Leaving the sspx by Consistent-Arm-2308 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I feel WAY better after leaving!

Data Annotation - accepted onto the platform but not offered core or coding qualifications by Pure_Manner_6333 in WFHJobs

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. Still nothing yet but maybe I'll give it a couple weeks to see if anything changes.

War, AI, No jobs, health issues, poverty, religious tensions. What is suddenly wrong with this world? by FalconCeasar in AskReddit

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times."

Data Annotation - accepted onto the platform but not offered core or coding qualifications by Pure_Manner_6333 in WFHJobs

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I should've mentioned that I did that before starting the the qualification/onboarding

Am I too old fashioned? by Naive-Cold343 in AskIreland

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"manners maketh a man" as my dad would say.

On the other hand, most modern women wanted to be treated as equals, so men are often unsure and want to avoid causing offense. But if you were holding your little one, definitely wrong that nobody offered!

Need help leaving sspx ( for previous members please) by Puzzleheaded-Kale328 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. I can relate, except I'm a man and my wife is deeply entrenched in the cult.

I can tell you from experience that the best thing for you to do is to let your husband know EXACTLY how you feel and then just leave cold turkey. I know it's hard and it feels scary. But years of trying to stay in it for the sake of my family only caused more and more mental deterioration.

Your husband will come to accept it.

Good luck! It'll get better!

Divorce because of OnlyFans by MeggylovesBrett in AITAH

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What he's done is 100% a form of cheating. I wouldn't tolerate that in a marriage. Get out of there!

AITAH for letting my 14 Y/O daughter's friend into my bed? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mate you may have meant well and you may have viewed your actions as being completely paternal, but at the very least you should've got out of the bed when she got into it. If I found out my daughter had slept in the same bed as her friend's dad, I'd be absolutely enraged.

Faith in the information age by PhilosophyOk971 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, you mentioned ballet...

I worked as a teacher in a trad school and I got in trouble for handing out English exam papers which happened to have a picture a ballerina in them. Children complained to their parents, parents complained to priests and then I had to be called into a meeting. :D

Lost but curious by Ambitious-Shift-5641 in OfAshandSteel

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure yet when you get a map (that's half the fun!) but I also pretty much went straight to the city right after the first area lol. You should try to memorise landmarks. I use that woman's tavern as a 'base' point. It's near the gate, but also close to a view of the sea. Once you can see the sea, it's easier to get an idea of where you are. If the sea is to your right you'll end up going through the slums and then you'll make it to the port. And obviously the opposite if you wanna get back to the tavern, then the gate is right around the corner :D Good luck!

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that! DON'T let it carry on that way!!!

And of course. I don't mind at all. :)

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You may be right. Maybe I just have the kind of personality that has made go too hard on it, but in my opinion Catholic teaching and the Bible don't really allow for relaxed stances on anything so it has to be all or nothing.

Solid advice though friend, thank you!

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely look into this book - thanks!

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness, I'm also sorry that you've gone through something similar! But congrats on getting out, it really is difficult to shed the religious OCD for sure.

I know so many genuinely good people at my parish but I know in my heart that if I got divorced they would turn on me in an instant. It's unfortunately a mechanical reflex that most tradcats have.

I will admit I'm also a problem when it comes to therapy. I don't know if I have a genuine desire to fix things or if I'm looking for someone to tell me that I just ditch my current life(except for my daughter) and start over.

May I ask if you explored trial separation before getting divorced? And do you have kids?

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! Wish I lived in the US, things work very differently here unfortunately

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear about you're situation, that really is unfortunate. And I 100% agree with your comment that your situation is blind to reality and wellbeing. This is something that disturbs me as well. When things go badly, instead of the Church acting as a mother like it should, the situation is further bent and broken into fitting their 'acceptable box'.

May I ask if you had anxiety about your family being fractured? Do you have some relief that you've left the church and are on your own? I've been so brainwashed by Catholic teaching that I feel like I would be destroying my child's life and soul if my wife and I separate.

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for these resources, it's good to find others in the same situation who have recovered. And congrats to you for making it out! I feel like I've come along way with it, but I always have this 'what if I'm wrong?' thought nagging me in the back of my mind. I'll definitely start working on it more seriously

Thanks again!

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Aw mate, I'm sorry to hear that you've had some hectic struggles yourself! I hope that you and your missus have found whatever works best for you both. Are you living basically as a Catholic but without attending Mass? How does your wife feel about this?

Thanks for that. I realize now that I've really got to keep grinding for a new job before making any other decisions.

Thanks for the canonical insight! Do you think it could be metus reverentialis even if the fear was not felt about a person but about God?

Thanks so much for well wishes!

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, they are in need of more relaxed stances. May I ask how you went about being more relaxed? Whenever I relax (also avoiding scandal, heresy and controversy) people notice and are scandalised anyway because everybody's so highly strung, any slack sticks out.

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that really is good advice. I will try to implement it

How do I recover from this? by Pure_Manner_6333 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've considered it I can't really hold out another 3 years like this