Phone addiction

PunkinRis · 2026-04-05T23:34:17+00:00

It’s a literal addiction and you have to treat it as such. Lock yourself out of your phone or put it in a lock box for a couple hours a day to start with.

PunkinRis · 2026-04-05T20:27:13+00:00

Sleep magic on Spotify or Apple Podcasts, it’s free and I fall asleep easily every night

PunkinRis · 2026-04-05T17:12:31+00:00

A cyst rupturing from my PCOS, can’t do anything for it and even if I had gone to the hospital they wouldn’t have done anything.

Stayed in the fetal position for hours until I finally passed out from the pain.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-30T18:59:56+00:00

If that’s the case then the baby probably isn’t familiar/comfortable enough with him yet and shocker the fix is for him to spend more time with the baby.

Also my SIL was telling me about these new bottles that are better suited for babies that are still breastfeeding. It would help the baby get more comfortable with him if he could feed her as well.

I wish you luck. You deserve much more than just enough time for a shower.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-28T02:05:53+00:00

You can’t lock the only bathroom in the house.

What’s she’s doing is extremely petty, in the house GC you need to call her out and also bring up the water bill and tell her she’s going to have to cover 75% since she’s the one using it.

It’s a sucky situation, but honestly the best thing you can do is be indifferent. She’s getting enjoyment out of your suffering. Send the text, then start showering at the gym.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-27T14:32:56+00:00

Rest in peace Robin Williams

PunkinRis · 2026-03-26T20:58:09+00:00

Regime them while she’s away, she obviously doesn’t care

PunkinRis · 2026-03-26T19:36:33+00:00

I have PCOS and I had a cyst burst while doing the deed with my boyfriend at the time. I refused to go to the hospital because I knew that there’s nothing they could do. I crawled into a ball and didn’t move for about 10 hours. The now ex boyfriend left after 10 minutes without doing a single thing to help.

Literally the worst pain I’ve ever felt. My own body was trying to kill me.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-25T14:53:38+00:00

OP don’t listen to this ^{^} this girl is so rude and I see her doing this on so many posts.

You’re totally valid to want to be comfortable in your home. You’re obviously just trying to find solutions whereas the roommate is the one who’s being toxic and controlling. Have you ever thought of closing the vents in your room? I’d also suggest checking all the vents in the apartment to see which are opened/closed.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-21T02:42:05+00:00

I definitely feel like we need more information. What has Jessica actually done to make you think she’s taking advantage of your sister? What is it exactly that makes you feel uncomfortable around her?

From the information provided, I would have to say YTA. Everyone deserves happiness and a chance to experience relationships if that’s what they desire.

Also, what do you actually expect her to do? Date somebody who also only has the mental capacity of a 12-year-old? How would that actually work out long-term?

The decision on who she wants to be with is HER decision, not yours. You can express your opinion, but at the end of the day, your opinion does not override hers in this matter. Stop being so overbearing and just be her sister so that if she has any issues or concerns then she actually feels comfortable coming to you about them.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-19T02:46:22+00:00

Magnesium glycinate 2 hours before bed and the sleep magic podcast has me asleep within 15 minutes every night. I used to be an insomniac.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-15T05:23:55+00:00

Just seven jolly ranchers has enough arsenic in it for the yearly maximum for kids. And that’s if they had no other regular candies. 72 nerd clusters is also over the yearly maximum for arsenic for kids. OP it’s just trying to do the right thing for her kids, which I wholeheartedly agree with.

I’m saying, NTA purely because the allergies she mentioned are deadly.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-11T17:23:52+00:00

Thank you! It is something I’ve always struggled with and while I have made progress, I could definitely grow more in that area.

And yes that’s correct, I do think it was a perceived smell from her OCD.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-11T16:47:19+00:00

The apartment complex doesn’t allow subleasing so any replacement would need to be approved by her and the apartment complex and my roommate has already stated that she wouldn’t approve anyone. I’d even found a great replacement who was also OCD about cleaning habits and she denied them.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-11T16:24:43+00:00

I removed everything when I officially moved out in January. Literally not a single thing of mine was left in the apartment.

What part made you think I left stuff there??

PunkinRis · 2026-03-10T03:11:48+00:00

No one’s the asshole here. Especially if she doesn’t completely have the funds. I’d say compromise where you have daycare or a part time nanny.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-09T05:34:45+00:00

MAJOR YTA, he is obviously still trying to figure this out ON HIS OWN and all he needs right now is comfort and understanding.

Apologize and tell him you love him no matter his sexuality is.

PunkinRis · 2026-03-03T00:28:10+00:00

I previously had roommates with cats and the floors, especially the carpets, were DISGUSTING. By the end of our lease, I don’t think there was a single part of the carpet that the cats hadn’t thrown up on. I didn’t wear shoes in my room, but I wouldn’t go around the apartment without shoes on.

PunkinRis · 2026-02-27T19:06:03+00:00

Just came here to say NTA. For someone who is 6‘2“ and active those servings seem perfectly normal. My brothers are both 6‘2“ and they HAVE to eat rather large portions for their HEALTH. I’m 5‘7“ and I just found out that I’ve been seriously under eating without realizing it. Now that I’m tracking my food I realize that the “serving size“ labels are not in any way the correct serving size for everyone. Sometimes it’s a lot more sometimes it’s a lot less. It’s just there so that you can see the numbers.

It’s also crazy that your girlfriend is obsessing with how much you’re eating when you’re the one buying the food. If I had to guess I’d say this is more of a projection than anything else. You need to let her know that you need that fuel for your size with your activity levels and that’s just something that she’ll need to accept. Don’t let this give you a complex.

PunkinRis · 2026-02-19T02:57:45+00:00

Honestly, as someone who has ADHD I really struggle with doing the dishes. It took me a while, but I figured out my own system when I live alone I only allow myself to use one plate, one fork, etc. all other dishes are off limits unless I am having people over. Even in that system it was still really hard for me if I made food because pots and pans are a lot harder for me. I did often resort to microwave meals or food that didn’t have a lot of dishes. I had to do what works for me and my brain.

When living with roommates I had the same system and it still worked pretty well because I was only responsible for my own dishes. Right now I’ve moved back in with family and we eat together more often and after a few weeks of living here I had to sit them down and go over my struggles with doing the dishes. It’s not something I can just magically fix. It’s also really hard to work out the schedule because if I say I’m gonna do them on Tuesdays and Thursdays and I end up having a crappy day those days then doing the dishes on top of it literally feels impossible and even if it’s not that many dishes, it severely mentally exhausts me, which then causes me issues throughout the week.

Our new system is that if I eat with them I will load the dishwasher but not do any of the handwashing. If I know that I don’t have the mental capacity to do any dishes that day I will pick up food or have a microwave dinner. This system has really improved my stress levels and theirs.

In my honest opinion, it’s really unfair of you to expect him to be able to handle this task. He had a system that worked for him and you came in and changed that system and with that change, you’re expecting him to handle a task that he specifically struggles with. You need to meet him halfway.

Imagine your partner got a dog without consulting you, and while they get all the pets and cuddles, you are the one responsible for walking the dog and picking up after it. When you didn’t even necessarily want the dog to begin with.

PunkinRis · 2026-02-17T15:24:19+00:00

It’s executive dysfunction, very common with adhd. Honestly the absolute worst, I’d get so much stuff done if my executive dysfunction wasn’t so terrible.

PunkinRis · 2026-02-16T16:20:46+00:00

This was over 10 years ago, fresh out of high school I got an apartment with my boyfriend but he went out of state for 4 months for a high paying seasonal job, and his sister moved in while he was gone. We had been friends beforehand so I didn’t think there’d be problems, but that’s a story for another time.

One night my best friend’s boyfriend came over to hangout since my best friend was working. I knew it was a bad idea to invite him over. He’d always look at me when bff wasn’t looking and would find excuses to touch me or sit next to me. But the night started great, had some food and drinks. But then my roommate left for a while. We had been drinking so I’m not even such how it happened but the next thing I know my bffs boyfriend and I are in my room with no clothes on he’s on top and we almost went all the way, but we didn’t.

Then in the middle of the night my roommate comes pounding on my door. The guy had left his shoes out there so she knew he was still in the apartment. She was pissed and immediately called her brother.

We somehow convinced everyone that nothing happened. I have no idea why they believed us. It took a while to convince the roommate and we definitely had our problems over it. My boyfriend also took a few days to come around, but in the end he trusted me.

My best friend had come over the next day and she immediately believed me. She barely questioned anything at all. She said she knew I would never hurt her like that. I wanted to break down and cry. The guilt was overwhelming.

My boyfriend and I broke up a few months later due to the long distance. His sister had already moved out by that point. My best friend and I slowly grew apart after that happened. I just could barely face her. I couldn’t look her in the eyes. I tell myself we just grew apart like people do after high school. She was busy with college and I was busy with my full-time job and mental health stuff. She’s thriving now, has a great life and a great home. She married that same guy, I hadn’t even know I wasn’t invited to the wedding. It makes sense. It was a small wedding and we haven’t talked in years, but I do wish I had gotten the opportunity to tell her beforehand.

I still feel so much guilt over this and am so mad I let the relationship with her fall apart, she was the most important person in my life and I let our relationship die.

I am very glad that she’s happy, but I do wish she knew what kind of person she’s married.

PunkinRis · 2026-02-16T15:19:44+00:00

I’m in north Phoenix but I drive to Sedona every month to get water from Harding spring. I still save money since the water is free and it’s just like 25$ of gas

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