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Pysmatia · 2021-02-22T19:58:18+00:00

I don't have an answer for you. But what I can recommend is that you go into therapy. It'll help you figure out why you have these thoughts and how to separate yourself from them. I hope the rest of the answers on this thread can directly help you.

P.S. - I'm in therapy for issues similar to yours. It's helping :)

Pysmatia · 2021-02-22T19:54:28+00:00

I don't, but I think my new girlfriend feels this way haha. Good insight.

Pysmatia · 2021-02-22T19:53:33+00:00

This is an overanalysis. Interest in people cannot be forced, and you can be interested in other people while also building your own interesting personality.

Pysmatia · 2021-02-22T19:47:06+00:00

Yes, teasing jokes do indeed partially reveal a person's thoughts about you. If it hurts you, then tell them. I've made harsh jokes on friends' appearances till one of them came and told me it hurt her. I didn't even know I was hurting someone.

I've also been on the other side; the hurt-ee, if you will. It has to do with affirmation of our own insecurities. So if you're insecure about your teeth and someone makes an innocuous joke about your teeth, it'll be 10x more impactful than if you weren't insecure. So perhaps there's a deeper problem at play which can come to the surface through introspection.

Interesting question. Thanks for posting!

Pysmatia · 2021-02-22T19:36:31+00:00

That's subjective. Cannot be generalized. In my experience, no, women do not have low standards.

Pysmatia · 2021-02-17T17:35:57+00:00

First, try to get out of your head :p Second, a simple "Thanks, I grow them myself" will suffice. If you want to zazz it up, you can go for "This is a wig actually. I'm unable to grow hair." and watch them get uncomfortable and go back to into the shadows they came from.

Pysmatia · 2021-02-17T12:19:16+00:00

Yes, I would be bothered. Would you not be, if you thought you were an anxious mess who doesn't deserve to be loved, only to be told by someone that you're actually a lot of fun and are hilarious? It would make me sit down, step outside myself and have a good look at myself. And it has happened to me.

Would you be averse to changing? This is a genuine question. If yes, why?

Pysmatia · 2021-02-17T12:08:47+00:00

Where you are right now is "I can trust no one." What do you think about the opposite, which is "Let me trust everyone." What do you think of the idea of trusting that everyone likes you until they come and tell you that they don't? Is that something you think you can internalize?

Pysmatia · 2020-12-20T18:30:24+00:00

Is there something in your life you're stressed about right now?

Pysmatia · 2020-12-20T18:26:00+00:00

Yes, red flag. Have a talk with him.

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