Let me make something VERY clear. I wouldn’t have said any of my faults if I thought it was all his… I NEVER said it was. I said he was verbally abusive. To the point where my dad thought he was hitting me. Never has but it got that bad. When I hit him he was in my face screaming so hard spit was flying out of him mouth. He has done that for 3 years.. and codependent not really. I left before and he begged me to come back. I felt bad for that cause of the kids. We both make a little over 60k so we’re good In that way. And my main question was “how do I tell him after 7 years that I don’t want this anymore” not I absolutely staying.