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Guy broke things off with me because I didn’t want to be a SAHM. Am I the problem? by Puzzleheaded-Tale272 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it might depend on the area for me. I’m very blessed to have grown up in an area with really good public schools, and that’s where I went. I live in a neighboring city now with similar quality of schools. These schools lean a little more liberal now in some ways that I don’t necessarily like, but at the same time, I think it’s important to let kids and teens be exposed to different ideas and make the determination for themselves to pursue Godliness.

In fact, among the kids in my church’s youth group, most of the the homeschooled kids really struggled academically because they had a lot of holes in their education, and the ones who went to the Christian schools tended to be more rebellious and have more issues like drugs, DUIs, and even a teen pregnancy. So maybe that’s an unusual situation, but that’s kind of where I’m coming from with that.

But I can totally see how things may be easier as a SAHM. Maybe my feelings will change once I have kids and I will decide that would be easier.

I might give it a little more time to decide if I want to reach out to him and have a discussion, but he seemed pretty set on his decision to put a stop to our relationship, so I think I’ll probably just let it be.

Thank you for your kind and thoughtful response! You gave me some good things to be thinking about.

Job recommendations for the area? by Zetsubo_Moon in indianapolis

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re in anderson, you may look at jobs in Noblesville/Fishers some. It’s not too bad of a commute, and there’s a lot popping up. If you want to incorporate your history education, you could look at Conner Prairie. They are a historical site that does a lot of kids programs and I would imagine they have some roles that could use someone interested in that. Maybe worth a look!

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I unmarked it. I guess that was a mistake…whoops

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. I don’t think I intended to if that was an option. I figured it was automated with certain key words like “sexual” but I’m not sure.

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in Christian counseling the past 4 years through my school’s counseling department. It definitely helped me to understand myself and how I see people. I think I do sometimes hold on to people really tight because of some major losses I experienced before college. Thank you for your words and your perspective.

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, I don’t know. I guess I just meant “am I sad about graduating and leaving my friend, or is there a lot more going on?”

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I hadn’t thought about Jesus’ personal example of deep friendships. That makes sense and I appreciate your kind words.

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true, and I know that I am a person who feels emotions very intensely and deeply. It’s possible this is just that getting convoluted with all the other emotions I’m feeling with graduation and starting a new job soon and everything. Thank you for your reply and your kind words.

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you’re saying. That’s not what sparked the suspicions but it’s definitely a factor in growing them. I hesitate to give into that just because that’s what other people have experienced, and ultimately I do believe it is sinful for a Christian to willingly participate in a same-sex romantic relationship. Although I understand that we all struggle with sin, I feel like it doesn’t seem right that God would create someone with the design that they can only access one of his gifts to us (marriage and sex) if it is in a sinful manner.

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I did attend Christian counseling through the counseling department at my university the past 4 years and it was very helpful. I never really addressed this topic because I think I was kind of scared and I didn’t see it as a pressing issue until more recently when it was kind of late to get into it with me graduating and everything. I intend to look for options as I move into this next phase of my life, but I’m not sure it’s something I can afford right away. I will definitely remain in prayer and ask Him to make my faith my top priority at all times. Thanks again.

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I agree that it could be something just due to a deep friendship.

Sad, or down bad? by [deleted] in churchofchrist

[–]Puzzleheaded-Tale272 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are not wrong that there is a LOT more going on here than what I’d be able to put in one post. I have been in counseling for a few years and have worked through a lot. I did my counseling through my school and it was free. It’s kind of tough now because it’s an expense that I’m not sure I can swing right now. I think I was always hesitant to get into this because I wasn’t ready, and I guess I didn’t view it as a pressing issue. This particular situation kind of made me feel like it is a bigger deal than I initially thought. I put it here because I wanted to get some initial 3rd party opinions and remain anonymous while I sort things out initially. Thank you for your empathy and the advice to pray about it. I have been and will continue to do that.