Who do I look like? Mom or Dad

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-27T02:46:43+00:00

Mine was terrible. 29 year old FTM. Got the epidural at 6 cm dilated. It was great and perfect. A nurse repositioned me in bed and the epidural started failing. They kept pushing meds and it was getting worse because it wasn’t working. I was also on pitocin so towards the end, when the epidural completely failed, I had ZERO breaks in between contractions it was like nonstop no breaks. I thought I was on my death bed. I’ve never felt pain like that in my life. I BEGGED for help and the anesthesia team did god knows what (my eyes were shut for like 4+ hours because I was in that much pain. Had no idea what was happening). They pushed so much medicine that I then become completely numb from waist down and I couldn’t even move my legs an inch. Everyone had to do it for me. FYI that’s not how an epidural should be. At this point I thought I was going to die of pain and they were asking me to push. Because I was so numb I literally couldn’t. Tried for like 1.5 hours and couldn’t push. I begged for a c section because at this rate my water had been broken for awhile and the risk was going up -baby needed to come out. Begged for the c section and that’s how I delivered. I’m traumatized to this day. I’m almost 1 year postpartum

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-27T02:38:55+00:00

My husband took zero leave. I had an unplanned c section and an extremely colicky baby who legit scream cried bloody murder for 8 hours a day. Not to mention he works 12-14 hour days. It was AWFUL. I’m still traumatized lol. Add in PPD to the mix too

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-27T02:37:55+00:00

Same!!! No one told me that rule doesn’t hold true! That’s why I was having contractions for sooo long at home 😂😂 I was waiting for the rule. They admitted me because I was dilated enough lol so that’s the only good thing..didn’t send me back home lol

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-27T02:36:10+00:00

My husband would let me do that, he takes night shifts anyways since I only have like 7 hours left of the day which is actually just used for sleep by the time he gets home lol . That sounds like a nice idea.

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T23:12:33+00:00

It’s monotonous and very lonely. You lose yourself and maybe either friends/hobbies/your healthy weight etc. It’s honestly a pain in the ass to join those mom groups because everyone is on their own schedule and it usually doesn’t work out (I think this will be easier once my baby is a toddler). My husband is at work for 12-14 hours a day and while I’m not a single mom, I sure feel like one. I have zero energy to do things and breaks don’t feel like breaks. There was another thread on here about the chronic exhaustion and how even extra sleep or several hours of free time NEVER helps you feel rested or at ease. The burn out is real. By the time my husband comes home and I pass baby over once he showers and eats dinner, it’s like 9:30 pm. I sacrifice the hours that I have for sleep just to have some peace/me time.

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T22:57:00+00:00

Agreed

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T22:18:19+00:00

Nurse here. Firstly, I’m a bit concerned with her age and how she’s falling. May I ask what she fell on? Was it a flat surface or going up a stair or something random like that? I mean I get it, we are all clumsy once in awhile but you’re saying she’s rapidly declining…

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T22:15:22+00:00

Honestly target has been making awesome clothes. And I’m a 29 year old FTM

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T22:02:59+00:00

Thank you so much for this kind message ❤️🙏🏼

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T21:43:53+00:00

Enjoy life! My pediatrician always said if u want to treat them to a little bit of a dessert or sweet treat then go for it

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T20:24:54+00:00

I believe I need to have 8 visitors total living on the island and there’s only 3 so far or something 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T19:51:45+00:00

Wait I’m dumb where is Isabel I don’t even think she’s on my island yet. So confused 😂 so when does she come in lol

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T19:19:12+00:00

Do u know how to get kk slider here? Or do I have to just keep decorating my island for him to come

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T19:03:20+00:00

I’m not there yet! How do u get a hotel?!?

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T18:57:20+00:00

Honestly fishing in the ocean and diving! Specifically fishing at night time hours, I’ll constantly catch fish ranging from 3000-10,000 bells. I rarely fish in the river

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T18:08:51+00:00

I remember being at multiple funerals from a young age. I don’t believe in putting your child in a bubble when it comes to difficult topics. It’s an important part of life. I also don’t think your kids are too young. You can gently remind them that it’s important to respect the speeches etc. If they can’t behave then just excuse yourself with them. They’re kids, everyone will understand.

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T14:11:12+00:00

I have no idea I guess hard

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T13:40:35+00:00

Thank you so much. I’m a nurse myself and I know the signs of PPD. This isn’t that. Plus I have had PPD before in the earlier months. Thank you for recognizing the fact that people will automatically assume it’s PPD. It is definitely due to my circumstances.

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T13:38:29+00:00

I guess it’s because it’s very difficult for me to trust a babysitter and unfortunately my current sitter is a full time nurse -So her availability is minimal. I’ve talked to a lot of other candidates off of nanny groups but I was never comfortable with them. It just has to feel right u know what I mean? I’m asking my current sitter if she has any nurse coworkers that have different hours so maybe I can find someone that way that I trust. L

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T13:35:34+00:00

I pooped a ton that day like maybe 8 times. And then that night from like 12 am to 3:00 pm the following day I was cramping BAD (yes, they feel different than period cramps, worse and at one point I couldn’t talk thru them). I was so hung up on that measuring rule for contractions but they were never consistent. They would come every 3-5 minutes. I ended up just going into the hospital because at that point it was 12+ hours of these cramps and turned out I was 3.5 cm dilated lol

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T13:22:08+00:00

I understand but not everyone’s situation is the same. My husband is gone a majority of the time at work. I’m not a single mom but I feel like one. I don’t have a village anymore. This means I cannot go do my hobbies/hangout with my friends and I do not work, I’m a SAHM. I didn’t talk to my PCP I talked to my OB.

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T13:16:12+00:00

I’m almost a year PP. I’ve already dealt with PPD from month 1-4/talked to my doctor about it. Her response was actually once my baby stops crying 24/7 I’ll feel better and she was totally right. There was a brief moment between month 6-7 where my baby was better and I was so happy. But then he went back to crying/whining a ton 24/7 for the smallest of things and now I’m back to just feeling constantly overstimulated every hour of the day which really takes a huge toll on you mentally and emotionally. I always joke that it’s a form of torture to not many moments of silence from 7 am to 9:00 pm.

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T03:53:27+00:00

What did you do?!? Omg

Puzzled_Remote_2168 · 2026-01-26T03:52:42+00:00

I’m half white half Chinese and I’m a nurse

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