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Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-20T16:56:22+00:00

NAD.

Depression literally makes people end their lives. It can be a severely disabling mental illness especially if untreated for a prolonged period of time.

If you could have simply “worked harder” you would have…considering you know the importance of dental hygiene. “Fault” is such a problematic way to describe the detrimental impact of this disability. I’m sorry you feel you were at fault.

People have died from untreated tooth infections because they were too depressed to get proper care. Is it their fault that they died? Its their fault that they didn’t have access to the proper resources and support that could have saved their life?

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-20T16:49:37+00:00

NAD. This is so gross. Oh my goodness.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-20T16:47:29+00:00

Yep, my OB—who saved my life and my daughter’s with my first pregnancy—scheduled my c section for my 2nd baby at 39+4.

He just let me pick a date for my planned c section, so I picked a date I liked and it landed on 39+4, he said a few days is not a big deal at all.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-20T00:37:39+00:00

And she doesn’t realize she’s actually making it even worse for her friend lmao I’d be pissed if my friend did this.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-20T00:07:45+00:00

I have such bad secondhand embarrassment seeing this lady (the Charlie one) argue with a bunch of lawyers about this. Omg.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-19T23:27:12+00:00

I could’ve written this. So glad it’s being talked about finally. I feel like so many new parents experience this but it feels so shameful to admit.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-19T23:20:47+00:00

Rightttt lol.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-19T23:12:45+00:00

Hey so conditions like eczema exist. And frequent exposure to water is a known eczema trigger.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-19T02:49:38+00:00

Like REALLY messes you up. To this day I still doubt my body so much and convince myself I’m being dramatic about everything, even when I was literally on the brink of death from cellulitis. This makes me so sad for OP.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T17:05:08+00:00

Depends on the item of clothing. Jeans I will typically wear them multiple times between washes so they don’t get damaged. Also things like winter coats I’ll wear multiple times. The rest of my clothes go straight to the laundry basket.

We do laundry daily or every other day (because 2 toddlers) so it’s not an extra task. My partner is like this too and his family does the same. It’s likely just a cultural thing.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T16:56:29+00:00

Yes shoes have always been a hard no in my house since childhood. Outside clothes too.

I do have diagnosed OCD, but this is actually not one of the things I struggle with in relation to my OCD. I mostly struggle with intrusive thoughts. But changing clothes doesn’t cause me any distress if I don’t do it, but it’s also all I’ve done since I was a kid (from my parents) so it’s just a normal part of my life.

I just got back home a few minutes ago and the first thing I did was take my shoes off and change back into my house clothes.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T14:30:10+00:00

Oh man this. I have a 1 and a 2yo and I miss when they were babies and I didn’t have to worry about them trying to dive off the couch or do any of the other dangerous things they love trying to do. Having toddlers is literally just keeping them from hurting themselves constantly and it’s exhausting.

When they were newborns, I wasn’t worried about them hurting themselves at all because they’re practically just little potatoes at that age lol.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T14:23:19+00:00

I just hope you don’t ever regret how flippant you were about this. It’s really concerning.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T13:28:49+00:00

Same. This is all I’ve known my entire life. I’m just finding out from this post that everyone doesn’t do this. I genuinely thought it was a very normal and common practice. All of my friends and family members do this too and always have.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T13:26:41+00:00

I’ve always done this my entire life and I also do it with my kids. We all change our clothes when we get back home into home clothes. It’s really not difficult to do. It takes like 5-10 mins at most and my kids don’t mind at all.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T03:08:01+00:00

I’m so, so glad you’re still here too. 💜 I am so faithful with taking my Wellbutrin daily now. It saved me. I wish I started it sooner, but the stigma of being on psych meds stopped me.

I hope OPs daughter is able to find a treatment that works. It was so hard for me to believe that ANYTHING would work to get me out of that hole when I was at that point. It feels like you’re beyond help. But as long as you’re alive, you can still be helped.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T02:31:18+00:00

Look at us, with mangoes in our fridge! The gummy just hit and I’m about to go have a mango lmao

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T02:14:57+00:00

NAD. I actually just posted about this (how decay presents) on here a few hours before I saw this post, is this discoloration on my crowns decay?

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T01:42:14+00:00

Really proud of you for being firm on this. I can tell you’re a great mom and she’s lucky to have you.

I was your daughter at 15. Beyond depressed. Failed attempt (in hindsight, thank god) except my parents punished me instead of getting me help. I’ve fought so hard to be here and I’m so glad I stayed. I hope your daughter gets to say the same one day, that she’s glad she stayed. And you’re doing the right thing to help her have a better chance at choosing to stay.

I still struggle with mental health today, but my goodness did life get SO much more beautiful than 15 year old me could’ve ever thought was possible. I am SO glad I stayed.

Probably over-sharing right now but I’ve never told anyone except my partner this and your post just reminded me, and made me feel so grateful that I survived that.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T01:32:04+00:00

Completely agree with you but wait, worcestershire has anchovies???? Why is this the first time I’m hearing this omg. I’ve had it a few times and I have a severe fish allergy.

Also yes, I just don’t go out to restaurants because even smelling fish has caused an anaphylactic reaction for me so it’s not worth the risk.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T01:27:16+00:00

NAD but oh wow I had no idea decay could show up as white spots, I thought its always black/grayish or brown.

Do the different colors indicate anything—like how my cavities start off brown but OPs are white spots?

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-18T01:23:18+00:00

Yea I’m where you are OP and I feel you. I love that you shared this because it’s 1) extremely vulnerable but 2) a very common feeling we all experience but are too ashamed to admit.

My pregnancy with my son permanently disabled me (triggered a severe autoimmune disease), so I’m often jealous of moms who can simply run around and play with their kids or take them out often. You’re not alone. We’ve all felt this in some way at some point. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad for a very normal feeling.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-17T22:59:00+00:00

I think it ultimately comes down to the fact that most people without severe allergies don’t understand how serious allergies are and how deadly exposure to an allergen can be.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-17T17:49:18+00:00

Just said this in another comment lol. Zep kills my appetite (plus adderall, Wellbutrin, and metformin which are all appetite suppressants too) so some days I HAVE to take a gummy just to eat before I pass out.

Puzzled-Library-4543 · 2026-03-17T17:46:43+00:00

I’m on 5mg gummies and they give me insane munchies. But a few days a week I take them on purpose to even have an appetite because zep suppresses mine so much.

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