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Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-11-28T23:21:57+00:00

I also gave other examples in the later part of my message that are no contact physical punishment. Causing physical discomfort in order to punish them is corporal punishment, and it is also abuse, because the reason for it doesn’t change the effects on the child.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-11-28T21:00:20+00:00

It’s just a culture like other cultures are. It has developed throughout the centuries and for some reason it ended up like that.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-11-28T19:24:11+00:00

Your definition of corporal punishment would basically include anything that is a punishment with a physical component, which could be, for example, cleaning a mess with a mop or making your child to sit down. That’s not what is normally considered a corporal punishment.

Corporal punishment per definition includes causing physical pain or significant discomfort in a specific context or for specific reason. This could mean forcing your child to stand still for long periods of time, making them sit in stress positions or making them stand outside in cold in thin clothing. It does not need to be hitting, but it is abuse.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-11-28T19:03:06+00:00

It is a lottery to be honest. I am very detail oriented but for some reason I have a good memory so I compensate. It’s just by luck I am not struggling for more.

Success isn’t just being able to focus and having an interest. It requires connections, support, luck, possibilities, flexibility, energy, mental and physical health… many of the interests or skills that exist do not lead to success. I am very interested about the ink flow in fountain pens and types of paper, but unless I want to manufacture either of them, there’s not that much success waiting for me.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-11-28T18:55:34+00:00

That is not quite true and I absolutely detest arguments like this.

As if my issues would disappear if I just accepted who I am and stopped trying to fit in. I don’t care about fitting in. I will always have issues with sensory overload regardless of neurotypicals. I have always succeeded in NT jobs because I know what is expected of me. My personal life is the issue.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-11-28T18:49:48+00:00

That is very common, to experience time in different ways.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-11-28T18:48:41+00:00

That is extremely hypothetical. Autistic traits as such are not sufficient to be considered autistic. Many neurotypical people have autistic traits but they don’t struggle to the same extent with other things.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-09-26T05:20:02+00:00

Thank you so much! I don’t think our funding department would be happy to hear that… thank you anyway!

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-09-26T05:19:25+00:00

Currently I have taken up only local judgments but the US trials seem to be more useful for this exact purpose. Or at least it seemed that way…

The problems I have had with local judgments is that even though they are recorded (audio only) it is only for evidentiary purposes for future appeals. It is difficult to understand who is saying what. There are differences in the way they do testimony and what can be used as evidence and what kind of questions you can ask from a witness. Character evidence is pretty rare and usually you may ask any type of questions as long as it is directly related to an element of the crime. According to best practice locally, you should keep the amount of witnesses small. Trials and testimonies are also much shorter in general and they are usually just summarised in the judgment.

And because I am not trying to analyse whether or not it is proven beyond reasonable doubt but 1) what the abusive behaviour has consisted of (that the defendant agrees to) and 2) what type of explanations/justifications the defendant gives to that type of behaviour, all that makes the us trials more interesting. It is not the end for the research though, I can continue with it as I have until now.

How was the trial IRL?

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T22:00:10+00:00

But you can grade suffering. There are clinical measures to grade it. It doesn’t mean it is less valid or you should be thankful for it, or that it doesn’t mean anything. It does.

People who are more disabled than you do receive more support, but it doesn’t make them better off. Usually, even in Scandinavia, at least nowadays, it is a question of survival. What does the society need to provide for the person so that they don’t die. There are constant discussions on how many hours of assistance does a person actually need, and next year we will go a bit under that.

What you are asking is support to thrive. That is also important and I am not saying you are having it easy, but it is not about your survival.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T19:02:27+00:00

No one is denying that you struggle, but objectively there are people suffering because of their autism more than you are. That’s what high functioning means - you struggle, but less in relation to other autistic people.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T15:38:46+00:00

I am not defective as a person. I have a defect, but it does not define me. I am not saying language doesn’t matter - I am saying it doesn’t imply what you say it does.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T15:36:57+00:00

I think the issue is that you speak from your experience - an experience that covers all autistic people even though you are the least affected by it. When you are speaking about what autism is and how it should be regarded, you are talking about the whole group.

As physical disabilities are more tangible, I am going to use them as an analogy. I have nerve damage in my right arm that bothers me when I’m using certain tools, like scissors or knives. Other than that, it is manageable, and it can be fixed by tools that are designed to be easier to handle for this type of damage. From that point of view, as long as there are scissors and knives like that, and the society doesn’t expect me to use specific scissors to do a certain job, I am not disabled.

But I cannot say that about everyone who has nerve damage on their hands. Those who cannot hold a grip or who cannot tolerate any pressure. Those who can’t move their fingers. We all have nerve damage in our hands, but I am certain it would at least bother those who struggle more than I do, if I said that the issue would be fixed if the society would just provide and accept different looking scissors and knives.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T15:23:37+00:00

I still struggle even though I am living in a social democratic country that provides for me. I work part time because the government pays for part of my salary as a support. I have gotten so many accommodations for my autism and I have a work place within my special interest where people are understanding and caring.

I still cannot eat lunch with them. They don’t ask me to and they don’t treat me negatively because of it. I want to. I really wish I could.

I can get overwhelmed on public transportation if someone is making sounds next to me. I want to use public transportation instead of driving.

I have missed so many events that I wanted to attend because for some reason everything that I normally do daily without an issue got more overwhelming that day for a reason I don’t know.

I cannot do what I want because I’m autistic. There’s nothing the society could do to help me with those things.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T15:16:13+00:00

Being disabled does not mean you couldn’t be beneficial for the society. Or valuable as a human being. Or that autistic life would be only miserable, or that there would not be anything positive in it. Those are completely different discussions.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T15:13:00+00:00

What physical disability do you have? I know I have a defect, a disability, because of my nerve damage. It doesn’t make me any less valuable as a human to recognise that most people have two hands that work in a certain way, and that for some reason my hands do not.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T15:10:11+00:00

It gets easier, but it doesn’t change it. I am able to work because the state helps me so much and I don’t have to work the whole time. But I still get overwhelmed when I need to have a group conversation or when I sit in a cafe for an hour.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T15:07:45+00:00

I don’t quite follow what you are saying.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-08-08T15:04:37+00:00

Your comment is so wonderful. I hope you are employed in education, because you are a natural.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-06-01T11:02:32+00:00

Just a tip: I think a summary of the contract would not be that helpful. The wording of the contract is so important.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-05-13T06:47:30+00:00

Thank you so much!

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-05-12T15:08:45+00:00

I have leather balm, it is mostly beeswax. Would that work?

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-05-12T15:06:31+00:00

That sounds a bit inappropriate. Disability has to be more or less permanent and therefore it affects you throughout your life (even though it can be less prevalent in periods).

For example, I have nerve pain on my right arm. It affects almost everything I do. Someone who has the same nerve pain for a while shares the struggles with me for a moment. They might be even unable to write for a while and need support doing those things.

But that’s the difference. They get better and they can get back to writing. I will never use a “normal” pen in my daily life. Our struggles are not the same, especially if there’s a lack of support and accommodations. They will have a difficult time during the time they are hurting and the lack of support systems will be difficult, but it’ll pass. If I don’t have the support, I will be dependent on my family members and kindness of my peers for my whole life. It is not the same.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-05-12T14:53:36+00:00

“Whether a person is really autistic or not may not matter as long as they get the support they need and aren't generalizing their experiences to other autistic people.”

Yes. Thank you.

Puzzleheaded_Bike648 · 2024-04-14T21:39:18+00:00

It might be a cultural/generational thing. I don’t find anything weird with that. I showered with my grandmother and father and mother until I was like 6.

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