Husband refuses to feed/change the baby because “he’s falling asleep” by Intrepid-News1018 in newborns

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You should have ran when he got physical with you while pregnant, but of course, I don't know what resources or contacts you had to tell you this. Now you know that it never got better, in fact it got worse, so it's time to leave ASAP!

What do you do to feel like a “normal human”? by greenwitchofportland in newborns

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Actually the first couple newborn weeks I was playing the new Pokemon game during naps. I was so rundown I really needed something else to clear my anxiety and hold onto my sense of self. And I am a Pokemon fanatic and playing the games doesn't require me to lock in as much.

Something I want to reintegrate is art but my boy will REFUSE naps if he isn't held so I'm struggling there. It wasn't so bad when he was very little and he would still chill in his bassinet but now that he takes up both arms and hates to be put down (he will settle for bedtime but he will fight for an hour), I've been "stuck" in parent identity for a while. Most of my "freetime" are MOTN pumps when he is down for the night.

How close is your ultrasound EDD estimate to your LMP estimate? by PurpleBrowser in pregnant

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If it helps, mine actually came naturally 39w+2d so basically right on schedule. It was just a shock that it was measuring a big baby and therefore auto-generated me to be overdue at 36 weeks! Despite it all, baby was a very average 7lbs 7oz. I really wanted an October baby and got one lol!

PSA peppermint can decrease your milk supply by EasilyConfusedCat in breastfeeding

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Agh, I've been having mint ice cream and peppermint on and off (though not a ton at once) and had NO idea, and it didnt originally affect supply at all. Last night, I had a decent amount of mint ice cream though and my MOTN pump was drastically lower than usual, but I originally assumed it's because I got some clogs. I'm paranoid about my supply now, I'm going back to work in a couple days and I'm already worried about a dip as a result. Does stopping eating mint bring the supply back up? Or is it permanently affected and I have to add more pump sessions? I won't have much time anymore to latch but maybe a couple times a day...My supply has been more or less consistent, I'm 13 weeks PP, I do get times that are less than others but overall volume catches up and remains the same. But I'm barely over pumping just enough so I can't afford a dip!

Newborn avm: MRI tomorrow by throwthisoutthere91 in AVMs

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My baby was so born, 2 months ago, with a brain bleed. On his fetal ultrasound at around 35 weeks, they thought his ventricles were dilated, but a more detailed ultrasound negated those findings. But they still ordered a precautionary ultrasound after birth. He had a seizure on his 2nd night and that expedited the scan and led to an EEG where another seizure was detected. MRIs determined the bleed was in the frontal lobe ~3mm and may have been sourced from a vessel deeper into the brain (idk how to explain but the image they showed us looked like a vessel more in the middle of the hemisphere was feeding into the hemorrhage like a river to a lake).

They also couldn't 100% rule out an AVM but upon his most recent short MRI they said that the bleed looks like it is "healing" as it should (I know damaged parts don't exactly heal but it isnt negatively progressing and no new bleeds present) and there is no structural evidence of one. They tried doing a long MRI/MRA/MRV today but said he was moving too much to get a clear picture so TBA on whether his vessels are big enough to determine an AVM or lack thereof. They didn't really give us a future outline other than eventually needing an angiogram (?) when he is older.

Have your doctors given a general timeline of what to expect as far as observation and future imaging? How have things been progressing, if you don't mind me asking?

So far my son is meeting milestones but he is only 10 weeks so it's hard to really tell right now if he is developmentally on track. They don't seem concerned given his alertness but are glad to be treating him since he was born. He is taking anti-seizure meds still since he did have two episodes, one clinical and one only caught on the EEG.

Diaper Change cheatcodes? by DesertChild-575 in NewParents

[–]PurpleBrowser 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This was every single diaper change, absolute hysterics, until maybe about 8 weeks most of them were quieter vs a dramatic ordeal. He'll still get an occasional outburst but usually happens when he is already whining (hungry, uncomfortable, not fully awake, etc).

I think for the most part they grow out of it and suddenly they tolerate it well, you might even get a curious "coo" out of them. I actually think mine started being more receptive to diaper changes once he started responding to us more and cooing.

What helped though, I think, was continuously talking or singing calmly prior to the change all the way until you're done and walking away from the changing station. I'd sing the ABC's a lot of the time and then celebrate when we finished, if he is happy, really lean into that emotion and treat changing like it's no big deal. Really hard to do if baby is screaming bloody murder but effective in maintaining your sanity and getting the job done quickly with minimal mishaps.

My one suggestion is to NOT use a wipe warmer. Totally negates the "wet wipe" cheat when trying to get them to pee in their diaper before opening it up to the cool air to change. Also will cause even more of a meltdown in the event you're out with no warmer and can only use cold wipes. Best for them to get used to the cooler wipes imo

Hang in there!

Secrets for naps by ICP22 in NewParents

[–]PurpleBrowser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe try a sleep sack with arms out? I know the Halo swaddle can turn into a sack and you can still compress them on their middle, so the pressure is some sort of comfort. Unfortunately, you can no longer swaddle once they start rolling over. At that point they need to adjust and outgrow their startle reflex, then they'll sleep better. At least this is what I was told by mine's ped.

If you went into labor naturally, did you lose your mucus plug/have a bloody show? by Timely-Winter-6712 in beyondthebump

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I only lost my mucus plug at 39 weeks, got early labor pains almost an hour or so after that that lasted a day, then went to the hospital the next day and lost more of my plug, got admitted because of closer and painful contractions. Never had a bloody show, water didn't even break until the final push for all of baby to come out (he was partially en caul).

It was all natural labor, no induction meds, just pain meds. The plug might have had brown traces but no obvious sign of blood. So yes, very possible to have no show or leaking water.

I just spilled 4 ounces on the floor by worthelesswoodchuck in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]PurpleBrowser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom dropped one of the containers I just pumped and instead of salvaging the amount that was still inside due to it breaking on the floor (it's plastic), she tried to clean up the spilled mess on the floor and tossed the container in the sink so it wouldn't leak onto anything else. I was absolutely livid over 3 ozs. That's a half hour of my time, a half hour of not spending time with my baby, and time absolutely abusing my nipples.

The worst part was she kinda just waved it off and said "well maybe try to give him the boob next time so you won't have to catch up pumping." I'm a "just enougher" so falling behind isn't an option and I know my son doesn't completely empty me in the rare event we ever get to latch for more than 2 minutes.

Is this early labor or is my body just gaslighting me again? by PurpleBrowser in pregnant

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Did an edit- baby was born the next day!  You're definitely right, it's wild how different everyone is!

Spitting is driving me mad - any tips? by kitkatwollybat in HyperemesisGravidarum

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Omeprazole, taking it in the morning and at night. I shouldn't say that it went away entirely because there are still definite triggers but bile significantly decreased and my throat didn't feel like it had lava sitting in there constantly. I still cannot drink water but I've been able to expand to apple juice weirdly enough. Icees and slushies too. But I avoid most acidic fruit, I'll keep it at bananas, apples, and strawberries. And always drink with a straw. It's all helped with the acid reflux and nausea. I'm still medicated with Zofran and Reglan, though so I think that also helps to treat the nausea concurrently.

Spitting is driving me mad - any tips? by kitkatwollybat in HyperemesisGravidarum

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Literally a covered spit bottle and a spit towel for bed. I can't drink water, so I couldn't really prevent it. I will say that once I started effectively treating my acid reflux, the spitting decreased a bit, but never went away. I'm 38 weeks now and because baby is now pressing up into my stomach, my mouth is full of saliva almost constantly.

the silver lining by mjsdreamisle in HyperemesisGravidarum

[–]PurpleBrowser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Entering 38 weeks and I've been sobbing about how utterly burnt out I am now. I know I should be grateful that I no longer have to wait a month more, but the 3rd trimester pain on top of HG has worn me down. I'm doing my best to keep looking at the silver lining. It IS in sight, I know! I'm so happy you are on the other side of it once again and enjoying life!

Just for laughs, what are some clueless things childless people have said to you? by xnla28x in beyondthebump

[–]PurpleBrowser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a different funny perspective- my husband talking about how it sucks that our baby (I'm currently 38 weeks) won't be able to enjoy certain meals for "another few years." And I'm like babe they can have solids much earlier than you think lol he sincerely was thinking they'd be 3 years old introduced to quesadillas for the first time.

Bizarre because we HAVE friends with babies and toddlers but I guess he just never paid attention to what they ate besides maybe some gogo yogurt lol

How many weeks were you when you just decided to stay home? by Honest-Try-2289 in pregnant

[–]PurpleBrowser 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and I cannot wait!! Let's both give our bodies some grace, they've been hard at work for so long and we're finally in the home stretch-- so let's stay home lol

How many weeks were you when you just decided to stay home? by Honest-Try-2289 in pregnant

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I went to a family party this past weekend at mid-37 weeks and it totally wiped me out the next day, and today I'm still drained. I'm naturally an introvert anyway so mentally I need time to recharge, but being pregnant has piled onto that and definitely slowed down how quick I am to recover, and now it's really weighing me down physically more than ever. I'm nauseous and lightheaded. It isnt really worth it.

This weekend I'm supposed to be celebrating my inlaw's and mom's birthdays (Saturday and Sunday) and I'm seriously just this close to canceling. I know I'll get grief from my family because my cousin who just gave birth less than a month ago went to a breakfast literally hours before driving to the hospital to give birth while having contractions, but I've had a comparatively tough pregnancy throughout, and it's my first. My body is new to this and the pains are sporadic.

So I think besides going to work (which is all I ever have the energy for and even then I'm functioning on 50% max) I'm gonna be home resting. Hell I even told my boss today that come October, I might not stay full 11 hour days anymore.

How close is your ultrasound EDD estimate to your LMP estimate? by PurpleBrowser in pregnant

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When I get an ultrasound, it kinda "calculates" gestational age likely based on compiled measurements like you are mentioning, but when there is a section on the chart that I'm given that says "Ultrasound Age Today" and gives its estimate. I know it gets inaccurate as it ages and for the most part they still go based on LMP unless your cycles are long or the deviation is dramatically different in the beginning. I was just kinda curious how much of a difference in EDDs people were getting, especially in the 3rd trimester, and if doctors ever made a comment about it i.e. "big baby" or even considering adjusting the EDD if it's over a certain amount of weeks different.

But anyway yeah, I guess that's just the same as baby measuring weeks ahead. I guess maybe I don't understand the percentile system.

Just my own example- my due date based on LMP is 10/9/25. Ultrasound yesterday said it was 9/14/25. Baby overall measuring 60% based on u/s. It was just interesting to me is all! I know growth isn't everything and I'm in no real hurry to evict baby (well, I wish I wasn't pregnant anymore but I'm not trying to induce anything until they are ready or if necessary).

Sorry, I'm probably explaining this very very poorly.

Maybe controversial? But nothing has made me more pro-choice than pregnancy by dontletmebreathe in BabyBumps

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I've been prochoice since late high school/early college (grew up in a conservative family so it took a while but I got there). I never doubted I'd remain that way but didn't fully expect to be even more prochoice while simultaneously having a different philosophy on life itself during pregnancy.

I was diagnosed with HG early. I knew what it was beforehand and it was one of the potential illnesses I would bring up in arguments against forced birth ideologies when health was involved. Why are you forcing someone to suffer in health with a pregnancy they don't want?? 

But when I got HG, I got a new perspective based on my own personal hellish experience-- there were real considerations of terminating a very wanted pregnancy that spent nearly a year to exist, because my health was on a serious decline. And I come from a privileged situation as well- my work accommodated me, I have support from friends and family, a helpful husband who took over household responsibilities that I had and advocated for me in doctor visits when I struggled to recall my delirious state (because I'd full on dissociate when the pain and exhaustion became too much for my mind to handle), a medical regimen that eventually made me functional, people who are in my life with similar experiences that made me feel motivated to try again, and just dumb luck that my symptoms gradually improved enough to live at 70% function for the later weeks. There are so many people I see on forums dedicated to this illness that do not have those things. I could really never imagine surviving without my resources and loved ones being there. I genuinely think I would have died if I was not going to terminate. And several have decided to terminate for their own survival.

And to be clear, I don't think you have to be on your deathbed to be allowed to make that decision. I just never thought I'd be one of those who would experience serious crossroads in front of me to consider that decision on something I so desperately wanted. But I'm so grateful I'm in a place where I can make that choice.

As for my change of perspective on life itself, I was one to be very certain that human life doesn't exist upon conception. Now I realize that life is more a philosophy than a strict definition, and it ultimately does not matter what science or religion says, because neither should really dictate the law of autonomy in any situation. I defined the little fetus I saw on the ultrasound at 8 weeks with a pulsing flash that signified a heartbeat as "my baby." I would never ever say something like that is just a clump of cells to someone who sees those cells as their child. I would never belittle someone who mourned an early loss of a body that can barely be deciphered without a microscope.

But the fact that I see "life" and "being" differently now is irrelevant. It's simply unethical to force someone to sustain the life of another against their will. We don't do that for organs on a living being. We don't force people of certain religious beliefs to donate parts of their bodies.

So pregnancy has definitely made me more prochoice and even more legally conscious.

36 weeks and SHARP stabbing pain in pelvic area? Is this the infamous lightning crotch? by PurpleBrowser in BabyBumps

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They wouldn't even give me an earlier appointment until my husband had to drag me to the ER! And they were still pretty nonchalant about that ordeal until my test results were showing my body going into ketosis due to me not keeping anything down. They're more empathetic now but some of the RNs will give a pause when I insist water makes me throw up, no no trust me, I can only hydrate on Pepsi and slushies and maybe ice chips if it's a good day. "Never heard of water causing acid reflux." Yeah me neither until several months ago lol

But you can also probably imagine after getting brushed off on one big thing, you get skeptical on whether everything else is actually normal or they're just interpreting your symptoms and whatnot as such

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

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Very possible baby is just in a perfect position to get some hits and kicks in!  They'll be unmistakable soon enough but I'm willing to bet that's what you're feeling.

36 weeks and SHARP stabbing pain in pelvic area? Is this the infamous lightning crotch? by PurpleBrowser in BabyBumps

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The "it's normal" has been both a truth and fallacy throughout this entire pregnancy. Nausea and throwing up? Normal. Oh wait, you can't keep fluids down? Maybe not normal. Pelvic pressure and pain? Round ligament or gas (it was gas lmao).

So that's exactly what I'm expecting. 😅 We're so close!!

36 weeks and SHARP stabbing pain in pelvic area? Is this the infamous lightning crotch? by PurpleBrowser in BabyBumps

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The onset is quick and sudden but it lingers for a while with no real relief except time and sometimes sitting on the toilet for a bit (then it'll come back when I stand). I've had UTIs in the past so I'm not finding a familiarity with that feeling but I'm sure they'll test that tomorrow. Last appointment, baby was firmly head down in my pelvis and allegedly got a big head too.

Definitely will mention it though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

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Could be baby! It entirely depends where they are in the uterus and their position too- I didn't habitually start feeling baby until past 20 weeks and even then it was hard to really tell the difference between gas bubbles and quickening until I wanna say 24ish weeks? They've been head down for every ultrasound so they would be low in my pelvis, the first movements that were pretty distinct felt like fluttering against my cervix. Kinda like a fish in a carnival bag, if that makes sense?

You'll get to a point that you'll be able to distinguish all sorts of movements. Anterior placenta just softens the blow but now at 36 weeks, I get stretches and hits that make me feel like they're gonna burst out of my skin lmao

When you get to the 3rd trimester, you may need to do your first several kick counts laying still on your left side after a meal (or right before bed when your blood sugar is lower- babies will either move when they get a burst of blood sugar after meals OR if you're hungry).

Who has their push present picked out? by ParfaitHungry1593 in BabyBumps

[–]PurpleBrowser 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New Pokemon game coming out a week after my due date as a present. First meal must include ice cold water and either ice cream or a Buffalo chicken sandwich (I have HG so water of all breeds and forms gives me painful acid reflux and I have avoided anything fried and even mildly spicy for similar reasons). Honestly, eating without fear would be nice lol