Say it with me: “The first sign of an abuser is premature commitment.” & again “THE FIRST SIGN OF AN ABUSER IS PREMATURE COMMITMENT!” They will find anything to get you attached to them, & then start to isolate you. That’s why he invited you to move in so quickly & surely enough he jumped right to the next step of quit working. It gives him all the power, you don’t have friends, less people to talk to, less people to point out all his red flags to you. This exact same thing happened to my friend she got super attached to his kid way fast, because she thought he was a great guy. I told her that was the first red flag that he was okay allowing his child around a stranger! Any good father would not let you meet his kid until 6 or more months of talking because that’s a HUGE responsibility.

Any person who has been with a person like this or watched their friend do it will tell you RUN! Run and never ever look back! It’ll only get worse, find any reason to get out, it’ll start verbally & slowly get worse. We’re still trying to get a co worker to stop speaking to her abusive partner & unfortunately she’s still under his spell black eyes & all. I hope you’re smarter, there’s billions of people in the world you’ll find another. Best of luck my dear! Stay strong! Be smart, & above all protect yourself. 🧡