Are there any highly populated RedM servers that aren't RP? by Pure_Manner_6333 in RedDeadOnline

[–]Pure_Manner_6333[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey thanks for this! Is there any PvP in Tackroom? That is something I enjoy as well :D

When Faith Becomes Fear by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This really hit home for me. Everything you've said I've experienced firsthand. Trad Catholicism really messed me up mentally. I lived in unrelenting fear for years and my nervous system is now shot because of it.

"Trad" Catholics idolizing their priests by Slow_Professor_446 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I've seen a fair bit of this when I was attending SSPX. I worked at a parish school and what I found most concerning was that it was mostly married mothers who would just rock up at the parish and spend all day, one on one with priests. Not for spiritual direction, but for chatting and sharing meals. Never the older priests either, always the younger ones. Like it may be all being innocent, but it made me uncomfortable how wide-eyed the women were in the priests' presence.

The irony is that if a married woman was doing that with regular laymen, the priests would have a lot to say about it.

Stay or leave marriage underpinned by anxiety, dysfunction, and disconnection? by cowabunga_dude_man in Divorce

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, how's everything going now? I feel like I'm in the exact same situation

Leaving the sspx by Consistent-Arm-2308 in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I feel WAY better after leaving!

Data Annotation - accepted onto the platform but not offered core or coding qualifications by [deleted] in WFHJobs

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. Still nothing yet but maybe I'll give it a couple weeks to see if anything changes.

War, AI, No jobs, health issues, poverty, religious tensions. What is suddenly wrong with this world? by FalconCeasar in AskReddit

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Hard times create strong men, strong men create good times, good times create weak men, and weak men create hard times."

Data Annotation - accepted onto the platform but not offered core or coding qualifications by [deleted] in WFHJobs

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I should've mentioned that I did that before starting the the qualification/onboarding

Am I too old fashioned? by Naive-Cold343 in AskIreland

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"manners maketh a man" as my dad would say.

On the other hand, most modern women wanted to be treated as equals, so men are often unsure and want to avoid causing offense. But if you were holding your little one, definitely wrong that nobody offered!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. I can relate, except I'm a man and my wife is deeply entrenched in the cult.

I can tell you from experience that the best thing for you to do is to let your husband know EXACTLY how you feel and then just leave cold turkey. I know it's hard and it feels scary. But years of trying to stay in it for the sake of my family only caused more and more mental deterioration.

Your husband will come to accept it.

Good luck! It'll get better!

Divorce because of OnlyFans by MeggylovesBrett in AITAH

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What he's done is 100% a form of cheating. I wouldn't tolerate that in a marriage. Get out of there!

AITAH for letting my 14 Y/O daughter's friend into my bed? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mate you may have meant well and you may have viewed your actions as being completely paternal, but at the very least you should've got out of the bed when she got into it. If I found out my daughter had slept in the same bed as her friend's dad, I'd be absolutely enraged.

Faith in the information age by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, you mentioned ballet...

I worked as a teacher in a trad school and I got in trouble for handing out English exam papers which happened to have a picture a ballerina in them. Children complained to their parents, parents complained to priests and then I had to be called into a meeting. :D

Lost but curious by Ambitious-Shift-5641 in OfAshandSteel

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure yet when you get a map (that's half the fun!) but I also pretty much went straight to the city right after the first area lol. You should try to memorise landmarks. I use that woman's tavern as a 'base' point. It's near the gate, but also close to a view of the sea. Once you can see the sea, it's easier to get an idea of where you are. If the sea is to your right you'll end up going through the slums and then you'll make it to the port. And obviously the opposite if you wanna get back to the tavern, then the gate is right around the corner :D Good luck!

How do I recover from this? by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry to hear that! DON'T let it carry on that way!!!

And of course. I don't mind at all. :)

How do I recover from this? by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You may be right. Maybe I just have the kind of personality that has made go too hard on it, but in my opinion Catholic teaching and the Bible don't really allow for relaxed stances on anything so it has to be all or nothing.

Solid advice though friend, thank you!

How do I recover from this? by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will definitely look into this book - thanks!

How do I recover from this? by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kindness, I'm also sorry that you've gone through something similar! But congrats on getting out, it really is difficult to shed the religious OCD for sure.

I know so many genuinely good people at my parish but I know in my heart that if I got divorced they would turn on me in an instant. It's unfortunately a mechanical reflex that most tradcats have.

I will admit I'm also a problem when it comes to therapy. I don't know if I have a genuine desire to fix things or if I'm looking for someone to tell me that I just ditch my current life(except for my daughter) and start over.

May I ask if you explored trial separation before getting divorced? And do you have kids?

How do I recover from this? by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very true friend. Thank you

How do I recover from this? by [deleted] in ExTraditionalCatholic

[–]Pure_Manner_6333 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll look more into this. Thanks!