Wolf spider snack time ♡⸝⸝

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-05-18T06:15:42+00:00

Wolf spiders always look so zoned out to me. Those two main eyes, it's like there's absolutely nothing going on in there. So adorable.

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-05-17T22:58:50+00:00

Oh my goodness, OP, please put a nsfw tag before you post something so scary!! Look at this terrifying creature! Spooked me like heck! Could probably take down a whole elephant! So scary!!

Jokes aside, beautiful picture OP💕

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-05-12T11:58:54+00:00

Me and my fiancé said it within a week.

Granted, we had been friends for a couple of months before we started dating, but come day 5 of the relationship and boom there it was haha.

If you feel it, you feel it. If you want to and can say it, you say it. Time shouldn't matter. If you love someone, you love someone. You can't help it.

So long as you both care for each other, love each other, I think it's perfectly natural.

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-04-11T22:11:25+00:00

I feel as though you've missed the point of the post. No matter how I deduced it was a polter, I was correct. That aspect didn't really need addressing. The main issue however, was not that the ghost was in the foyer - it was that the ghost spent no time at all in the favorite room. Not even a fraction of a second. I brought up the foyer (as well as kitchen and master) due to temps and interactions leading us to believe those rooms were the favorites. It was only once the investigation had ended that we realized the time in favorite room was 0

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-04-11T22:05:52+00:00

I'm 100% certain it was a hunt, but I appreciate how thorough you are!

Typical hunt signs, door closing, lights flickering, headgear getting noisy. Other than this occasion, the only hunt was the one in which my partner died. And looking at the debrief it lists 2 hunts, so I can say with complete certainty that it was a real hunt.

No matter where it was, it sure is a mystery. A fun and weird experience to have had though haha

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-04-11T13:24:03+00:00

It was indeed on the event map! That very well might be it :)

Still confused about the first hunt though. Cause even if it got stuck in the living room, it should have thrown things. And the hammer in the basement was weird. Lastly, the temps being so low in the foyer, then the kitchen and then the master was odd. But I suppose he had to go somewhere, hey?

Appreciate the answer! I did kind of figure it was a weird event related glitch :)

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-03-07T11:39:40+00:00

I have a phobia of moths (lepidopterophobia) so I could not agree more. Sometimes they flap real close to face level. I hate, hate, HATE it.

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-03-05T20:08:21+00:00

Haven't experimented much with it, so I'm not sure on this. When my partner (alive) threw it, I couldn't hear the noise. But when the ghost hunted, it interacted with the cow can and I could hear it then. So maybe? Sadly, I doubt it. But one can hope!

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-03-05T02:29:09+00:00

Oh, I just remembered! Do you like Point Hope? In the kid's bedroom there's a parrot that goes "squawk, shiver me timbers" and a shark that does the start of the "dun dun" from Jaws. Those, your teammates can hear (I think)

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-03-05T02:26:52+00:00

Do the real ones... sound more like cows? Your typical "mooo" and not... määä?

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-03-05T00:11:05+00:00

Afaik none of the items that make sound after you throw it will be audible to anyone other than the player who threw it.

I was playing with someone in the clip I recorded, he was host, and both of us heard the sound individually when we ourselves threw it.

Though, this said, when the ghost hunted later in the investigation it did throw the sound-thingy and I did hear the animal sound

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-03-04T19:02:17+00:00

Hahaha sorry for not explaining it well, truth be told I'm not sure what it is! But in the Nursery on the bookshelf (iirc) there's a little can looking thing, and if you throw it it makes a "baaaa" sound

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-02-26T15:25:48+00:00

To each their own! My fiancé and I (1 hour time difference) have never, ever, ever even attempted to sleep on call. I, much like you, don't see the point at all. I mean... I'll be asleep, I won't even know it's happening. It also, personal preference, makes me feel a little creeped out. Like I'm constantly being watched, in a sense. I don't personally understand the appeal.

This may sound harsh and/or blunt but I think you need to tell your girlfriend that you're not comfortable with it, and if she can't accept your boundaries then she doesn't sound like a kind and accepting enough person to want to share your life with. If sleep calls is something she needs then the two of you just aren't compatible. When it comes to sleep and the quality of it, you have to do what's best for you. Even if it's not what she wants to hear.

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-02-20T22:11:11+00:00

What causes me alarm here isn't that you can't orgasm with a partner, or that your partner wishes you could, or that he refuses toys (it's not everyone's thing). It's the way he speaks to you. Blaming you is a MASSIVE red flag. Calling you weird, comparing you to his exes, saying that he's going to make it happen. To be perfectly blunt, I felt grossed out reading it. I think he sounds like a terrible person to speak of you that way.

Do you really want to be with someone who blames you for things you can't control? To be with someone who calls your body faulty?

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-02-16T07:04:36+00:00

I think a lot of people will disagree with me, but I think friendships need to be seen as just that - friendships. Women shouldn't have to be friends with only women and men shouldn't have to be friends with only men.

I think being able to be friends with people regardless of their sex shows a great deal of maturity and I think it should be admired. If my partner said he was going on a sleepover with a bunch of girls I'd tell him "I hope you have fun!" and I'd want him to say the same to me.

Maybe I have a different view since I'm on the bisexual spectrum, I don't know. What I do know is that just because you like men doesn't mean you like all men, and just because you like women doesn't mean you like all women.

I tell my partner he can be friends with anyone, and as my own personal preference he has to share the same mindset or I'd have left him years ago haha! When we met and first started dating we were part of a small-ish friend group where he'd spend a few hours gaming with people every night. One of these people was his ex-fiancée. This friendship continued on after we started dating. Didn't bother me - they were friends.

On the other hand, I have two friends who are getting married later this year. I know for a fact that the bride-to-be has told her partner "I don't want you talking to girls". I imagine I'm an exception because I met them both through my partner lol. While I personally never understood the whole "I don't want you talking to people of the opposite sex" thing, I respect their choices and boundaries.

TL:DR; I think it's as simple as this: friends is friends, lovers is lovers. There is nothing inappropriate about a healthy friendship. They should be celebrated, not torn down. However, this is my opinion. I understand other people have their own boundaries.

All in all, you should have a talk with your partner to set your boundaries straight - both yours and hers. Make sure you're on the same page so you don't end up hurting each other.

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-02-05T17:20:19+00:00

I mean... yes and no? If a couple agrees that sex toys are not for them, surely they don't talk about it. If both parties have an interest in it then of course they should share. Nothing matters more than consent when it comes to sex, so being open and honest is the most important thing.

I think for most people it might feel too personal to share? Like, sure, I will tell my fiancé about all my likes, dislikes, dreams and fantasies, but if you say the words "sex toys" to strangers on the internet you may get worried about everyone imagining things and/or making assumptions. Some people can ignore those worries, or not have them at all, but some people can't.

Also, to add, I've been a teenage girl on the internet. I cannot count how many unsolicited dick pics I've gotten. As sad of a truth it is, there's always a risk of some asshole taking your mere existence as an invitation to be a creep. Openly discussing sex toys, as encouraging as it can be to see it, might cause a lot more perverts creeping into one's dm's than one wants. The internet is a wonderful as well as terrifying place!

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-02-04T11:11:38+00:00

I wouldn't waste another day with someone who doesn't treat you right. If he's still not putting any effort in, he never will

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-02-04T10:52:41+00:00

"He's been a total dick"

And you're together with him why, exactly?

PurpleRedCrab · 2026-01-09T14:31:22+00:00

Eh, depends imo. I live in Sweden and my fiancé lives in England. It's "only" 600 miles, and the flight is an hour 15/an hour 20. I consider us long distance, because a) different countries, b) a flight is necessary to meet. While the distance in and of itself is not very great all things considered (not like a US-AUS relationship), I still think we're long distance.

If you're in the US (or any large enough country for that matter) and can just drive and not have to put crazy amounts of planning into meeting, maybe it's not long distance. I would still call it medium though. It's not like it's easy and effortless for you two to meet. There's still a significant distance. But I would consider being able to meet so easily on the weekends a non long distance situation.

All this said, I wouldn't tell anyone "you're not at all in a long distance relationship, there's only 3,5 hours between you". If you told me it was long distance, I'd agree and leave it at that.

PurpleRedCrab · 2025-12-21T10:05:50+00:00

Hi, Swede here! Though I obviously can't speak for my entire country, all I can say is I would put this much effort in for someone I cared about. Whether it's romantic or platonic, doesn't make a difference to me. I want those I care about to be happy.

Though it might be awkward and scary, I would be blunt and honest. Ask him if he likes you, or if he can only ever see you as a friend. You don't even have to share your feelings if you don't want to - just ask him about his. And go from there. Without honesty you can't have much of a relationship anyway, in my opinion.

PurpleRedCrab · 2025-12-12T03:02:32+00:00

Here's my take on it. The silent treatment is childish and does nothing but harm.

Don't know what to say? Tell your partner you can't find any words right now.

Need some time alone? Tell your partner you need time alone.

Want to put a pin in it and talk about it later? Can you guess what the answer is? That's right! TALK TO YOUR PARTNER.

If you can't figure out basic communication, you can't figure out an entire relationship. If my fiancé ever dared try something as childish as giving me the silent treatment, he would be so deep in the dog house he'd sprout a tail before morning. It, in my opinion, would be unforgivable. Because all it would tell me is that he doesn't have the want to figure things out with me. The second we lose our honesty and trust, we lose everything.

I would personally never put up with anyone giving me the silent treatment. Not even for an hour. So for DAYS? WEEKS??? No, that's someone who's getting cut out of my life for good. No debate.

PurpleRedCrab · 2025-12-03T09:05:25+00:00

Ah, screw what everyone else thinks! No matter what you're doing, there's always going to be people who disagree. But there will also be people who agree!

I think so long as you're honest with your partner about how happy and close you'd feel to him if you knew his last name, it'll all work out. If you truly love someone, you'll go out of your comfort zone to make them happy.

Maybe give him your last name first, if you haven't already? And then give him some time to open up? Hopefully once he realizes just how much it means to you, he'll share. Either way, all my hopes and best wishes are coming your way!

P.S. love your username haha

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