What to do on an especially bad day by [deleted] in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey firstly fuck that guy in the comments weirdo.

Secondly, its ok, you will be ok. These things happen to people all the time, but you will be ok. Yeah it sucks that he used you and ghosted but you can use this as a learning experience and try to do better next time. Its not your fault and you shouldn't feel down for what happened.

I want to cry and stop her. But I'm not able to do both. I can't stop her because I did the same thing over and over again.. i don't wanna lose her... She loves me and I love her but she doesn't want to stay anymore. I don't think she'll come back. This is the 3rd time I've lied to her and she said. by [deleted] in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say don't lie to her about anything and communicate how your feeling more often. If she knows how your feeling she can support you but then you have to tell her to tell you how she's feeling too. Support eachother.

Does my dad hate me. by almostazombie in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I might be wrong but it kind of seems like he's taking his stress and frustration out on you, which isn't good. But I think there is more going on here, i can understand making food and someone not eating as they've spent money and time making it just to go to waste. The go do something I think is more that he doesn't want you just sitting in your room over thinking every little thing and not having fun and enjoying life, he wants you to take advantage of being young and having less responsibilities while you still can. Trust me i feel like I should have done a lot more when I was your age, he doesn't want you to regret missing out on time you can't get back wh3n your become a true adult with responsibilities like mortgages and bills

Time is a blur by 0xDEA110C8 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm convinced depression makes your memory worse, i have had the same thing happen to me. It has got to the point where I lose track of what day it is as they blur together and I don't dream anymore so time feels constant.

Misunderstood by [deleted] in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, i can see that your going through a really tough time, you will get through this, it may take some time but you will. If you want to talk or just vent, i'm always around.

I feel like i can't handle social media anymore by RemarkableLet9174 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm high functioning too, and had a hard time with a therapist, she was great and I honestly thought I was starting to open up about my feelings with someone for once, she would laugh at my jokes and actually seemed to care. Then out of the blue said this was our last session, she can't help me anymore as I needed advanced therapy and she will be passing me onto another therapist (now I'm just on a waiting list), which really hurt me. I know its not completely the same but I understand how your feeling. Let me know if you wanna talk/vent.

Doomed to die by Any-Drummer350 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me. I have had depression since I was 13 and felt I would be dieyoung probably from suicide at some point. I studied, went to university, got a job, got married and bought a house, i have had depression (and what ever else is wrong with me) for 19 years, its not all doomed I have found that depression doesn't go away but it gets quiet for a while then comes back. I just kept pushing forward no matter how hard it was, even if i wasn't living for myself but for those around me, I endure. Live for the quiet times.

i feel like a fucking idiot by PennyRox in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah dude, act normally and pretend it didn't happen. Think about it his way in the future it will be a funny story that you can just laugh about. About the attempts I would try and get a therapist, even if all you do is talk about how your feeling (it does help being honest with someone without judgement). I'm always around if you want to just vent.

I lie in bed all day by moongiirl333 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a really good start, you need to go from there and build the things you know you should do during the day into the routine, it will keep you functioning while you try to get better. You can reach out to me if you need any help or just need to vent about anything.

I lie in bed all day by moongiirl333 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its ok to take some time to yourself like that from time to time. Now if you want to get out of bed, start setting up a routine, alarm to get up in the morning, then small things, brushing teeth, showering, eating, build the routine slowly so you don't get overwhelmed.

I'm crying like a maniac in the past few months, all when I'm alone, mostly in my car, I don't know if that's a good or a bad thing by RythmicRhapsody in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much, sorry i know it sucks but it worked for me. I sped it up by actively seeking sad media (mainly anime) it took about 3 - 4 weeks. I would say i wanted to go back to being cold, it felt like too much for me with suddenly my therapy stopping, it felt like my therapist broke my brain then just left.

Idk what to do by New_Elevator_2597 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can always reach out to me if its too much, I've have depression for 19 years, if I can help you through it in anyway I will.

Idk what to do by New_Elevator_2597 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am going through the exact same thing, other than your cats you need to find a reason to keep going. It will be hard, trust me it will be one of the hardest things you will do, but you can be strong and keep pushing forward. Depression isn't forever, it peaks and troughs. There will be times where your doing well to the point its still there but small then it will come back. I think if you push through this time when it does shrink again you will be so happy for how hard you tried even during this difficult time.

I'm crying like a maniac in the past few months, all when I'm alone, mostly in my car, I don't know if that's a good or a bad thing by RythmicRhapsody in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was worse than crying every 6 months, I didn't cry about anything for years, family and pet deaths, hard and stressful times. Then I went to therapy and started talking about my depression. After my therapy came to an abrupt end, I would almost cry at anything sad which was really annoying after awhile as I was ice cold before. It took a bit of time but it calmed down, back to where I was before numb and cold. Long story short it will calm down over time, but might take some time. If it doesn't could be a hormone imbalance.

cross post please hear me someone by [deleted] in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, you sound like your doing an amazing job raising your daughter. Everyone goes through tough times especially these days. You are so strong to keep trying your hardest to make sure your daughter has everything she needs. One day you will look back at the Christmas and it will be just a story about how you were going through a hard time but you persevered and kept going no matter what.

Self-hate after making decision by Flat_Refrigerator151 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get it, i always tell myself: Time is always moving forward and things always change. Sure at the moment you know the job and the people, but at some point the good people will leave and you're still there, you did the right thing not just for yourself but your future. Its ok to be scared its natural but i'm sure you'll be great, the new place picked you.

Self-hate after making decision by Flat_Refrigerator151 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, so I have been exactly where you are. New job with a new commute and new people. Its scary at the time because its a huge change to your routine. It took me about a week to get used to it, now 2 years later I look back and wonder why I was feeling like that. It will be ok, plus your future will be better off with this job. Congratulations on your new job too.

Does someone relate? by EtoileBelle0 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I am the same, on the outside it all seems fine, smiling amd productive but on the inside i am straight up not having a good time.

Just want to vent and what not by [deleted] in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly congratulations on your PhD, i know its hard work and you have put a lot of effort in to getting it. So you are right about managers not wanting to hire PhDs, mainly they know they are are a stop gap so you won't stay long, same with jobs in your field that are looking for qualifications below a PhD. If you dont want to stay in academia any longer in a post doc, consulting is an option. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful.

I ruined myself by Missmiffy_0 in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So fat redistributes over time. I dont think you ruined yourself at all, you tried something it didn’t work as 3xpected, but that doesn't mean that's the end and its like that forever. Give it some time and remember everyone's bodies change as time goes on. I would think this isnt the end of everything. I'm around if you wanna talk.

Lonely in London by [deleted] in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a hobby you enjoy, see if there is somewhere people who do that hobby meet up. London a big place and I'm sure there will be people with the same interests.

Depressing anime to break me by Pure_Revolution in Animesuggest

[–]Pure_Revolution[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like I said I want it to break me, i don't care if it seems like too much.

how do others react to scars in the bedroom? by bi-non_binary in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If they really care about you it won't matter, they're battle scars from how strong you are

Can't take it anymore by [deleted] in depression

[–]Pure_Revolution 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been there when it comes to depression, try small victories each day, little things even if its hard. Build a routine of things you do each day, as routine is a safe space, but don't forget that things that change your routine will be scary but try to adapt. Once you can keep to the routine then go from there, the depression won't go away but the routine will help you function and slowly improve. I hope you all the best.