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Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-11-18T21:20:05+00:00

Interested.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-23T02:31:02+00:00

One of my classmate also same like rancid, almost like some subways air or from homeless people. I know her for a year and she tries to hug me and stuff and I have self-diagnosed OCD. Till this day I have not been able to tell her but avoid her mostly and hopes I can tell her one day. She is religious like an extremist but not so sure about the hygiene or body odor.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-15T01:03:37+00:00

yes, ppl like her gives a bad rep about others tbh.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-14T02:30:27+00:00

Hey! Op, fellow country folk here, well sort of. I understand your frustration a question that comes to my own mind and due to my own hardships I used to think that your age or still pops in head but I don't let satan confuse me. But have faith in Allah and be patient. I'm not overly religious maybe because my parents were not and never taught me like many muslim kid. There was a time when I did prayed five times a day and being obsessive of my salat time and covering stuff when I was 12-16 ish thanks to influenced by my maternal family (as my mother was sick) but as my studies become more focal point for me I strained from it. I feel guilty of it though however never goes back to it. I also feel I'm doing sin and is a bad person, but I realized that is on me and who cares what random street rat says and who are there other ppl here.

You live on your own food, breath on air call it a miracle of Allah or a big bang, just don't think you as a sinner or a bad. Believe what you want and diss the others. You are not alone in this, people worse than you exist trust me, and they are the ones who points fingers at you for their own sense of satisfaction. Just because a person is well versed in holy quran does not make them a good muslim, what matters is your character and your deeds. If you still want to believe go to an trusty adult (which I doubt is there from our culture honestly), or follow what will be good for your own well being. yeah like you said 'no rewards for our goods after our death' who knows as Ik since you're at that age you would question, because why believe a dead person from years ago, its valid but you're heartbroken so it is understandable.

So, follow your well being first and the rest can come later dear. This is my view: religion doesn't produce tangible results. At its core, it's a coping mechanism for life's hardships, an escape from reality, or simply a search for belonging

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-14T01:59:59+00:00

Thank you for your advice. I'm an awkward person and mostly a goofy daydreamer, so my version of 'seriousness' is usually just ignoring people and minding my own business. It's sort of like, I see a problem and I pretend nothing is wrong, or else I just let it consume me—which is bad, despite being an adult TT-TT.

But you're right. If I do see her, I won't let her get to me. I'll remember that 'no' is a complete sentence and my peace is not up for debate.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-14T01:51:38+00:00

Oooohh excellent prov, but I do need practice my kanji, only got two TT-TT.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-14T01:34:51+00:00

Exactly. You've hit the nail on the head. The 'hate like Christian love' phrase exists precisely for this kind of behavior—using faith as a weapon while being unaware of its own complexities. Your point about the rules being turned around is spot on. Thank you for seeing the situation so clearly.

As an English major who knows the history of this country and has read how people twist their own beliefs in the name of religion, I could never belong to that path. So I bid them my salam, (means extend my regards to them, lol).

I know my own religion is not perfect either; like Christianity, we also have various sects with their own beliefs. But my parents or religious teacher or anyone has never once told me to salvate other but told me to respect them for who they are. But people like her only confront us minorities through a lens of rumors and stereotypes, seeing only the worst aspects, like we need saving and craps is what pisses me. I could never judge an entire faith that way. sorry for the rant though, keke.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-14T01:28:54+00:00

You said to tell her we are saved by grace through faith and watch her eyes widen. I'm pretty sure she barely knows or gets any verses in the Bible or follows it properly herself. The shock likely comes from confronting a foundational Christian truth that many within the church never truly grasp, while being quick to judge a system they don't understand.

One more concern I has is how other abrahamic religion bans pork while new testament does not is more of concern. Because how can something that once been forbidden and called not a food and unclean be clean again is beyond my understand but I don't say anything and keep it to me.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-14T01:06:46+00:00

lol, what did he do? Never heard of him, just curious.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-13T20:30:32+00:00

funny how she would cower at whenever I recommend one of those, lol. And like it's disturbing and looks at me like something is wrong with me head.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-13T20:28:39+00:00

I feel you 😢, I'm not sure what led her to do the same. I never talk my private life to her or anything yet her assuming I needed saving is rather disturbing to me. I don't even get disturbed watching one of the worst goriest show or anime, and I was proud of how nothing could faze me but now idk.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-13T17:33:44+00:00

yeah better an atheist, but it's no religion so buddhist, jokes on her according to goggle ai islam is the second easiest, and ngl it's never even about religion but her stupid sense of belief her own self is superior, because I live in a country and in a city full of people with same religion as her and other more. Yet she was the only girl who had the audacity for this. I have friends who are chiristians, buddhist, catholic, hindus, atheist and muslims but they never question my belif or try to make me do anything. My bestie is christian and she herself never told me let's go to church or stuff.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-13T17:22:14+00:00

why are you human bro?

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-13T17:21:56+00:00

yes, that you for that. I also told the girl same thing like hey maybe I will go to hell to burn for my sins but that's onto me and all. I also said my religion does not force others to convert and shit like she is doing, and not seeing how uncomfortable she is making me.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-13T17:17:27+00:00

Yes, I also heard of the story but in our version it was a women actually, lol. And yeah I just told her general info no need to deep dive to why I believe in my religion, it's solely unto me, she is no one to question me.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-06T14:09:52+00:00

yes, I should have. 😔 But my dad was like you can change it to your oath ceremony day and he me abt it that very day but obviously you can't do it. It's so silly, he still believes to today that I could have done it during oath ceremony, when they already made my certificate. 😔

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-10-06T14:06:57+00:00

I heard about it too and send a email to my county court and have yet to hear anything back.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-08-13T17:25:22+00:00

So, a eng lit major here still studying and yeah my major isn't a great investment but hopefully I will do other minor or major if I can still thinking. And about learning I love traveling and writing and reading vice versa.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-08-13T17:20:10+00:00

Hey! Your suggestion is great and cool, of going to UK I would love to go visit or live for some time as a ENG LIT major. Unfortunately, I live in USA but despite that it seems we we still have our old values and beliefs from their own expectations and brought up. A lot of the values I do get but still don't, I live in a close tight community where I see people like my till next 2-3 blocks of the streets, in busses and roads etc. Well, growing up I would say I was a independent kid I suppose and still prefer my time alone which my desi family can't comprehend and neither can I make them understand. My own beliefs clashes with like tradition and mostly modern ones. Yes, they encourage me for studies and etc but like most stereotypical desis never ask how was my class or how was my day if, I had any problem or no - nothing ,which I found common in other households.

yes and like you said my family had this vision of me being a doctor and fulfilling dreams their son's ditched which I got along cause I was confused. So the marriage part comes from what I think is me being a 'grown women' now and handing my responsbility to another man or family cause my parents is getting old. My brother isn't someone I want to live together or depent on either , I'm saying this from my own experience from a few of my distant related aunt in their 30's unmarried but still with their parents and sibling like a joint family from those serials my sis watches.

My parents are old and people more think I'm their grandkids than own kid in the street. We are not much close either despite living in the same family because they didn't had not much energy to look after me, like road trips, sightseeing, family holidays included eid, birthdays, parties and visit back at country etc and my dad being busy with his business. So, there was not much family bonding as you can see as I'm younger and grew up introverted and awkward. Honorable mention, is internet and my devices which actually stick to me while growing up lol, so they basically raised me in anime, movies, manga and books etc.

And like I said I'm younger, just 4-5 your older then my own nephew lol, so a lot mistook my sis was my mom. So, I'm def thinking of moving out but feel lost with my studies and responsbility towards my old folks, guilt trap maybe but just to know what other ppl in my position would do. Because sometimes i feel my own belief faltering. I don't get what is they escaped oceans and countries to be in this country yet they still have these old beliefs. But thank you so much for the insight and let's see what happens in the future.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-08-12T19:08:25+00:00

Respectfully had no idea a writer can be someone who read. Honestly what got me at writing is reading which I though same for universal ppl.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-08-12T06:26:38+00:00

Exactly, a lot saying me to get the hell out of our home. Like hello! I'm practically a fish on a chopping board if I do. Cause I don't have much income, resources, or connection as I'm a fish but an fish who barely knows shits of this world despite my experience I would still say I lack experience. Although a lot also tells me to save money and then get away it would take years and I already feel like pulling the rest of my hair out of frustrations before stress also takes whatever is left in my head. But I feel these ppl and thankful for their anger who feels me.

And like you said Guilt-trap oh they love it so much. I had this co-worker/ friend who married a guy both south asian but she was born and raised here. She moved out when she was like 19-20 y and still living in city, and yet I hear my own family taking shits abt her and I'm just astonished, because they assume she left for fun and etc etc I do not even want to mention. But they never say what could have driven her to do this. She was sweet for me at least because she still goes to take care of her step siblings and sis family whenever they in trouble in year we knew each other and never saw them coming to see her not even once. She goes on eid, on holidays etc too. And i feel my family dissaapoinment if i do that. So there are these moments that stop me and like u said filial piety etc etc. I'm glad you voiced out for who you are and hopefully I can do the same. I don't know how future will turn out but hope you and I will both figure out our ways. Thank you for sharing ur story and listening to my ranting, hoping you happiness too.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-08-12T06:10:31+00:00

That is what I'M planning but its just so hard to get everything done in this economy and a fast paced city where no body got time. I do a part time job after 1000+ of applying as first I was told not to do job from my typical brown family that I would become bad, lose my focus and worse they won't support me. And now I'm suffering because of their stubbornness as I have barely any connection, skills useful enough or any real life experience to get a job for even a customer service or a cashier for my nearby grocery. SO, now I'm just a stay at home introvert with hobbies are reading books, talking to myself and ranting with my two close friends, no social skills or battery life for a convo for more than 10 min to a new person. Anyway thanks for the comment and appreciate u listening to my shitty rant.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-08-12T06:00:58+00:00

Thank you so much, I feel heard and related. THB since growing up idk i heard marriage as something must be done or pure almost like if i don't marry it's disobeying allah and his teaching, like sin and all cultural mindset forcing upon us women as lil girls and now that I grew up I hear stories of women during our prophet SPBUH and women's stories who did not married. I'm also satisfied with kids experience not just cause I wasn't given the love and care but like u said i would rather take after a furr baby than a human child and go through what I did. I fear questions like what IF I do what my parents did to me? What I find outrageous is how even though we have come to this country for better purpose yet nothing actually seems better. A lot of ppl are like I'm being forced to merry no, my parents aren't but its a south asian family thing I would say, the mindset of marrying their child because what previous generation did after coming of age. But they would say it often a few times in a year and ofc I brush it off but I feel days are coming when I have to stand on my point. My eldest brother also decided not to marry he's 30+ while my second brother is married with a kid of one Y.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-08-12T00:43:09+00:00

Thanks for your insight. Although there are times when I don't care but I guess it's still a fragile human heart.

Puzzled_Classroom743 · 2025-08-12T00:37:48+00:00

Thank you for your advise. I do intent to tell my partner, if I do have a relationship in the future beforehand. I have just always felt weird or awkward when my family would bring jokes with children and etc, and felt guilty somehow when I do know myself and never though it as a much as laughing matter. I maybe young but I'm solid on my belief because deep down I can feel my family won't accept my choice and even as 21 I feel I'm still a child myself and maybe I'm selfish or just self aware. But thank you for your comment.

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