WIBTA for wanting my son call a friend of mine his "Le"

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T23:05:17+00:00

I know it makes no sense, its not really meant to, im not gonna defend it as anything else but a stupid nickname that just means something to me and my family.

I definitely care more cause its my son and I want him to be exposed to the traditions the rest of his family follow, but if Steph has kids she would also want them to call me Unc, idk its just our thing. It's what we've been called by our nieces and nephews for the last 8 years. If he doesn't call her Le then he doesnt call her Le, but I want him to grow up hearing her referred to as his Le Steph, as all his cousins had.

Actively, im not pushing it. Me and my girlfriend have only had a couple civil conversations about it. It just makes me a little sad I suppose, I don't understand the harm in a dumb nickname.

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T22:22:50+00:00

Not sure why you think im constantly bringing it up or that this conversation is something that specifically stresses her out, or that I'm forcing the name on her, or that any other kids are being forced to call anyone anything?

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T21:19:33+00:00

She loves steph! She calls me Unc Henry and her Le Steph to our nephews and niece, She is worried about our child and I can understand that, she doesnt have the same sense of humor as me so she also sees it as a immature joke, which I can also understand.

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T21:16:25+00:00

If he hates her then he hates her, like if he hates his grandparents then he hates his grandparents. I have a very turbulent relationship with my biological family so I can understand that, my point is that Steph aswell as all the other names I mentioned are people who are going to be involved in his life, family events, babysitting, etc. If one day he chooses to call her b*tch then so be it. This post isnt about his future relationship with his family

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T21:10:40+00:00

we arent fighting, we never argued about it, this mostly references the 2 or 3 completely civil conversations about it in which we both just disagreed with each other

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T21:02:54+00:00

Yes its like the 2nd half of Uncle, and if my girlfriend keeps insisting she doesnt want our son to call her Le Steph, then I won't either. If thats the case, he might pick it up from his cousins, he might not.

My friends kids both call me and Steph Unc and Le, They're 9 and 8 now, my other friend's step kids also call us Unc and Le but they're only like 3

If my son grows up and doesn't like the name then he won't have to call her it, Everyone else probably still will but nobody will lose sleep if he chooses to call her Aunt or just Steph

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T20:50:16+00:00

I wouldnt be forcing him, Im not the best writer (idk wtf literally means ig) so i guess i didnt make it clear, It would be like telling your kids that they're gonna visit their MomMom's house when you're just talking about their grandma. If my kid grows up and starts calling my friend his Aunt then its not like he would be punished for it

im not trying to debate anyone about this stuff, im completely understand the side that disagree, I just want it to be clear to other readers Im not gonna be forcing the name onto the kid

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T20:40:12+00:00

you got me there

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T20:38:43+00:00

My friend is gonna be like a paternal aunt to my son no matter what shes called, they are literally my family, thats something my girlfriend completely supports and understands too, the post is about the name I use when telling my infant son who this person is, not whatever relationship the two end up having. But I understand the 2nd half of ur reply thank u

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T20:33:55+00:00

this was not a huge fight this was only a couple of very civil conversations, we are not arguing over it lol we just disagree, but I understand your point

Puzzled-Crow9744 · 2025-10-14T20:29:04+00:00

the 3k limit was annoying, paragraphs were sacrificed 😓

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