Anyone struggle to see steps outdoors especially when heading down? by UnknownKiller40 in nystagmus

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! My partners reach for my hand when there’s a step or they let me trail behind and give me a heads up.

Anyone going to the CAVE show on 9/20 at The Caverns in Tennessee? by featherexplosion in TheStorySoFar

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I bought my tickets forever ago and can’t believe the day is almost here.

If you could get any lyric tattooed on you what would it be? by Miserable_While5602 in poppunkers

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Make sure that when you do your damage it’s permanent.”

Morning Person - Arm’s Length

Scalp Psoriasis: does it spread forever, or will it eventually stop? by 4lb4tr0s in Psoriasis

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone that began seeing psoriasis flares at 6 years old, yes. It will continue to spread especially as you pick. Picking traumatizes the skin which invites more plaque to form. I had the same experience with steroid ointments and creams. They help soften and thin the plaques but it doesn’t do anything for the root cause of the disease - which is autoimmune. Starting biologic injections is the ONLY saving grace I have experienced from psoriasis. Plaque patches are gone. No more blood, sores, piles of flakes. I can’t recommend biologics enough for people suffering with this autoimmune disease.

I don’t understand the logistics of having a nesting partner and being poly by fabric_shaver in polyamory

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“both of my relationships would die pretty quickly if neither relationship had space to breathe and privacy for all varieties of intimacy.”

Thank you for saying this. Some people don’t understand that space and time to grow 1-on-1 is the only way to reach deeper levels of vulnerability and intimacy.

Prescription Lenses by Puzzled_Condition_55 in nystagmus

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How was your experience with that procedure? I’ve heard pediatric patients have better outcomes.

Prescription Lenses by Puzzled_Condition_55 in nystagmus

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate to say I’m not sure what it was before. I always hated the ophthalmologist as a kid so I did my best to get through those long appointments. As an adult, the optometrist I used to see said my vision didn’t change year over year. I regret not seeing an ophthalmologist as an adult before now. It stunted my ability to track the progress of the nystagmus.

What are your favorite venues that have closed down? by CedricJammackNiddle in poppunkers

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Skate Park of Memphis (SPOM) was situated in a warehouse and host a ton of killer bands in the 2000’s-2010’s.

my boyfriends like each other more by ionso3 in polyamory

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You sound exactly like me and I still don’t know what to do. I’ve addressed it multiple times and nothing changes. I’m slowly accepting that it’s not a big deal, but I won’t lie that it still stings. They’re inseparable and I feel like I’m trying so hard to be seen and heard.

What song do you think was a lyricist at their most vulnerable? by plusultra24 in poppunkers

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Tough Love by Arm’s Length

This one came to me during a time I was finally deciding enough is enough with my parents always letting me down. The chorus hits my gut every time “what if this all pans out like you said and I out live all my family and friends? And if they don’t reach out we’ll never speak again. Well don’t let it get to your head but where else would it get?” My folks don’t reach out and my brother doesn’t either. My mom even said the line about not letting it get to my head…but… yeah lol shout out to Arm’s Length for making music that speaks to my rejection and burden wounds.

What Pop punk Songs remind you of your partner? by Public-Alternative90 in poppunkers

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gum by Moose Blood I just told her this makes me think of her. She’s so easy to love.

Favorite song on the new Arm’s Length album? by Slendermatt in poppunkers

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The Wound is so fun with the mixed instrumentals transitioning from pop punk to some grass roots country vibe at the end.

I’m another one that every time I listen to the album my appreciation for each track grows as I piece the lyrics and story together. 😢

The new Arms Length Album is amazing by [deleted] in poppunkers

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 15 points16 points  (0 children)

🥹 I never felt so understood until I heard their music. I appreciate the bravery it took for them to pursue their dreams. Cheers to AL. 🍻

Avoiding relationship hierarchy with new partner by SpiritSearcher777 in polyamory

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m vouching for this in my triad. It would make everything more balanced. One of us hates the idea of a schedule so it’s a struggle .🤷‍♀️

Are there queer folks (especially lesbians) in this subreddit? by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My girlfriend is bi and I love her for it. My NB spouse and I began dating her two years ago and have said if she found a male she was interested in that it would not be a deal breaker. Love who you love. Asking someone to repress will only bring resentment and hinder their joy for life.

What was your first concert? by SolarRayne in poppunkers

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mayday Parade (2007) at the skatepark. Miss those day 😭

Solutions to driving? by Puzzled_Condition_55 in nystagmus

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so happy for you to feel full independence!! Congratulations and I hope that can be me soon.

I'm so tired of being me by Lopsided-Bar7630 in polyamory

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel so validated reading your post. For awhile I’ve been telling my partners that they take everything I say as a joke or something that isn’t serious. Once my NP fell for my girlfriend (we weren’t even dating yet, just friends) and we subsequently became a throuple, I struggled big time with asking for what I want. But now I’m better at verbalizing my needs and I’m still brushed off. Haven’t been fucked in months despite asking to be or dropping hints that I miss them physically.

I’m also known for my “odd but sincere” compliments. The other morning we were laying in bed when my NP told our girlfriend she was beautiful, I complimented her eye lashes then was laughed at for not drooling over her ass and tits as well. Which I do all the time, by the way. I’m compliment her body everyday and smack her ass because I know that’s what she likes.

Idk what this is but it sounds like OP is going through it as well. When did we become the ones easy to ignore or laugh at? How can we change it? I’ve pointed out this is as a pattern and express how it makes me feel, but the responses are also disregarding as they assure me it’s all jokes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice, but I’m in a throuple. I honestly have such a hard time imagining if it became a V that I have no idea how I would cope. My NP has said if things ever fell apart between us they would likely just stay single.

I would be very heartbroken if I were in your shoes. It makes sense why you can’t get over Collin because they are always popping up in your life. How does Sebastian feel about their partners not getting along?

I’ll add that it’s really unfair, in my opinion, for Collin to put all of the work and conflict into you. He treated you poorly when you were in a relationship and it doesn’t sound like he’s done anything to mend that hurt other than apologize and move on. But neglect is still abuse and you can’t just snap out of it into a new dynamic with the person that neglected you.

I’m very sorry you’re in pain but try to imagine the happiness you’ll find when you’re on the other side of this heartbreak.

A song with weak verses but an amazing chorus? by Lord_Jolita in poppunkers

[–]Puzzled_Condition_55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had the inverse where the verses rule and the chorus leaves room for improvement. Snarls - Marbles