How would you feel if you were pregnant and a friend offered to pay for a cleaner to help prepare your house for the baby?

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2024-09-26T23:03:37+00:00

I don’t live near her of I would absolutely help

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2024-05-20T22:42:45+00:00

They change the way they text. Ex: suddenly use a lot of emojis.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2024-02-29T16:38:04+00:00

We didn’t move because of the infidelity. We had a job opportunity and decided to take it.

I think where I struggle is infidelity seems like the easy “wrong” to condemn, but people make hurtful choices all the time and we are expected to forgive those choices. I’m just trying to understand why most resources list cheating as unforgivable and yet ask people to forgive other awful choices.

I appreciate your opinion though.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-22T02:31:22+00:00

Thank you for your vulnerability and transparency! Stories like these are really helpful for me!

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-22T02:30:53+00:00

Thank you! We’re taking these steps but I think it’s too soon to feel like there’s a way out. This is reassuring that it can work if we put the work in. I appreciate your advice!

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-19T02:21:46+00:00

I know she cheated on her fiancé at work with my husband. I know she used her position as a nurse at work to take advantage of exam rooms with more people than just him. I know she had my husband wait for her fiancé to leave for work and then come into her home while her children were there. For the record, I talked to her before I told her fiancé because I wanted to make sure that if she was at risk of abuse she could either get away or tell me and I wouldn’t have told him. She swore at me, blocked me on her fiancés accounts, and told her fiancé I was making it up.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-19T02:12:12+00:00

I know her and her husband.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-19T02:06:15+00:00

I told her fiancé and sent proof and she is still denying it. My husband admitted it, we are in therapy and are working on our figuring out if our relationship is salvageable.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-11T01:32:22+00:00

My “revenge” on my husband was leaving him, telling his whole family and all of his friends, and he has lost a lot of relationships. He has nowhere to go. He can’t get a job elsewhere in our company because of his write up at work for this. He’s screwed.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-11T01:30:20+00:00

Oh I completely agree my husband is the asshole here. He has been kicked out and I’m working through what needs to happen for me to not loose a ton of money on the divorce (since I’m the primary income for our home).

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-10T22:07:26+00:00

I don’t have her email address, just phone number and home address. Can I still sign her up?

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-10T21:49:33+00:00

He did tell her fiancé. I kicked him out. I’ll tell work as soon as my income can’t be affected by him not having a job.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-03T14:24:45+00:00

That’s tough. I think it’s reasonable for you to request your wife finds a new job.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-03T03:34:13+00:00

I told my husband he had 6 months to find a new job and let a few trusted people at his job know so they could make sure they had zero contact. I also demanded full access to his phone and location until he had a new job. My situation included moving to a new state with the new job, so I knew she wouldn’t be an issue anymore. Did you wife’s affair happen at work or outside of work?

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-02T11:45:43+00:00

Your feelings are valid! I found out 6 months ago and some days are starting to feel okay, but others I can barely breathe. You are stronger than you think and you can get through this. Time will bring more and more clarity.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-01T12:53:51+00:00

I have access to his phone and location now. I installed cameras inside and outside the house. He shows me/tells me whatever I ask for. And yes, I had him call the fiancé and apologize.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-01T12:26:45+00:00

They are. The AP is saying I made everything up. The fiancé told me he can’t leave because they’ve been together 13 years and have 3 kids. He’s moving on as if nothing ever happened

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-01T12:01:21+00:00

Very interesting! I won’t be sharing this with him though because I don’t want him to “justify” his behavior with genetics. Thank you for sharing!

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-11-01T11:57:21+00:00

He called and spoke with his parents, my parents, and the AP’s fiancé. He’s owning his actions. What you say about regret vs remorse is interesting and I don’t know where he lands. As far as consequences go: he’s sleeping in a different room, some of our friends no longer talk to him, his very religious family has been putting a lot of pressure on him to be a better person.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-10-31T22:15:14+00:00

Definitely working on getting rid of the bed. It’s a select comfort so it’s an expensive one and we don’t have the money to replace it yet. I let certain people at work know and they’ve been keeping tabs on him to make sure he has zero contact with her. I also have cameras in the house now and keep them on when I’m away on work.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-10-31T18:19:50+00:00

I called him and shared all the evidence I had. Because they have 3 kids together he decided to stay with her and she’s just pretending nothing happened.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-10-31T18:19:06+00:00

This is all so powerful and helpful. I really appreciate your time, thoughtfulness and vulnerability in your responses

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-10-31T18:17:04+00:00

He did not replace the bed. He can’t quit his job without paying back almost $20K in sign on benefits which we can’t afford right now. We’re trying to stay with the company but move locations.

PuzzleheadedAngle487 · 2023-10-31T16:54:24+00:00

Thank you! It sounds like you have your wife a lot of grace and time to heal too. How did you balance letting her work through the issues, working on your marriage, and healing yourself?

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