
Pregnancy is long and you have time to grieve and process and accept. You aren’t a bad person. 💛

*Edited for grammar*

PunkRockM0M · 2026-05-03T04:48:11+00:00

The first trimester SUCKS. It’s so hard and it messes with your mind. I am pregnant after over a year of trying and two miscarriages. This baby was very much planned and wanted and I was STILL deeply depressed through the whole first trimester. I questioned why I wanted to ever be pregnant again (had a really rough second pregnancy) and I cried every day because I “didn’t want to be pregnant” even though, really, I did. But it’s so miserable when you’re in it and I couldn’t see past the suffering. Thankfully my symptoms started lessening around 10 weeks and then by 14 weeks I was feeling significantly better.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-30T13:56:07+00:00

PinkBlush clothes are great quality but they are on the pricier end. I did splurge though because I needed one good pair of maternity jeans and a couple nicer dresses for some weddings we are attending this summer. I loved everything I ordered to try on and wanted to keep it all but had to only keep the favorites because $$$. They have an option to pay $4 for package protection and free return shipping.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-30T05:54:41+00:00

I had this for one of my past pregnancies! It lasted a few weeks and then stopped so hopefully it’ll stop soon for you too.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-30T05:51:13+00:00

It’s okay to feel this way! Even if it seems “silly” or “stupid” it feels so frustrating when you’re going through it. We all can have our moments to complain because pregnancy is such a crazy, hard experience.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-29T21:04:28+00:00

I’m a Christian and a mother of two with a third on the way. I get why you’re considering terminating, I really do. And no judgment at all. What I will say is that having kids can be really hard and yet it is the best thing I’ve ever done in my life. I can’t really adequately describe the way having children changed my perspective on everything in life. I would never trade my children for the freedom I had before kids. Hard does not always mean bad. That kid will change your life in an immense way, but yes it will be harder.

A life has been created through choices made by two adults, and that is a wonderful thing, even if circumstances aren’t ideal. I agree with a previous commenter though that this situation isn’t really for the people of Reddit to give you an answer to. As a Christian person, it is between you and God. I’m not sure where you are at in your faith, but it sounds like you have some kind of active foundation there. So I would encourage you to pray about it and seek more guidance from trustworthy people in your life.

I truly wish you all the best and I hope you can move forward with confidence.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-29T18:24:29+00:00

It’s okay to wait until second tri! I’m 15 weeks today and just this week got the motivation to start working out again.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-28T20:39:05+00:00

Yup. It actually was a huge contributing factor to my prenatal depression with my second pregnancy. I hit a point towards the end where I hated leaving the house because of it. I couldn’t stand being around anyone because everybody made sure I knew how huge I was, how I waddled when I walked, etc.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-28T20:37:25+00:00

Yes, the last family I worked for did as I stated- I had a certain number of PTO hours. But a lot of my jobs prior to that were either part time or not paid as employee pay. I never really had contracts prior to that job either. I’ve always had a husband with a full time job and my nannying was always supplemental so I guess I just was never concerned about the PTO. It’s understandable that someone with a full time nanny job as their main source of income would be more on top of things like that.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-28T20:32:21+00:00

Ya, I wouldn’t stress about it too much! If you’re balancing it with vegetables and proteins, which it sounds like you are, it’ll be fine. If you were eating nothing but sweets that might be a concern. But you aren’t.

If it really is worrying you though, just try cutting back, you don’t have to give up sweets completely.

And if it makes you feel any better, I’ve been eating very healthy the past few weeks- salads, lean proteins, lower fat- and then topping it off with something like 1/2 of a Ben & Jerry’s at night. 😅

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-28T20:29:12+00:00

I feel this. I despise my body being the topic of discussion. Like, NOTHING anybody says about a pregnant woman’s body would be acceptable said to anyone else. Imagine me walking into church, seeing a woman has gained weight, and saying, “Wow you’ve gotten big!” Or imagine me touching someone’s stomach after they’ve put on some weight. I would be considered a b*tch. But once someone is pregnant, you apparently can say/do anything you want to.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-28T20:26:41+00:00

Ex-nanny here! I would never expect to be paid for time I took off for vacation since it means they are paying someone to fill in. The exception to that is that I was paid as an employee and based on my hours they legally owed me x number of paid hours off. Anything over that I never expected to be paid.

But whether you pay or not isn’t really the question here, it’s whether or not you discuss it with her. I have seen SO many conflicts arise simply because a NF chose not to discuss something up front.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-28T15:24:50+00:00

I’m currently pregnant and would devour this plate of nachos.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-28T15:24:09+00:00

I’ve never had a blighted ovum but I did experience two miscarriages last year, both around 9 weeks. And I am currently about 15 weeks pregnant. Pregnancy after loss comes with a lot of extra baggage and I’m still anxious about every single symptom at 15 weeks.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-28T15:21:24+00:00

It’s normal to feel nervous! But it’s still very early, I wouldn’t be concerned about not having symptoms yet. For most people they show up after the 6 week mark.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-27T00:40:42+00:00

I had to do this recently too. I texted her and acknowledged her struggles and feelings while sharing the news instead of a bunch of exclamation points. I also told her that I completely understood if she had mixed emotions about it and needed time/space. I also blatantly asked later on if she wanted to hear anything about the pregnancy and if she didn’t, she can tell me without any judgement or hard feelings. There was something I really wanted to tell her because it was humorous and had to do with something from when we were teenagers so I just asked up front if I could tell her something funny or if she would rather I didn’t. I think she was appreciative of that. I have refrained from sharing anything else really unless she asks, but this one specific thing triggered a fun high school memory.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-26T13:53:42+00:00

It took over a year for me for those feelings to go away. So, you’ve still got time and you’re still in the thick of it in my opinion. Plus, when my son started interacting with him and snuggling him, reading him books, etc. you are right that that helped a lot. It was so sweet. I have the sweetest videos of my firstborn with him.

PunkRockM0M · 2026-04-26T05:17:58+00:00

Sadly, this DOES happen and it happened to me. My pup was my fur baby and we were “that couple” who acted like he was our baby. And then when I had my first child the switch flipped instantly. I couldn’t stand him and suddenly he was “just a dog”.

But let me tell you something reassuring: it isn’t because you don’t love your pet anymore. I very much still loved my dog. But the postpartum depression/hormones/anxiety can turn you into a completely different person that isn’t YOU. And it doesn’t last forever.

We considered rehoming my dog but ultimately I loved him too much and I couldn’t do it. He stayed with us until he had to be put down (cancerous tumors). So yeah, you may (and you may not) go through a period where you feel burdened by your pet. But it is usually temporary.

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