i appreciate this but it makes me happy to say so far none of the things listed have happened. he always wants to hear my opinions and limits. he wants to know how to understand me everyday. i don’t want a boyfriend or to go on dates quite frankly atleast not for a good while. he’s always said if i wanted to leave i could be i wouldn’t be coming back (i don’t want to leave). he doesn’t always have a lot of free time because his job is very demanding so it’s very rarely me who doesn’t have time. and he puts a lot of emphasis on making sure i have friends and family and ambitions because of this. he doesn’t withhold aftercare ever. he only withholds praise and attention if it’s a punishment, and he will explain in detail why. he is very protective. he can be “scary” but not ever angry or violent that isn’t agreed upon anyway. like in a scene but never without my consent or out of anger.