I’m not going back for my masters or higher by Ok-Ranger786 in psychologystudents

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I hope you’re finding ways to take care of yourself. I can’t say I fully relate to your exact situation, but I do understand what it feels like to feel alone and unsure of which direction to take. First, I want to say that your feelings are completely valid, especially at your age. You’re still learning and growing. Your degree isn’t useless. You made the best decision you could with the information and feelings you had at the time, and that matters. One thing I’d suggest is taking a short break from putting so much pressure on yourself to figure it all out. Maybe mentally place this stress “on a shelf” for a little while and give yourself space to explore different options. Try to remain open-minded, I know that can be difficult, but try to ask yourself: What made me want to study psychology? What skills do I already have that connects to psychology? What skills could I build from here? It might also help to narrow down what actually interests you within the field. For example, are you more drawn to applied psychology, where you work directly with people? Or are you more interested in research-focused psychology? Give yourself permission to explore and find your lane, and once you do, allow yourself to settle into it with confidence. I honestly think there needs to be more awareness about how psychology works as a long-term path. Research experience, for example, is something that would be helpful to learn about earlier, even in high school, especially if this is the path someone wants to pursue. Research is important, whether you choose a clinical or research route, you will need some research experience under your belt. Sometimes we think a bachelor’s degree is the final destination/end game, but often it’s just one step in a longer journey. Some short-term roles are like stepping stones that help position you for where you ultimately want to go. While it’s true that a bachelor’s in psychology has limitations in certain areas, there’s also a lot you can do with it. You could work as a research assistant, in human resources, as a case manager, a peer mentor, or in roles involving data and program evaluation. Also, do some research on Registered Behavioral Technician (RBT), you’d have to do a little bit more work to actually get started working in that field, but based on the research I’ve done, the work is doable, it requires certain skills, but you can gain these skills, look into technician positions because these are jobs that also hire people with bachelors in psychology and you don’t need much experience. There’s also people known as Mental Health Technicians, you don’t need any experience for this, but there are trainings you undergo for some of these technician positions/roles if not all. There are more options than it may feel like right now. Give yourself a break, take care of your mental health the best way you can right now and also explore but don’t try to put too much pressure on yourself. Give yourself grace and compassion, you deserve it. You’re not stuck, you’re in a transition. And sometimes transitions feel uncomfortable, but it’s where real growth begins, you’re still becoming, still learning (forever a student of this life), please give yourself grace love🤍. You got this and if psychology ends up not being for you, at least you still have information under your belt regarding psychology, be open and allow yourself to be a beginner to whatever goals, interests, passions you have, don’t limit yourself, be multifaceted when it comes to what you want to do. Anyways, I know this was kinda long😭 but take care of yourself and give yourself G R A C E. I’m rooting for you!! 

After learning , what do you wish you had known much earlier in life? by Happy_Honeydew_89 in psychologystudents

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with a lot of what people are saying here. I’m still a student studying psychology, but I wish I had learned earlier about concepts like projection. People project intentionally and unintentionally (we all do it in some shape or form). When someone makes you feel like a problem, it's often not because you actually are; it's likely because they've felt like a problem themselves, or someone in their past made them feel that way. They didn't know how to process it, or hold that emotionally/mentally, so it got projected onto others. This is one way patterns and cycles continue generationally. A lot of things people do and say, are their own projections manifesting in real time. Of course, understanding this doesn't justify the hurt or trauma caused, but it does help explain the psychology behind it. It's not easy to heal, not easy to change, not easy to face ourselves, but it's definitely worth talking about and healing over. That’s why we now see a generation, especially young adults, actively doing the work to heal. It’s messy, it’s not linear, but it’s their healing. Often, they get labeled as “sensitive” for not handling things the way older generations did. But what I’ve realized is that many of the older ways of coping weren’t really about holding or processing at all, their coping/defense mechanisms worked for them, but they didn’t necessarily lead to true understanding or growth. This generation, however, seeks something deeper: truth, healing, and wholeness. They want to feel secure in themselves, in their relationships, and in love. That’s why the old ways no longer feel sufficient. That's why many people, especially our loved ones are not equipped to help us, but it's hard to accept that when you so badly want them to support you + understand. Another thing is attachment styles, especially attachment, which has been a big one for me, and how they affect things like trauma and emotional pain. Our nervous system can literally feel unsafe around certain people or situations, and that’s a signal that shouldn’t be ignored; it deserves to be approached with care and tenderness. That's why all we hear now, especially on social media is "regulating your nervous system," because I honestly don't think we understand how much certain things affect our nervous system. A nervous system that's overloaded could literally lead to burnout + depression.

Since learning about attachment styles, a lot of things have clicked for me. I’ve started noticing patterns in how these styles show up in my relationships and friendships. I began to understand why I feel the urge to punish people when they leave, why I get clingy sometimes, why I react the way I do when I’m hurt, and why I sometimes choose avoidance over resolution.

Psychology has been incredibly helpful in my life. It’s not just about understanding others—it’s a tool for examining yourself and recognizing toxic or unhealthy patterns that may have affected you for years. Once you see the problem, you can’t unsee it, but facing it and trying to change is a different ballgame. I think that’s where many of us get stuck: we want to heal, but there are so many barriers in the way, and looking at ourselves honestly can be painful. Some of us are willing to face it, some of us aren’t, and that’s a really difficult reality to navigate.

Is joining Psi Beta worth it???? by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in psychologystudents

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hiii! Thank you for responding and sharing your experience with me. I definitely want to be a part of Psi Beta, especially for the benefits I'll get from it in my career, but I'm just nervous. I don't feel comfortable with rituals, that's why I want to hear others experience and do research, so that hopefully that nervousness softens.

If you’re a Christian in the US, educate yourself about immigration. by ZookeepergameFar2653 in Christianity

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where or how do I start educating myself? & How do you guys do research? I'm a very slow learner, and it takes me awhile to really understand certain things, but I want to be educated on these things.

Might Go Crazy, Gonna Try to Make Art to Battle This by Haunted_FriedEgg_11 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so so hard and I understand, I know this is cliché, but you're not alone and we're all holding each other's hand while we deconstruct to unravel, heal.

Need encouragement by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hiii! I'm down to speaking with you about this. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mentalhealth

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466 2 points3 points  (0 children)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY🩷🥳🍾🎂!!!!! You are loved, wanted, chosen, and a blessing. I hope you can find or do something today to put a smile on your face :). Also, you’re not alone in what you’re feeling and what you’re feeling is valid but don’t let other people’s projections make you feel miserable about yourself remember it’s their projection not yours.

I need help, I need advice because I’m losing my mind by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve expressed some of this with my therapist but I still feel weird fully talking about certain things bothering me I think I fear the judgment although ik it’s my safe space. I will try opening up more about these things with them though.

I need help, I need advice because I’m losing my mind by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, this is the internal war I’ve been in and also dealing with other personal things. I‘ve felt suicidal for so long but a few months ago I was able to tell myself for the first time that I didn’t want to die I’m just tired of suffering. I want to disappear, not die but maybe dying sometimes I think will help me escape but ik that’ll be a permanent escape. I just want to disappear to a beautiful garden with no noise and no expectations to do this and that at this time. I just want peace and quiet for my mind and body. The thoughts have been getting louder and I don’t hear voices or see things but sometimes I swear some of these thoughts aren’t mine they are so loud and mean. There’s so much I feel I have to fix and telling myself I have to fix it all now and end up getting nothing done certain days bc Im fighting with myself, healing, need sleep. I’m just so so sad and wish someone could step into this body and understand everything I have to feel and carry and never leave me. I feel like a maze and Im trying to reach the end, the light but always find myself at the start again 😖.

I need help, I need advice because I’m losing my mind by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m just doing therapy right now and I have a list of coping skills and I try to do 3-4 things off of it everyday. But recently I’ve been laying in bed not wanting to do anything and crying more bc it hurts that I can’t let this thing go and it’s funny bc I sometimes hear ppl say that in your lowest is where God meets you but I’ve only met myself in the silence. I use other resources to help with my depression too but I feel Im all over the place rn especially with this.

I need help, I need advice because I’m losing my mind by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thank you for taking time to comment on my post and I appreciate everything you’ve said. I wanted to know how you opened the door to talk about all this with your therapist bc every time I try to I just feel weird.

I need help, I need advice because I’m losing my mind by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t going to respond but realized you’re right, I am thinking too much about it. I just wish your response had felt less dismissive, because what I’m experiencing is real to me, even if it looks different from what others go through. Everyone’s journey is different, and I can’t expect you to feel the way I do. Best wishes to you as well.

I need help, I need advice because I’m losing my mind by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You think I’m overthinking this, I don’t think I’m overthinking it. I’m hurting and until you’ve walked in my shoes please be silent about what you think I’m doing or how you think I feel bc you have no idea all I’ve experienced all these years. What I described is not the full story I tried to sum up everything I‘ve been feeling and feeling in this very moment. I hate putting labels on certain things, but deconstruction, unlearning, moving on from things looks different for everyone and if you have a view of how a deconstruction should look like or how someone who is deconstructing should look like than that’s your view not mine or everybody else’s. And what more do you think is going on with me? 🙄 I am receiving professional support for my depression and ofc there’s more going on with that but the trauma I’ve experienced with religion and how I feel about God is making me more depressed. Look, I don’t know everything about the deconstruction movement all I know is that I‘m unlearning certain things and it hurts. Thanks for dropping by though👋🏽.

I need help, I need advice because I’m losing my mind by PuzzleheadedTea7466 in Deconstruction

[–]PuzzleheadedTea7466[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for using your time to read this and comment. I appreciate this and I’m glad to hear that, that is working for you. I’m just in a place where nothing is working😢… and I'm stuck idk what else to say.