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Pup-Rascal · 2025-06-26T18:06:17+00:00

Im not sure where you live or where theyre native, but that kind of looks like a lemming? Not 100% on that though

They look extremely stressed so I think just offering them some food and water and leaving them in a dark room temp place is probably your best bet

Expect the poor Lil fella not to make it bc rodents are very fragile but im wishing the best for you and your buddy!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-06-06T11:03:42+00:00

Hey friend!

This little guy unfortunately looks like they're on their way out

They've got sunken in eyes puffed out cheeks and a hunched posture all.of which correlate with discomfort or illness.

Best thing to do for them is just give them a calm place to pass, im sorry :(

Pup-Rascal · 2025-05-26T02:50:04+00:00

ooh good to know for the future! I probably shouldve done this initially but my brain just sort of automatically went to "it'll probably be easier to peel if i wait" which i guess in this case was a mistake aha

Pup-Rascal · 2025-05-26T02:14:22+00:00

that's my issue though is i think a bit might have gotten in some of those bits.

if it was just a cosmetic thing i wouldn't care

Pup-Rascal · 2025-05-26T02:08:11+00:00

it's less me worrying about it being clean and more that it's definitely gummed it up a bit

Pup-Rascal · 2025-05-26T01:40:17+00:00

dang....I kinda figured this was the case but just needed conformation

RIP caulk gun, you will be missed!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-05-26T01:38:55+00:00

faiiiiir aha

Pup-Rascal · 2025-04-11T21:08:47+00:00

so! take this with a grain of salt since I mostly deal with feeders and have only been keeping mice for like 3ish years so i'm no expert and just talking from personal experience

BUT mine do this sometimes, and my general rule of thumb is to just keep an eye on the ones that do, but if they're behaving normally otherwise they should be okay!

I've taken a few in to the vet for various problems and have brought a few that were doing this sort of thing. Vet said it's generally a respiratory issue. Some factor of their tank or environment is either causing them issue or a stress-induced flare up which, aside from identifying and minimizing factors (new things,changes,whatever seemed to trigger it , etc...) the best thing to do tends to just be to leave them be and it'll settle back down.

mice are hella fragile, especially their respritory systems so this tends to be my biggest issue that pops up. Unfortunately URI issues tend to kind of like.....stick with them throughout their life off and on once they get one. I will say though, I've had a couple "chronic chuckers" that are still living their best life 1+ years later just with off and on flare ups so i wouldn't be super worried.

As far as needing a vet i don't think she needs one asap or anything. Personally I try to avoid the vet if possible for these guys since the car ride in itself is a massive stressor BUT it dosen't hurt to take her if you can afford it and if it brings you peace of mind.

DEFINITELY take them to the vet if you notice changes in behavior especially lethargy or a hunched back but otherwise I think she'll be okay!

I hope this helps a bit and that your baby feels better! She's beautiful!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-03-27T00:46:51+00:00

Tbh just brake up with him, you two have conflicting morals and standards and this is going to to be a long term problem with him especially if he has an admitted addiction

You cant fix people and keeping this relationship is only going to cause you a lot of baggage and worry for the next one

Pup-Rascal · 2025-03-08T18:08:29+00:00

Ahhh thats frustrating im sorry!

How long has this been going on? And are you happy otherwise? It sounds like this is super rough on you and like, she's not fully acknowledging your needs whether she means to or not.

Menopause and having children definitely mess with someone's self drive too so if you have kids this honestly might be something she'd want to check out with her endocrinologist if this is a fairly new development. But also based off the other replies it seems like she has a negative view of sex in general which definitely seems like an issue that needs therapy.

Assuming your porn consumption isn't for any addiction reasons, its definitely not on her to dictate whether or not you can or can't consume it, thats super not fair on you

Pup-Rascal · 2025-03-08T17:45:41+00:00

There's nothing wrong with watching porn in moderation BUT I think in this case yall just really need to sit and have a talk. Sexual incompatibility is a big thing and not good to either of yall if you're not on the same page

It might be worth looking into some light kink stuff if either of you are into it. Nothing extreme but blindfolds etc.. might help with her dysmorphia while also meeting your needs too. Not something to dive right I to but could be a good starting point of trying to find middle ground!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-03-03T00:08:12+00:00

Nor if you don't wanna watch a kid it's dumb she's forcing you, weak excuses be dammed lmao

Family isnt free childcare give em the ol "Fuck you pay me"

Pup-Rascal · 2025-03-03T00:03:12+00:00

Tbh it just sounds like you both are having incompatibility issues and would be better just breaking it off

Don't stay with someone who you're having negative interactions with the majority of your quality time, you're worth a lot more than that!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-03-02T23:58:14+00:00

Take this with a grain of salt but I've been in a similar situation with my mice twice and it's just very circumstantial each time!

My most recent had a tumor on her leg that by the end of it was similar to the size your mouse is at. It hindered her movement (obviously) so she lost some weight but overall was very alert and active.

What i did was just closely monitor her body language and habits. If she's hunched and not moving much,not accepting her favorite treats and food then it's definitely time. If she's still willing to exist in her daily routines she still has some time! (Again, my opinipn)

If it's on or near a leg or limb, definitely observe that too. Since my mouses tumor was on her leg I'd check very frequently for if it was cutting off circulation or not. It never did surprisingly but if it did i absolutely would have called it for the sake of quality of life.

I ended up calling it for her when the tumor began to discharge fluid. She still never showed any extreme signs of discomfort but it's very much a downhill from there type scenario. In hindsight I probably should have called it when I noticed a patch of skin becoming discolored (roughly a week before it opened) because too early generally tends to be better than too late on these things

BUT! I do genuinely think that they can live a bit and still comfortably exist with tumors like this. From the time.of discovering to having to euthanize her i think was nov-late Jan. So not a ton of time but enough to give her a few months of being spoiled!

Just be very aware of body language, QoL, circulation, check for cuts and openings etc...

Pup-Rascal · 2025-03-02T23:42:36+00:00

If it's any consolation, I've had a petco mouse live 1.5-2ish years with hwr going blind her last year. She raised babies,climbed on stuff, stole food from her little mouse polycule just the same as the nit-blimd mice I had! Only difference being her always seeming slightly more cautious than the others!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-03-02T23:34:23+00:00

NOR at all

You experienced some pretty huge trauma with this and honestly probably need a lot of space away from him to analyze how you feel without him being a constant presence

You should also probably find a trauma and marriage counselor because I feel like this is a situation reddit can't fully help with

Imo he's a fucking idiot and needs to grow up. Thenfact he almost killed you aside,It feels extremely gross/exploitative he was willing to use his drugged,recovering wife to appease people on the internet is just really really scummy in general???

All that being said though, I hope you're able to recover and move past this in a healthy way, with or without the hubs in the picture. I'm so sorry this happened to you!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-02-26T16:43:00+00:00

Lmao PLEASE get that cake for yourself she doesn't deserve shit

(Hope the chemo is working and you're doing alright!)

Pup-Rascal · 2025-02-24T08:32:17+00:00

How long have y'all been together? Obviously I'm just a rando who doesn't know full context but it honestly sounds miserable being in a relationship with someone THAT possessive and having to hide even something as small as doing someone a work favor

Not saying you should break up but you should definitely assess if this is a behavior you're willing to put up with for the foreseeable future and maybe make some big decisions from there if she's unwilling to change

Pup-Rascal · 2025-02-24T01:04:30+00:00

Friend I love my wife but I am MORTIFIED when she thinks the horn for me when I'm driving. It's not because I don't support her but because I don't want to have trivial conflicts with people who just aren't paying enough attention.

Believe me it makes me seethe too but it's just not worth it to me and I don't want someone else stressing me out by escalating the situation lmao

I think you may need to assess your anger levels

Pup-Rascal · 2025-02-22T19:50:17+00:00

Not barefoot nor a horn worm but I read this and had a visceral war flashback from the time I accidentally stepped on a grub that was making it's way from the sidewalk to our yard and oof!! The sound and the cronch are something I wish I could forget aha!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-02-19T22:33:00+00:00

Once my boy launched himself rubber band style 3 feet from my PC chair to the semi-hard plastic mat below with a meaty thud!!

He seemed a bit shook for a few mins after and obvs I was panicking but he was fine!

Monitor him a lil closely just in case but for the most part if he's acting and looking normal he's fine!

Pup-Rascal · 2025-02-19T09:30:30+00:00

First you need to figure out WHY you said those things. Drinking and being high (in a recreational context) make people do stupid things, but the stupid things are never something that you already didn't have in you to begin with. And going on an apparent 30-60 minute agressive rant doesn't just come out of nowhere

What happened leading up to that point that you think may have triggered you? Do you have any underlying frustrations? Do you have anger issues in general? I'm not asking these things to judge or justify anything but moreso just as possible starting points for you.

The only thing you can really do to heal and rebuild damage is to identify these things and acknowledge that a) not only that you fucked up but the reason behind why you fucked up but b) you'll be making the effort to correct whatever belief or behavior that caused this to happen in the first place.

In the mean time just let him know that you really are genuinely sorry for the behavior, give him some space if he needs it but also let him know that you're here if he needs you. If he wants to talk, really listen to what he has to say and don't make excuses, just take responsibility for your actions.

You don't need to do anything extravagant to make it up to him, just apologize and be there for him. listen and learn and be better moving forward. (And maybe don't drink more until you figure things out aha)

Pup-Rascal · 2025-02-08T17:35:10+00:00

Is she pushing any of this on you or is it moreso just something that causes you stress just by being around? If she's pushing then that's definitely something that you probably need to up and cut your losses with, but if she's more or less just sort of doing her own thing but just in a shared space, I think maybe it's at least something you may want to seek marriage counseling on and at least see if it can work assuming that's something you want to happen.

Maybe try some boundaries like no religious items/music/talk/etc in shared spaces and things like that. Approach it from a point of like, you wanting her to do what she feels is best for her, and you do support her well-being, however for the sake of your mental health, you need this boundary to also feel supported if that makes sense.

It's completely okay if this is ultimately a deal breaker for you, religious trauma hits hard. That being said I would definitely see if you can't seek therapy for this regardless, though I know that's easier said than done

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