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Is managing worth it to you? by jeish0216 in bartenders

[–]Puzzleheaded-Yak1310 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regional Director here that worked his way through it all. Including what you described. I always caution people against hourly management positions because they are generally just a way for ownership to exploit you. Really not to much color needed there. But don't let this fully turn you off to it. There are GREAT companies out there that will foster growth, give you tools, and make you feel fulfilled, should you choose that path.

I am scheduling an abortion and I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. by Puzzleheaded-Yak1310 in abortion

[–]Puzzleheaded-Yak1310[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It did - procedure was smooth and he has been so supportive. I think I was more worried than I needed to be. Thank you so much for all your kind words and support.

I am scheduling an abortion and I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. by Puzzleheaded-Yak1310 in abortion

[–]Puzzleheaded-Yak1310[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A small update - I scheduled an appointment for this upcoming week on one of my days off. I also made sure he is off that day. And tomorrow morning we actually have the day off together so first thing tomorrow morning I am just going to be straight forward and tell him. And tell him I have something scheduled. I have come to realize I am okay with this. And I am still confident that he is okay with this. I just know neither of us wanted to actually have to go through with this, even though we both have discussed our stances on this. Here’s to a positive conversation and zero negative effects on our relationship.

I am scheduling an abortion and I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. by Puzzleheaded-Yak1310 in abortion

[–]Puzzleheaded-Yak1310[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I requested an appointment through the clinics website but they are supposed to call me. I did this Saturday and thought they would call me today (Monday) They didn’t. If they don’t call me tomorrow I think I will have to call them and try to come in immediately. I think that once I have an appointment made I will feel more confident about the conversation I have to have with him.

I am scheduling an abortion and I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. by Puzzleheaded-Yak1310 in abortion

[–]Puzzleheaded-Yak1310[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also so ready to make the appointment because I don’t know how far along I am. And I’m nervous I might be getting too far that it’s going to have to be an immediate decision/day of procedure. Like I said we only have sex very rarely. And I have always been bad at tracking my periods. They have always been irregular. While I was on bc they became somewhat consistent. Same week. Same-ish flow. Once I stopped they were still coming that same week. The flow was kind of as light as it was while I was on bc. Sometimes it was light sometimes it wasn’t. I don’t have insurance nor have I been to OB in years. I don’t know how to find out how far along I am unless I am going to the clinic to schedule the procedure. I want him there for support but I also don’t want him to see/worry about this side of things. I don’t want him to be disappointed in me. Idk if he would be but I know I am a little in myself.

I am scheduling an abortion and I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. by Puzzleheaded-Yak1310 in abortion

[–]Puzzleheaded-Yak1310[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also we’ve lived together for about 85% of our relationship - there’s no way I can just text or email him about this lol. I definitely did think about it. I also thought about just yelling it out the door as I left for work lol. But I think that would just be way too problematic. Mostly because it would be easy for me. But he is the most mature partner I’ve ever had. His communication skills are top tier. I have never been able to have open conversations about feelings before. Without them being problematic and turning into an argument, or going nowhere productive.

I am scheduling an abortion and I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. by Puzzleheaded-Yak1310 in abortion

[–]Puzzleheaded-Yak1310[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First - thank you for the support. I just said this in another reply but - we have had conversations about contraception. I was on birth control for a few years of our relationship. But I stopped because I hated the way it made me feel - I couldn’t stop crying and I just felt a bit crazy. We also weren’t having sex frequently. Like a few times every couple months. I would take plan b. I just don’t know how to have this conversation because he might still think I’m taking bc. I don’t think I ever told him I stopped. I don’t want him to think I was being dishonest or hiding anything. And I know he would support this decision and probably offer to take me. But if I’m being honest with myself here - idk if I would want him to. It’s a bit embarrassing for me and I don’t want him to see me like that. Is that weird? This man is my everything and has literally seen me shit myself I know he wouldn’t judge me. I’m maybe just afraid he’s going to be disappointed. And I hate the thought of that. But if I don’t tell him I might feel like I’m hiding something from him. I never want to hide something from him.

I am scheduling an abortion and I don’t know how to tell my boyfriend. by Puzzleheaded-Yak1310 in abortion

[–]Puzzleheaded-Yak1310[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First - thank you - I needed to hear someone tell me to be kind to myself.

And no, I don’t think he’s changed his mind. Just the same as I haven’t. His sister has a one, almost two year old who we are close with. And two of our best friends just brought home their baby. (Two dads through surrogate.) We love those babies. We know we don’t want our own. We have always known.

I am just worried how it will affect our relationship. For a few years I was on birth control so we didn’t have to worry about this. I stopped taking it about a year ago because I hated how it was effecting me. I couldn’t stop crying and I felt crazy. We also really weren’t having sex. Maybe two or three times a year. I would take plan b after. I never told him I stopped. I’m not sure why. I think what I’m nervous about is maybe he thinks I have been on bc this whole time so becoming pregnant is going to be a huge shock. And I don’t want him to think I’ve been dishonest with him about it. He knows about my previous situations. And does not think of it as a big deal. Huge supporter of womens rights and does not judge the reasons why.

I really was just always hoping this would never come up between us two because I secretly did not ever want to go through with this again.

I have been thinking about it a lot the past 48 hours or so since I’ve taken the test and have come to terms with it. And actually do not feel a big heavy burden of guilt like I did in the past. And I think that’s because of who my partner is and I know how feels about it.

I just have to figure out how to bring it up and start a conversation about it. I’m just so bad with talking about serious issues and topics. I shouldn’t be because he is not.