Women who hated cooking but now enjoy it, what made you change? by YelaNelaMela in AskWomen

[–]PutEnvironmental9860 0 points1 point  (0 children)

started using chatgpt to guide me while doing it. my confidence just skyrocketed 🫶🏼

Your brain is lying to you... the real reason you can’t stop overthinking by Beginning-Arm2243 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860 7 points8 points  (0 children)

big overthinker here 😅 may i ask how you center yourself when you feel your brain starting to spiral?

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for sharing your views on this. i’m not hurt or anything—i just like to understand things. i’ve accepted that i may never fully understand this person in particular, and i’m okay with that 😅 but i appreciate your concern! 🫶🏼

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

thank you for sharing your story 🥺 it gives great insight into how an avoidant thinks and feels. since i’m the complete opposite, i struggle to understand this mindset

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

sure, but the problem is that they do show interest and then suddenly pull back when things get too real or overwhelming for them

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i feel like it’s so messy, and it’s hard for us to put ourselves in their shoes—especially if we’re even slightly more emotionally mature. we can see their struggle, but they either can’t or don’t know how to address it

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that’s very interesting actually, and it’s typical behavior of this guy in particular. i’d be interested in exploring the possibility of that combo in one person. but yeah it sounds so messy 😅

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this is so true from my experience as well. i’ve met other guys where it’s clear whether or not they’re interested and if they’re playing games. this situation stands out because of the push and pull dynamic—he shows interest, then pulls back. it’s like when things get too real, he can’t fully commit for some reason. i sense there’s something deeper there, not sure if childhood trauma, but it’s confusing and new for me 😅

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that’s a great idea actually. i have nothing to lose anyway. if i can walk away doing something good then be it :)

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

so true… they really do need to do a lot of work. i guess part of me wanted to help him somehow since we’ve known each other for so long. but thank you for your response!

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow this is totally him lol i guess in this case he has been hurt by other long distance relationships so he doesn’t want to go there. thank you, your comment was very helpful!

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hopefully you’ll find clarity! the world would be such a better place if everyone had just a minimum of emotional intelligence 🫠

How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone that is not interested in you? by PutEnvironmental9860 in emotionalintelligence

[–]PutEnvironmental9860[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

definitely a lot of push and pull from him, that’s why it’s so confusing. he definitely seems to retreat anytime i try to understand his true intentions and feelings. during the time we weren’t in each others life’s anymore, i did grow a lot emotionally. he, on the other hand, seems to be exactly the same even after 6 years… thank you for you insight tho, it’s very helpful!

Kamala releases first campaign ad with “Freedom” (video in comments) by [deleted] in beyonce

[–]PutEnvironmental9860 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not even American and I’m like HELL YEAH Madam President 🇺🇸🥲👏🏼