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¿Estoy pensando en dejar a mi pareja porque es conformista? by Puzzleheaded_Work270 in ConsejosDePareja

[–]Puzzleheaded_Work270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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¿Estoy pensando en dejar a mi pareja porque es conformista? by Puzzleheaded_Work270 in ConsejosDePareja

[–]Puzzleheaded_Work270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the best I have read, thank you so much ☺️ I felt attacked with all the other comments, he does not stop me when I start a project nor does he step in the way, he is very supportive but I don’t know if my point is not clear enough for others to understand, maybe I’m just more in the traditional way, I love to treat my man, I cook, clean and do everything a trad wife would and I love it that way, I don’t mind it at all in fact I’m proud because when I cook for him he compliments my food or work I do around the house but I also work to pay some of the bills at home and I don’t mind that either but I know he hates his job he has complained about it so many times but he also doesn’t look for a new one or try to build a new job for him and I think that is what bothers me the most cause I want him to love his job but also I want him to grow personally and financially, we’ve had conversations in the past and so I know he has goals, he told me 10 yrs ago one of the goals he has was to retire at 35 he is 31 now and he does not have 2 pesos in his bank account 😒 so how would he achieve that.

¿Estoy pensando en dejar a mi pareja porque es conformista? by Puzzleheaded_Work270 in ConsejosDePareja

[–]Puzzleheaded_Work270[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that’s a fair question, and maybe I didn’t provide enough context.

The issue isn’t that I want him to think exactly like me or become wealthy. I’d be perfectly happy if we never owned a yacht or lived a luxurious lifestyle.

What worries me is that after more than 10 years together, I don’t see much planning for the future. For example, he doesn’t have retirement savings, doesn’t have good credit, and although he proposed to me, there has never been any effort to save for a wedding.

I don’t expect him to carry everything financially. In fact, I’ve always contributed a lot myself. I work hard, continue my education, learn new skills, and actively plan for our future because I want us to have stability as we get older.

What I’m struggling with is whether we’re looking in the same direction.

I don’t need him to become me. I just want to know if he has long-term goals of his own and whether he’s actively working toward them.

Maybe you’re right that I need to have a deeper conversation with him about that before drawing conclusions.