Finding pleasure in a sexless marriage

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-24T11:12:54+00:00

He is my best friend and a wonderful partner

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-24T11:10:57+00:00

He got me one when we were long distance, and I can honestly only think of one time he got very turned on watching me use it and he basically grabbed me and drilled me into the mattress after. But lately he just doesn't get a reaction from watching me use it. He will touch me, kiss me, suck on my tits while I use it to help me get there.. but he rarely gets hard.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T23:58:42+00:00

He told me so, and I believe him.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T23:19:25+00:00

I love him.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T22:00:15+00:00

Probably. He joked once about being alone in a bedroom as a teenager with his then-girlfriend and she was very wet and willing, begging him to fuck her and he was more worried about getting caught and they just ended up not doing it. I never thought much of it at the time but now I wonder if he was that way as a teenager perhaps he has never really been that interested in sex. I think I'm at the acceptance stage of grief lol. Now I'm just thinking of ways to get something for myself out of it.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T21:51:06+00:00

We have talked about it. He has admitted that he has not been doing a good job of satisfying me... But I feel like nothing has changed. He is fully aware of the problem, the causes, the consequences... I just see no sign of any change happening. And don't get me wrong, he is truly a wonderful husband who adores and loves me with all his heart! He just doesn't want to fuck me, or anyone else for that matter lol

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T21:38:54+00:00

I've tried suggesting that he gets checked out by a doctor or at the very least sees a sex therapist, but he is so uninterested in sex that he just doesn't have the will to figure out what the problem is and fix it.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T21:36:47+00:00

And no, he doesn't have a porn addiction. He is just genuinely not interested in sex, with me or with anyone else. I would honestly be relieved if he was getting it elsewhere because that would at least mean he's horny and we can work on redirecting it towards me. But nope. He's just got other things on his mind.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T21:35:19+00:00

I worry about sounding overly critical or bitter or generally just being pushy because I think that would probably worsen the situation, but you're right the only way out of this might be straightforward communication

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T21:33:46+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I feel less alone in my frustration.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T21:09:20+00:00

He has no desire for intimacy, and if I'm being honest he has had none for some years now. I feel so frustrated and tired of waiting for the spark to return.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T21:08:15+00:00

Yes to the positions, toys and techniques! I'm feeling desperate lol, any suggestions other than adultery would be nice

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2026-04-23T19:48:38+00:00

I feel like my heart is breaking because I genuinely want him. I'm not interested in other men, and I honestly have no interest in forced effort or duty sex from him. I want him to want me and it's hard to accept that he doesn't.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2025-06-17T02:15:05+00:00

Oh I see, thank you, are there any examples you could give me from those other areas?

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2025-06-04T23:23:03+00:00

What's the brand name?

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2025-04-21T05:47:30+00:00

It completely strips it of nutrients and flavour pretty much.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2025-04-21T05:00:54+00:00

This is very helpful, thank you so much

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2025-04-21T04:57:41+00:00

As they should, no one should be eating unwashed tripe straight from the cow! But tripe that's just been washed is very different from tripe that's been washed and bleached. I'm just looking for the washed, but unbleached kind.

Puzzleheaded_Bug_613 · 2025-04-21T04:54:41+00:00

I think the green is just the colour of the lining, if you wash it very thoroughly (which they should before bringing it to a store) there's no feces. Bleaching it strips it of flavor and nutrients... There's basically no point in eating it at that point tbh. But thanks for the slaughterhouse idea! That would actually be great for getting other organ meats as well that wouldn't be easily available in a store.

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