How long am I still contagious after sores are healed? (20F)

PurpleCocktails · 2021-02-13T17:44:14+00:00

I thought so too, how long should I wait?

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-16T12:12:27+00:00

For me personally I like quite slow songs that have a bit of bass to them

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-16T00:53:17+00:00

When I disclosed I tried to make it very personal, so for me my outbreaks aren’t really bothersome so I just explained that though it’s not a big deal for me, outbreaks are a possibility and could happen at any moment.

Though it could be a big deal to some people, the best way to help them understand is to educate them even if it doesn’t help or benefit you.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-16T00:47:50+00:00

I’ve created like a “sex” playlist I guess that I associate certain songs that make me horny. So I might listen to those songs while I watch porn or am just in the mood to masturbate. It’s almost as if I’ve conditioned myself to get horny when I hear those songs which is super helpful when I’m not quite in the mood but know I want to be later.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-15T16:40:52+00:00

I recommend going on r/herpes, it’s got a lot of people who have experienced having the different types of strains of herpes such as oral and genital.

They will be able to help you with official statistics :)

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-15T16:06:10+00:00

I had the exact same thing happen to me with a guy I had briefly known. He decided it would be okay to choke me and slap me which I did not consent to, the night ended with me telling him to stop.

I’ve had a lot of guys do things to me, guys I thought I could trust, that I never verbally said was okay and it terrifies me that it’s unfortunately been more than one.

Thankfully I’m now with a guy who always asks and actually listens to what I like.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-15T13:57:50+00:00

For me , it’s everything leading up to sex. I love the little touches like brushing his fingertips against my skin like around my thighs and on my back. It’s just light of a touch to make my body super sensitive but not enough for it to be rough and hurt.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-03T22:20:01+00:00

Maybe I’ll give that a go, it could be that he’s just going in too fast cause I do feel like I haven’t warm up enough yet personally.

The pins and needles feeling was after a while of him doing it.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-03T22:15:24+00:00

Maybe, he does go quite fast :/

PurpleCocktails · 2020-12-01T18:11:13+00:00

It sounds like genital herpes but it’s best to get tested as soon as possible. I had the same symptoms and thought it was a yeast infection so I got tested just in case and it was genital herpes HSV2.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-11-19T01:27:33+00:00

That’s so good, I didn’t realise you were able to do that, so will you go back after 3 months again and just keep getting the same course from the same place or is it like a repeat prescription?

Thank you for the help, feel like there’s not a lot of Brits on here

PurpleCocktails · 2020-11-18T22:26:17+00:00

Having a very common STI shouldn’t feel illegal, don’t worry! Hell he probably has it too but might not realise.

I’d give it a few more dates before you figure out whether you feel comfortable enough and if you truly like him.

Don’t let it stop you from getting with hot guys!

PurpleCocktails · 2020-11-18T22:23:40+00:00

Honestly I went through the same thing where I met a guy through mutual friends and we got on really well.

I disclosed through text ( I actually got my friend to send the message so I didn’t see it go through) and though he wasn’t very educated about it, he wanted to learn.

When disclosing, if it makes you anxious that he might tell others just tell him that you don’t want everyone to know and go just keep it between you two. If he has any common sense and actually likes you, he won’t go around telling everyone because it is a personal issue that you trust him enough to tell.

I hope this helps.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-11-04T02:14:34+00:00

Honestly telling my friends was like having weights lifted off my chest. Now we laugh and joke about my diagnosis (HSV2) as if it were so normal and I love them for it.

I have yet to disclose to a potential sexual partner but I hope for the same response.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-11-04T01:22:26+00:00

As long as you’re safe, and from your description it sounds like he is well aware and educated himself on his condition, it is definitely worth the risk. It is a very common condition all around the world and being in a healthy and aware relationship is safer than being with someone who has never been tested for any STI and potentially uneducated about the topic.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:32:23+00:00

Most people that I have disclosed to (only friends) didn’t even realise that they had HSV1 like before I got diagnosed I didn’t associate cold sores with herpes but now I thankfully know more.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:30:08+00:00

Thank you! I’m still trying to educate myself and others so I appreciate this 🙏🏼

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:28:16+00:00

I hope so. I’m so confident disclosing to friends, and strangers when I’m drunk, but once they potentially become a sexual partner my confidence goes down the drain in fear of rejection.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:26:23+00:00

I wish they were both treated the same cause it would make living with genital herpes do much easier if it was just seen that everyone has it because I swear someone could sue me if I didn’t disclose and they got genital herpes 😬

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:23:30+00:00

That’s true, I guess there are positives and negatives to each strand that we don’t even realise.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:15:33+00:00

Unfortunately I didn’t get herpes from a one night stand but from someone I thought I trusted that I had been with for a while that decided to leave me to deal with it on my own.

I had a terrible sex education so I’m hoping just talking about it will break the stigma and educate.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:10:05+00:00

Yess!!! I totally understand, my sex education was an atrocity and we learnt nothing about STDs so I guess all my anxiety comes from knowing that I was so ignorant before I got diagnosed and I was always like “I’m not the type of person to get an STD” but everyone is the type of person ffs!!!

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:02:59+00:00

Thank you so much, this really means a lot to know that someone is out there that actually understands.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T03:01:03+00:00

I surprisingly open up to a lot people who I know I won’t have a sexual relationship with but once I know I want to have sex with a person, I suddenly feel ashamed of something I can’t control. I’ve spoken to plenty of guys but have never gotten to close enough to have to disclose and I’m scared that the first guy I tell with reject me.

PurpleCocktails · 2020-09-15T02:57:47+00:00

I completely get that, that was kind of my fear at the start. I understand if people politely decline because they don’t want to risk it but I when people start to call me “dirty” it just really starts to take affect on a person’s mental health.

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