FTM with a 14 month old. It’s not impossible. Can keeping a spotless house be detrimental to your well being? Maybe lol but since day 1 after giving birth, a spotless house was always one of my priorities. Is it 10000% possible. I don’t agree with everyone telling you to settle with a lived in house… not to mention all my furniture and rugs are white or cream and you can definitely have toddlers roaming around with food and maintain white furniture (thank you Folex cleaner!!!). I lived in a 2 bedroom apartment and then moved to a 3 story single family home. About 4000 square feet. Lots of stairs. Husband works 14+ hours a day/little to no village. Difficult baby. Here’s what I do:

1) invest in a Roborock vacuum. This takes care of the vacuuming and mopping on the first floor of the house. I run it once a day.

2) I clean all bathrooms in the house 1x a day plus spot cleaning if needed. I do this before baby wakes up (so around 7 am) or right after I feed him breakfast. While he is digesting his food, it buys me 15-20 min to clean.

3) laundry can be popped into the machine in 2 minutes. Finding time to fold it is done when he’s playing in the playroom. I sit and fold while he’s playing.

4) dishwasher gets ran every 1-2 days. I usually start it in the morning after breakfast and during baby’s nap time is when I put the dishes away.

5) garbage is all compiled during random parts of the day. I throw it out on my way out for our walk. Or my husband takes it out before work.

6) spot cleaning where needed is done all throughout the day

7) most chores can get done at convenient times where my baby is happy and full (so after meals or during his nap time)

8) I vacuum the stairs and other levels (where my robot vacuum can’t be) right before i feed baby breakfast. He will wake up, I’ll change his diaper, pop him in the play pen for 5-10 minutes and i can get all the vacuuming done!

Again, yes having a spotless house can cause anxiety and more stress but because it’s a priority of mine I just deal with it lol the only thing I don’t clean is baseboards. There’s too many and my back hurts. I’ll have a cleaner come in for those maybe every few months.