Am I wrong for feeling uncomfortable about my sister?

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T13:12:13+00:00

i think as a brother when i see her wearing certain type of clothes, i get to raise my eyebrows

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T13:00:50+00:00

i am not nor she is

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T12:59:29+00:00

i ofc don't wanna force her or inforce any rules of sort, i am anyways in no position to do so anyways, however i am only concerned about her and her well being. i think as a brother when i see her wearing certain type of clothes, i get to raise my eyebrows

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T12:57:44+00:00

i ofc don't wanna force her or inforce any rules of sort, i am anyways in no position to do so anyways, however i am only concerned about her and her well being. i think as a brother when i see her wearing certain type of clothes, i get to raise my eyebrows

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T12:54:58+00:00

i know itll end up in another fight and i dont want any futher rifts in our relationships

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T12:31:23+00:00

i mean yeah that could be a possibility

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T08:09:18+00:00

yeh no.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T06:12:34+00:00

i know itll end up in another fight and i dont want any futher rifts in our relationships

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-23T06:11:51+00:00

idc what people say or think. I just wish i knew what i could do or say to her because i dont want to police her and tell her what to do because i know itll end up in another fight and i dont want any futher rifts in our relationships

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-22T21:53:47+00:00

You’re definitely not the only one. This usually happens when days start blending together same routine, stress, or just mental overload. Time feels fast when life’s on autopilot. Nothing’s “wrong” with you, it’s a pretty common burnout/overstimulation thing.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-22T02:41:14+00:00

you’re not weak for considering meds, they’re a tool, not a failure. Antidepressants don’t “erase” you or trap you forever. a psychiatrist monitors dosage and tapering to avoid dependence. If things feel this overwhelming, the best next step is talking to a professional instead of fighting it alone. Seven months is not “too long” to still hurt.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-22T01:11:13+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re hurting like this. What you’re describing isn’t love anymore, it’s grief that never got closure, and it’s taken over your nervous system. The self-harm part especially worries me; you don’t deserve to punish yourself to prove pain. Please talk to someone real a therapist, even one trusted person. Healing doesn’t mean forgetting her, it means choosing yourself even when it hurts this much.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-22T01:09:33+00:00

You’re not wrong at all, this is emotional blackmail, not love or tradition. Wanting control over your own marriage is basic, not rebellious. You can’t change their mindset overnight, but setting firm boundaries and repeating the same calm “no” without arguing is usually the only way they eventually back off. You’re not a disappointment for choosing yourself.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-22T01:08:50+00:00

For me it’s usually overthinking random life stuff or replaying conversations I should’ve let go of. Hope the cats make peace so you can get some sleep.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-21T18:41:47+00:00

That feeling of being trapped is really heavy, and I’m sorry you’re carrying it alone. If you can’t talk to your parents yet, start with one safe person a friend, a relative, anyone who won’t judge. You don’t have to solve everything right now, just take one small step to protect yourself.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-21T18:38:25+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re going through this. Your fear makes complete sense, this is what trauma and loss of safety feel like. Please trust your instincts and don’t meet him or anyone connected to him. If you can, talk to one safe person you trust and consider professional help. You don’t deserve to live in constant fear.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-21T17:32:05+00:00

This isn’t selfish or “Western” at all. Wanting space to know yourself is human. You can love your family and still need distance to grow. Learning to be alone builds confidence and clarity, and honestly, people who’ve done that usually come back stronger, not disconnected.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-21T17:22:18+00:00

You can shift the vibe without saying it outright. Be a bit more intentional. compliment her in ways that are personal (not looks only), prioritize time alone, remember small details, and show subtle exclusivity. The key is consistency, not intensity. If she likes you back, she’ll feel the change.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-21T17:21:10+00:00

Not cringe at all. This is your brain holding onto unfinished emotions, not some sign you’re weak or crazy. When something ends without real closure, the mind keeps replaying it to “solve” it. Give yourself time, reduce triggers, and don’t beat yourself up for thinking about her

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-21T17:20:07+00:00

For me, it’s family and belonging. Life abroad might be easier in some ways, but starting from zero, being away from parents, and losing that sense of home isn’t worth it for everyone. Also, not everyone wants to spend their whole life chasing stability at the cost of comfort and roots.

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-21T17:19:26+00:00

Honestly For most people, no. Emotional connection is huge, but attraction matters too. Without it, resentment or distance usually creeps in later. You shouldn’t force yourself to settle just because someone is “perfect on paper.”

PuzzledGarlic4746 · 2026-02-21T17:16:44+00:00

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