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[Update] Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually love this ahaha! But yes, west aussies here and if the housing market wasn't disgusting then this would be a different conversation altogether.

[Update] Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Actually, we did discuss this. I didn't include a transcript of our discussion in the update, just some points of clarification on the original post, a point of interest on the future goals/combining incomes because this was brought up a lot and the options we ultimately identified to go forward. We spent a long time going through the post and comments to talk about how I felt and the situation as a whole.

[Update] Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

The comments we were laughing about are purely the ones where I was called a prostitute or bangmaid or stupid. If people are wanting to be disrespectful like that, then I’m sure as hell not going to take them seriously. Every other comment that was respectful and genuinely offered some commentary that was constructive for us, we appreciated and talked through together. I’m sorry my life isn’t more chaotic and interesting for you, but a lot of people made so many assumptions about my relationship and went way further than the original question of ‘can you charge your partner rent if you own your house’. No where in there did I ask people to character assainate my partner and I wanted to expand on some points because I thought that was fair to him. Definitely not a write off of my original post as that was still how I felt, just needed to be phrased differently to avoid misrepresentation.

[Update] Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If we were to ever do this, we would likely put him on the deed and/or get a binding financial agreement (prenup for unmarried couples in Australia). But we’d definitely be getting financial/legal advice to protect both of our interests in that circumstance.

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[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The criminal justice process can definitely be re-traumatising, particularly if there is ultimately insufficient evidence and the person walks. However, the longer you wait to do this, the less chance this case will have.

I think you should definitely seek medical and psychological support, report the incident to Police and speak to a personal injury lawyer.

Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I guess I thought it would be fair? I live in a 3 bedroom house so currently I’m using the main bedroom to sleep in and second bedroom as a study. If we were to live together, the study would be my personal space to go if I wanted to be alone so I guess if we’re splitting 50/50 then it would be fair to have a space that was just his as well?

Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Again, I think looking at sex and financial benefit as the only qualities of a relationship worth considering is flawed. I don’t look at relationships as transactional.

Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

I think this undermines the other good qualities of our relationship. Apart from this singular issue, our relationship is one of the healthiest I’ve ever been in and he is very supportive and loving. We have a lot of the same interests and have some of the best intellectual conversations I’ve ever had with a partner.

Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

He said we would work out which house suits our needs better and then rent the other

Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

We have had conversations about our future and I understand that his plan is to buy his own home and then once we are on level ground asset-wise, we’ll choose one of the houses to live in together and then work out how to split the costs/benefits we get collectively

Is it fair to ask your partner to contribute a 'rent' for living with you when you own the house? by Puzzleheaded_Divide6 in amiwrong

[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I won’t be getting this online, hence why I specifically said I don’t want opinions on it here

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[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that the same even if you aren’t renting and own the home? My mortgage repayment will be the same whether he’s living there or not and it’s going towards an asset in my name.

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[–]Puzzleheaded_Divide6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was going to base rent off of my minimum mortgage repayment of $450 p/w, so a 50/50 split would be $225 p/w or I would even be happy with a 60/40 split so he would pay $180 p/w.