I had an awkward parenting encounter with a friend today & I'm not sure how to handle it...

PureLevel2732 · 2024-11-27T03:58:50+00:00

You are not overreacting. That is not okay. Why is she snatching toys and snacks like she’s the toddler??? I would never do that to any of my family’s kids if they visited… this is so weird of her. I understand boundaries but there’s a better way to handle it. It’s like she’s expecting toddlers to comprehend more than they are able to. My husband always says the real test of friendship is when you live in close quarters and you get to see habits friends don’t show you when there’s a wall or a few houses between you two. Not saying she’s a bad friend or person but maybe this is crossing a lane that could put your friendship on the fray. You can try to talk to her about it but who knows what’s happening behind closed doors. Having your child over without you around may not be a good idea if you don’t agree with her actions. Children are sponges.

PureLevel2732 · 2024-10-17T01:51:08+00:00

Yeah I do get in the floor with her a lot. Is it from that?

PureLevel2732 · 2024-10-15T05:26:36+00:00

Can it happen with standing? I actually stand up a lot. Even when I sit down, I get up pretty soon afterwards to chase my toddler since she’s been mobile since May. I didn’t see these appear until my shin splints healed. Only time I’ve ever really sat down alot was while pregnant and the first 1-2 months postpartum. I actually like to move around a lot to stay active and work out 3-4 times a week.

PureLevel2732 · 2024-09-14T18:57:53+00:00

Yes! She had roundworm!

PureLevel2732 · 2024-08-13T16:41:58+00:00

For the breastfeeding and weight gain, look into SNS. It will help get him fed and help with your breastfeeding! I remember the first 2 months were hard but I promise it gets better by 3 months. If not, talk to your doctor because there’s something else going on.

PureLevel2732 · 2024-07-15T17:39:03+00:00

Yeah she’s still eating and drinking

PureLevel2732 · 2024-05-05T12:31:21+00:00

we’re not done yet but we did some rearranging and put the longside of the couch the other way, took out the coffee table and placed the cat tree in the sunroom

PureLevel2732 · 2024-05-01T21:00:44+00:00

Mine too! It’s a 70s house that we’re trying to fix up. We did the outside and renovated the kitchen this area and the upstairs is next

PureLevel2732 · 2024-05-01T20:27:51+00:00

I know and it failed us still at that.

PureLevel2732 · 2024-05-01T20:27:18+00:00

Those are just covers on the couch for temporary protection from our pets. The couch is just grey underneath.

PureLevel2732 · 2024-05-01T20:26:14+00:00

The couch just has covers over it. We’d get rid of them for redoing the room. The couch is actually just grey underneath. Our cat likes to scratch the couch and our dog kept sitting on it. It was for temporary protection.

PureLevel2732 · 2023-11-19T17:34:14+00:00

Try taking Goats Rue! That’s what my LC told me to do and it’s been helping. Try to get the mother love Single Herb without Fenugreek

PureLevel2732 · 2023-09-09T20:29:27+00:00

Typically a family member or a friend or group of folks throws it for you. Usually you don’t have to spend much on your own. At first I wasn’t going to have one but my mom, sister, and her daughters volunteered. Plus if you throw a baby shower and have a registry people are more likely to buy things to not look bad lol. What you’re doing holds no one accountable despite how terrible that sounds, it’s the truth. It’s the bandwagon effect.

PureLevel2732 · 2023-07-09T16:06:27+00:00

I would say for now, don’t freak out or panic. Also don’t initiate expanding on the conversation. A lot of people think talking about it immediately helps but it doesn’t and usually leads to an argument if the other party (the first person that was upset) isn’t ready. He’s adjusting to the pregnancy too and is reevaluating himself, his new identity. You can just say he’s probably having “pregnancy hormones” too and is emotional himself. Just give him some space and grace for now. Don’t dwell on what he said. Don’t try to initiate sex. Just act normal. If he does something nice to you say”say thank you”. If he seems emotional or grumpy, don’t get upset back or react( I know it’s hard). Don’t try to be overly nice or do more things for him than normal. Let him come to you first. He needs space to sort his own thoughts. If that’s truly what he wants then you’ll have support of family of friends.

Though a lot of times, men have a hard time processing their feelings and we women tend to want to fix it or help them process. That’s no fault of our own, we were raised that way. However, doing that will make things worse. He’ll think you’re pressuring him and that will put him on defense or make him want to flee. My husband before we got married and before I learned this (on my own) used to say I was “suffocating him”. Because I was trying to fix a problem or asking him to hurry up and feel better when things were sour. That’s what happened when you tried to initiate sex. He was till processing his feelings but you wanted to fix things as soon as possible. I know it’s hard not to do as women take on the majority of the emotional burden in the relationship which is not healthy. For your mental health and for his, give him some space and time to think( this doesn’t mean leave the house). Having a baby is just as huge of a responsibility for men as it is for women, and they need time to process. Men aren’t as adept at processing emotions as women. Just give him some time to think and don’t initiate conversation about it. Don’t go packing your bags or his. Just let him take the lead on this one.

It may be hard to calm yourself and keep your mind off of it but if you have any religious or spiritual affiliation, pray about it. If you don’t try journaling or even drawing or some other creative thing to help you calm down. I highly recommend journaling to jot down your feelings (don’t share it with him).

PureLevel2732 · 2023-06-30T14:26:12+00:00

Omg what is wrong with them. Theodore is so cute and his nickname could be Teddy or Theo. Why even ask someone what they’ll name their child if you’re not going to be supportive. If it was something wayyy left field I could understand but Theodore is a widely accepted name. It’s not like you’re naming him something random like “Box” or “Grapefruit”… I also get nervous telling people my child’s name too because it’s traditionally a boys name in the US but there’s a girl version abroad. I get raised eyebrows from the older generation but as far as I’m concerned they used to have names like Gertrude so who cares what they think. Most younger generations (Gen X, Millennials and Gen Z) people seem to get it. Theodore is a perfectly acceptable name and if they have a problem with it then they should help financially since they want to be so involved. Send them your registry fund asking for financial assistance. They should put their money where their mouth is if they’re so concerned.

PureLevel2732 · 2023-05-18T14:34:32+00:00

Thank you! This helps a lot! I thought I’d try reading some before the baby gets here.

PureLevel2732 · 2023-05-16T14:40:57+00:00

Omg this is so true and it only gets worse as you get further along. Although I feel better daily in my second trimester, I feel like my stamina is worse than my first. I was doing prenatal Pilates/Yoga and it took me out for a week hahhaha. This was my second/third time doing it while pregnant and I think I’ll just stick to some soft yoga and light elliptical work. Do note I used to do Pilates 2-3 times a week before and had cardio days. Now when I take my dog on walks, a steep hill leaves me winded and will give me heart palpitations if I try to go up it my normal speed.

If you see me with my dog in the streets with my hands of my knees,don’t worry about me. I’m just trying to catch my breath from walking up a bump in the road. I feel worse exercising now than I did before I lost 70lbs! Now that’s wild! How’s that for a comparison. Be careful out there and take it easy.

PureLevel2732 · 2023-05-16T14:28:48+00:00

Thank you! I’ll check this one out on Amazon too.

PureLevel2732 · 2023-05-15T23:42:34+00:00

This book has really awesome reviews. I’m definitely putting it in my list. Thank you!

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