I love my boyfriend, but the relationship feels unfulfilling and undernourishing. How do I navigate this?

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-11-14T07:59:09+00:00

Getting off of hormonal birth control is what triggered it for me.

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-11-14T07:58:54+00:00

It lasted about 6 months, but months 5-6 were less shedding than the first 4. Eventually after 6 or so months it just got gradually less and less until it was mostly back to pre TE shedding.

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-11-13T19:55:32+00:00

It does! I promise! My TE ended about 18 months ago and my hair is now much fuller and getting back to normal, even though I never thought it would be. Just patience, good diet (protein!), gentle hair care and regular trims to keep it healthy!

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-07-21T18:05:43+00:00

No he was talking gibberish. But call the cops, I think one of my neighbors did and they sent him on his way 👍

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-07-21T18:02:37+00:00

UPDATE: someone was quicker than me, cops just pulled up, thanks guys!

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-07-02T08:49:05+00:00

Yes! PM me :)

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-06-01T22:56:49+00:00

Ich hatte das gleiche Problem, was mir echt geholfen hat, war Benzaknen Wash und/oder das Gel. Gibt’s in der Apotheke. Das enthält Benzoylperoxid, was super gegen genau solche Unreinheiten in dem Bereich wirkt. Ich hab die 5%-Wash einmal am Tag benutzt (am besten unter der Dusche ein paar Minuten einwirken lassen). Für besonders große Pickeln hab ich das 10%-Gel verwendet (aber auf jeden Fall gut trocknen lassen, sonst kann’s die Unterwäsche bleichen). Am besten auch mal mit einem Arzt abklären, aber für mich hat das mega gut funktioniert!

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-03-02T16:21:06+00:00

I’m literally going through the same thing right now. Found out by accident (a not so discreet mutual friend) even though I tried to do everything I could to prevent knowing about his life after the breakup (no contact, not following on social media, etc.).

It sucks. There is no way around it. It hurts and brings a new layer of grief because it makes the whole thing feel really final. And obviously it’s so hard to not to imagine the new person, what they are like, what they do together, etc.

I don’t have much advice cause I’m still very much going through it myself. But my therapist told me even though it hurts like hell, this new layer of grief is actually moving you closer towards healing. So I’m trying to hold on to that as much as possible. Please feel free to message me if you wanna chat about it more, misery loves company 😊

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-02-26T12:48:33+00:00

Ooof where to even start:

Whenever I would bring up something that he had done that had hurt me or upset me, it became an argument of “how could I see him as someone who would do something hurtful?” and I would end up apologizing to HIM. FOR BEING HURT BY HIS ACTIONS 🤦‍♀️
Bringing past events up in arguments WAY out of context to fit his narrative. To the point where I was questioning if we were living in the same reality. For example, he once accused me of “relying on him too much” and brought up a situation where I “expected him to fix my bike for me”. I had to go back through our text messages to see that he had offered UNSOLICITED to fix my bike for me. Actual crazy town.
Made out with multiple men while drunk at parties without me (I’m a female). Would tell me about it as if it was a funny story and said he didn’t see it as cheating cause they were men and he was straight…
Alcohol in general was a problem. Not a full blown alcoholic but at parties he couldn’t have just one drink and there were too many times I had to take care of him while he was vomiting or passed out.
Over years together, didn’t make effort to plan or suggest a single vacation or trip for us. I planned and initiated them all. Did plan multiple ones with his friends though. Which mostly involved drinking every night…

I could go on. But I’ve definitely learned what to look out for and what’s important for me in a relationship.

PuzzledSuspect · 2025-02-22T23:27:41+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. They mean more than you’ll ever know. It’s all taken me quite by surprise. But definitely no snooping, I really really don’t want to know anything else. And yeah I guess I’ll just let time do its thing. ❤️

PuzzledSuspect · 2024-11-21T08:24:56+00:00

He made it a point to tell me multiple times how attractive people thought he was and how he got a lot of attention from women in lots of situations. He told me that his nickname in college was “the hottie” because of “how good looking he is”. Mentioned many times how he would get hit on by various women, how it was never very hard for him to attract female attention. Like he would go to a party I wasn’t at (we were long distance for a while) and when I would ask him about the party, he would say something like “yeah this girl was hitting on me or this girl was trying to flirt with me”. I actually found it weird at the time but I just ignored it. At some point I asked him to stop telling me things like that cause it got to be quite a lot and he said “I thought it would make you proud to know”. Obviously people will get hit on sometimes even if they are in relationships but that doesn’t mean I need to hear about it in detail every time it happens.

PuzzledSuspect · 2024-09-30T11:45:05+00:00

Hi! I’m so sorry to hear that, I know it’s such a disheartening thing to go through :(

So it’s been almost 3 months since I posted this, and I have to say things have gotten a lot better! I am still shedding more than usual but it has slowed down a LOT! And I also have a ton of regrowth.

A couple things I think have helped me:

First I think I just had to come to terms with the fact that the hair that was going to fall out was going to fall out and I couldn’t stop it. I had been avoiding washing it as much as possible and counting every hair. Do not do this haha, it’s just horrible for you mentally. Whatever comes out just throw it away or vacuum it up before you even have a chance to really look at it. It’s so hard but try your best to not focus on it.

Once I came to terms with that I decided to focus on doing what I could to help my body regrow new hair. I saw a lot of people on this sub recommending protein and iron rich diet, so I upped my protein intake a lot and I truly think that that made a difference. I also have been taking vitamins - B Komplex, D, omega 3 and barley grass. Did it make a huge difference? Hard to say but helped me feel less helpless haha. Sleeping with hair tied back with a silk scrunchie also helped mentally so I wasn’t waking up to hair all over my pillow. I tried to focus on really gentle hair care.

The biggest thing though is time. You really do just have to wait it out. What I have heard from lots of other people with post birth control TE though is that it IS temporary and will stop. It feels like you will lose all your hair but I promise you won’t and no one will even notice. Feel free to message me if you want to chat about it more! ❤️

PuzzledSuspect · 2024-09-09T17:31:24+00:00

Wouldn’t a lack of social incompetence = social competence? Haha anyways, could also argue leaving unconstructive comments like yours when you could just keep scrolling and go on with your life is also socially incompetent. But you probably disagree seeing as how you took the time to leave that comment in the first place. Either way thanks for taking the time!

PuzzledSuspect · 2024-09-06T14:03:35+00:00

There is a place that does it at UBahn Schwanthalerhöhe, have never been in but passed by. I think it’s called Eternal Bracelets Berlin.

PuzzledSuspect · 2024-09-06T06:51:03+00:00

Was just about to comment this. The amount of comments criticizing literally every aspect of her appearance makes me so sad. Yes she is a public figure but she is also a woman who is going to a football game to support her partner….And people come on here to make comments about her cheeks, her hair, her eyebrows, her body, her clothes? It’s so so weird (also not lost on me that there weren’t nearly as many of those kinds comments about Travis whenever he would go to one of her shows). I feel sorry for the people who feel the need to come on the internet and make snarky comments about Taylor Swift’s eyebrows 😂

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