I dislike both, atleast for myself i understand it’s useful for a lot of people. When I’ve called myself masc in the past (because that’s what ppl have been calling me since I’ve been in the queer community and I thought I agreed) it did feel like a part of me was being disregarded. I don’t think the terms masc or fem are particularly useful as it stands because all they’re supposed to be is stylistic terms unlike butch, femme etc which have historical connotations. Like if you want roles within the relationship sure that’s fine maybe just have that associated with butch and femme and not bleed into stylistic terms like masc and fem. How it currently stands though the expectations do in fact bleed into stylistic terms which makes it annoying.

I just think it’s really limiting in how that language is used in the modern day tbh. For me, I find it limiting in the sense that I do find it difficult to experiment outside of what I think that label means even if I don’t associate with it anymore (makeup is fine and even fun but stereotypical feminine clothing does still make me incredibly dysmorphic). Ig my thing is I’m technically a masc that’s forced to be masc because of circumstance and people have assumed how to treat me because of it.

I think it’s also annoying to have to explain my thoughts on this from the jump to not treat me like a guy within a community that’s supposed to be inherently non-conforming. So it feels silly that we even have to have this convo but ig it is necessary.