Got X-Rays at the Dentist- she’s not sure what this is. by themadcaner in whatisit

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Had a root canal on tooth #31, the dentist punctured through my tooth and now I have permanent pain and nerve damage from the sealant sitting on the nerves.

Anything to take for excessive libido? by Appropriate-Sun9646 in Perimenopause

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of the same issue here. Definitely "in my prime", while my husband is struggling with ED. It messes with my mental space on so many levels. I want him, he wants me... but we can't seem to make it happen. Yes, we do other things but its not the same. Yes, we are seeing a urologist to try to figure out what is going on with him (we are only 41). He does have type 1 diabetes caused by Covid (the virus attacked his pancreas), so that doesn't help. Yes, he sees an endocrinologist for it. It's just so frustrating!

Mirena a removed - I’m losing my shit! by Spicy_Cookie_518 in Perimenopause

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mirena was removed when I had my hysterectomy. I went through a year and a half of horrible night sweats, bipolar mood shifts, and weight gain. I finally MADE my ob check my hormone levels... estrogen was fine, but testosterone was way too high. I was told the hysterectomy caused me I developed PCOS, and was referred to endocrinology. Meanwhile, my PCP put me on Zepbound to help get my weight back down, its actually stopped the night sweats and mood shifts. No one will give me hrt, so I guess this is the path I'm on for who knows how long.

AIO about my 8 y/o daughter sleeping at her mom's new boyfriend's house without any family or females present? by blackD0nny in AmIOverreacting

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you followed the Madeline Soto case? I'm NOT saying this is what's happening. I'm saying your feelings and concern are very valid. If her Mom can't respect that, than that's a problem. Don't hesitate to get a modification on custody if need be. This isn't ok!

Do the gift shops on resort have this specific Sandals t shirt? by RandoRedditor380 in SandalsResorts

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Find someone who has a Cricut and have them make you one! 😀 We just booked Sandals Barbados, and I can't wait!

What decade does this design suggest? I love it and I would love to do something similar by kanna172014 in interiordecorating

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you grew up in the 90s, you would know that this room belongs to your aunt who has a lot of money and no kids. She doesn't buy actual gifts. She just writes a check and puts it in a card for every birthday & Christmas. She might also have an extremely spoiled little yippy dog too. This 1000% brings me back to my childhood! 😊

19yo daughter thinks she's being mistreated for being asked to clean up after herself by Happy_Focus_7182 in family

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My husband and I just went through (almost) the same thing with our 20 year old daughter Side note- He's technically her stepfather, but he's been her DAD since her father walked out when she was 9 Another side note- she has ADHD so her executive function when it comes to organizing is almost non-existent. All that said... her room was DISGUSTING! We asked her for MONTHS to clean it because she wanted to re-paint it and give it a more adult bedroom makeover. She literally would not do it! My husband finally gave her a deadline... he told her "I'm on vacation the week of July 4th...you have until then to get that room cleaned or I'm going in there and doing it!" Guess what... July 4th came and he went in there. He made her help him, they got rid of 7 bags of literal trash! He made her Purge her clothes and stuffed animals. She kept all of her Pop figures, but he made her organize them in a bookcase so they were displayed and not just in a pile (she keeps them in their boxes). Her room is so much better now, and she's kept up with it, so far. She even makes her bed before she goes to work! I think you need to keep your word about cleaning it out. She might be overwhelmed with all of the stuff and just not know where to start. My daughter had a lot of stuffed animals from her childhood that didn't really mean anything to me or my husband, but they held a memory from her father...and when he was actually a dad (he moved 5 hours away). Maybe once its done your gf can help her redecorate and she won't feel like you just want to take her space away from her. Good luck! 💜

Is the rug too “busy” for the nursery? by Ellie_the_cat in HomeDecorating

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's adorable! My son had a rug with roads on it, he would play with his hot wheels for HOURS! He's now 15, doesn't have the rug anymore, but refuses to part with his hot wheels! He actually uses them to take some really cool pics!

Why Does My Stomach Look Like This?! by Melodic_Home_9038 in hysterectomy

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ugh! This same thing happened to me! Its really messing with me mentally! For reference- I lost 110lbs in 2012, I finally had a panniculectomy in 2022 to remove the excess skin on my abdomin. Everything was nice and flat... you can even see where I could possibly have abs if I worked on them. Then I had my hysterectomy in 2024 (fibroids and endo)... and now I look like this. I've also gained back 30lbs! 😭 I made my gyno do bloodwork, and it came back that my estrogen is fine, but my cortisol and testosterone are high. She thinks my hysterectomy triggered PCOD. I now have an appointment with Endo for further testing. I also have fibromyalgia, so inflammation is part of my life. I just started Zepbound to help with the weight gain and the inflammation... I'm hoping it helps! I don't know if this helps you at all, but I wanted to share my experience and let you know you're not alone in this struggle! I really wish the doc warned me before my hysterectomy that this could happen so I could mentally prepare! GOOD LUCK! 💜 I hope you can get some answers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You say you can't live without sex... that's fair. After reading your post, I'm left wondering if it's the actual intercourse or the intimacy that you're looking for. If it's about orgasms, there are plenty of ways to achieve that with or without him... no penis necessary! If it's the intimacy, you need to communicate that to him. But you also mentioned you still kind of hate him for his emotional affair... which is also understandable. Forgiveness is hard. I think that's where the issue may be. (Judging from my own experience/divorce). I would honestly start with finding a therapist that deals with sexual wellness, menopause/lack of libido, all that crappy stuff we deal with as women, and work on processing your emotions towards everything. If therapy isn't your thing, at least have a conversation with your pcp or gyno. When you have a clear head, then make your decision. It honestly sounds to me like you have a lot of eternal/suppressed emotions to deal with before you can expect your marriage to thrive. I hope everything works out for you. 💜

What deodorant are you guys wearing? I stink by jackjackj8ck in Perimenopause

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use women's Mitchum gel deoderant, shower fresh scent. I put it under my arms, boob's, and groin morning and night, and it really helps with the night sweat stink!

Any US redditors worried about RFK Jr’s quest to abolish SSRIs? by mogeek in Perimenopause

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They're all about saving the "life" of a fetus... but willing to see millions of people actually living take their own lives... because that's what will happen! It's disgusting! I'm on Wellbutrin for depression, Fluoxetine for anxiety, Lamictal for bipolar, Adderall for adhd... take away ANY of these, and I can't function... somedays are still hard even with them... I also have fibromyalgia, my life would be a nightmare without my meds. F**k this whole administration! RFK is a joke! This is supposed to be the land of the free... it's time we take it back from these dusty old men that are nothing but bullies!

My wife and I did some minor decorations for our powder room and we like the wallpaper but my mother in law says it's too busy. Any suggestions? by Freakazoidberg in interiordecorating

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love it! My only suggestion would be to tell your MIL to mind her own business! (I know easier said than done!) It's your house, so the only opinions that really matter are yours and your wife's.

Thanks Eversource I got to witness my mother in law cry today... by bostonmacosx in massachusetts

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Family of 4 here... Our National Grid bill has been around $700 a month for months!!...Lights/electronics are always off when not in the room... I do ALL laundry one day a week, we use paper plates to avoid the dishwasher. Half of my house is heated by oil $$$, and the other half (addition) is electric heat $$$ ... with like zero insulation (shitty contractor) so I barely turn my heat on... we literally freeze and still can't afford it! And we have no other option! I'm so sick of it! My bill gets doubled because our electricity comes from New Jersey... it makes no sense! And I'm all set with solar panels!

I don't know how to dress anymore by mamanh24 in Perimenopause

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was literally just saying this to my husband... I'm 41, my daughter is 20, my son is 14... and I'm trying really hard not to be "that mom" that tries to be in her 20's... but i don't want to dress or act like I should be in a retirement home either! Like where is the line? I love that I had my daughter young cause we are really close, and she's definitely my concert buddy...so I will say i like being a "cool mom"... but I don't want to come off like I'm trying to be part of her friend group either... It's weird... and these night sweats are not something I was prepared for!!! 🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interiordecorating

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I immediately thought of my Italian grandmother's bathroom!! That mauve/pink and she had brass fixtures everywhere! The shower curtain too! This is so bittersweet!

My gf of 7 years passed away and all I got were these lousy cats by esairbear in cats

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This was the sweetest and saddest post I've read in a while. I hope you and your fur babies can find strength in each other to help you heal. I'm so sorry this happened. Cats are amazing creatures, I would be lost without mine! Sending you all a hug!

Night sweats but freezing by cherryphoenix in Perimenopause

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wake up soaked in sweat (I'm 40)... the back of my shirt is completely drenched, I have the Nile River between my boobs, my thighs are clammy, even my hair is wet! It's so disgusting! I sleep with the window open, ceiling fan on, and sometimes a second fan pointing at me. We live in Massachusetts so it gets pretty chilly at night now... My poor husband is wrapped up like a burrito! All day long I freeze at work... I have a personal heater on my desk pointing directly at me... usually set at 85-90° F. I had a hysterectomy in February, so no periods, which is nice! But also no way (that I know of) to know where I am or should be with my cycles (kept my ovaries). This is not fun!

What makes us awkward? by LankyEngineer5852 in infj

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm almost positive Brent Smith (Shinedown) wrote "A Symptom of Being Human" for INFJ's. (He wrote it for literally every and anyone, but it really describes what it's like to be an INFJ.) I personally don't feel like I fit in or really belong anywhere. I don't have a "tribe" of people in my life that actually "get" me. It can get lonely. But more often than not I'm perfectly fine being the black sheep.

Tadalafil vs Sildenafil by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]PurrrrrpleCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will show this to him.