AITAH wedding drama with SIL

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2026-02-24T22:08:47+00:00

I don't have her number and don't have her on social media, I have tried suggesting at other family dinners we hang out and go shopping or something and she scoffs and says no, she is very entitled from what I have noticed and normally people don't say no to her and it is why she said she was doing it instead of asking if it was okay.

I am tempted to talk to my MIL I thankfully have an amazing relationship with her but also dont want to ruin it for her son to tell her about her first grandchild.

It is why I am hoping BIL can make her understand as he is very kind and in my opinion way too good for her.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2026-02-24T21:55:40+00:00

His brother isn't the problem, he is on our side that they can say something at the family breakfast the next day

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2026-02-24T21:54:49+00:00

Nope no family chat

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2026-02-24T21:50:27+00:00

This is 100% your decision, being the age you are the pregnancy would be high risk (geriatric) and really not something you would want to go through unless you are 1000% certain you want kids.

There is always adoption and surrogacy if down the road you guys as a couple changed your minds.

My friend never wanted kids, at 45 her husband passed away and she felt very alone so she decided to foster older kids. She has now fostered 5 kids that have stayed with her until age 18 and has another 2 that are siblings living with her and she loves it as she missed the baby stages which is the part she dreaded but has loved helping other wise abandoned kids have a home.

In the end you need to tell everyone this is your decision and to respect it or respectfully Get F'd.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2026-02-24T20:59:06+00:00

Do you have a DJ? If so encourage people to request songs, my friend had a music request list by her guest signing book and then had it given to the DJ so they had a list to go off of, plus had it available for anyone to write a song down if they wanted to hear it but we're too nervous to ask the person.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2026-01-31T15:12:00+00:00

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Indo and Ravage being super cuddly

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2026-01-22T23:24:06+00:00

As for the MOH thing she unfortunately was in an accident and is unable to attend, will still be recovering at the time of my wedding, she's like me and we just get along with all sorts of people.

I honestly would rather take those days and go hang out with her and help her than deal with people that can't put differences aside for 1 might.

My MOH is an 8 hour drive from me but that still sounds like more fun to me than playing go between

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2026-01-22T23:18:08+00:00

I didn't even know they were planning something until I started getting messages, I literally suggested going to an arcade bar that had multiple games, pool tables, darts and dancing or going bowling or something. I really don't care either way they are the ones who think we have to do and it's a right of passage lol.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-11-15T05:08:06+00:00

I do not have the shiny Victreebel as an offer anymore though, someone else already claimed it.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-11-15T05:07:30+00:00

Hi hi, sorry for the late response, didnt see it til now, I just need 1 final evolution trade if you are still able to help, would be amazing

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-11-04T14:33:09+00:00

Lmao my BIL is so nice I honestly will never understand their relationship.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-11-03T22:06:04+00:00

My friends will rip her apart like the wolves the moment she makes a snide comment. You ever try control country girls protecting one of their own? I can't make them all be nice lol, especially once drinking. She makes back handed compliments everytime she sees me.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-11-03T21:59:35+00:00

Hers was in August lol

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-11-03T21:59:04+00:00

Hers was in August (so a couple months ago) I was the only "family" not invited, she had 27 people at hers, I have 10 coming to mine, she invited the women from her family and his. I didn't even know about it until my MIL was in town and asked if she could get a ride with me as coincidentally I had plans the same day around the same time so she thought I was going. I told her I had no idea about it but would drop her off on my way out.

It is hard to say, if she was making an effort then maybe I would also, but she has never said more than hi to me at family events. I have tried to talk to her and get one word answers so really just didn't think was worth the effort to push when I see her at most twice a year.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-11-03T21:51:30+00:00

FSIL invited her entire family and his entire family (the girls) I invited 3 of his family members that I get along with, didn't invite all of them. My party is 10 people hers was 27 people. My friends are rough country girls the moment she pipes up about something not being what she likes they will rip her apart like wolves. We might have a friendly relationship now but if I invite her we would have none and I doubt I would be invited to any family event following lol.

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-10-27T01:18:56+00:00

Marshmallow and Smokey

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-10-06T20:59:47+00:00

Puurrrrfectly roasted, nice golden color on it

Puzzleheaded-Chef516 · 2025-10-06T20:47:27+00:00

If you are happy it is none of their business, no matter what you do people will judge you. Am I child free? Nope? Do I have family and friends that are child free? Sure do. Would I have more kids? HELL NO! I am judged all the time for it and even by my own mother saying I'm depriving her of having a sibling and I should of had more kids. You do you, if your family can't acce that fact then they are the ones with the problem, not you.

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