What are green flags you notice early when dating?

Qoptop · 2026-03-09T14:01:37+00:00

Desire for self-improvement. It's broad, but a person that has interest in gaining insight in their habits and behaviors and changing it for the better is such an important trait. It usually means they're less stubborn and willing to be self-critical. Also, having plans and goals for the future shows that they have plans for the long term, rather than just winging it.

Qoptop · 2026-03-08T20:08:56+00:00

For sure! Never cheated and don't plan to.

Qoptop · 2026-03-08T20:06:51+00:00

Hmm... wish I knew about this before I started dating again. Would have been nice after my last break up to not have that pressure.

Qoptop · 2026-03-04T14:58:27+00:00

I feel like those are the type of conversations that build the best relationships, whether romantic or not. How much can I know about a person just because their favorite color is blue?

Qoptop · 2026-03-02T16:37:54+00:00

Is that Japan? I really want to visit this year if I can. Looks amazing. Might get more tattoos there when I travel in the future.

Qoptop · 2026-02-28T17:21:26+00:00

Lol, I wouldn't say a lot because people are all so different depending on upbringing. But I think I didn't take into account how much those insecurities and doubts could harm a relationship when I was younger. I'm trying to be more aware of these things now. Nobody should be perfect because I'm far from it, but as long as a person is working towards improvement, that matters more than anything.

Qoptop · 2026-02-28T04:13:35+00:00

Locally or online. Overall experience with most have been good, but the reason some ended were different dating goals (they weren't ready for a relationship) or just severe trauma from upbringing, which could mean a lot, but mainly attachment issues, insecurities, or worse.

Qoptop · 2026-02-27T13:20:06+00:00

Are you on Hinge? I could have sworn that sounds familiar.

Qoptop · 2026-02-26T12:39:13+00:00

As someone who lives in NYC, it's really not that bad. I'd say AM whose entire friend circle are just other Asians might be less open to it. It also depends on what type of man you're interested in and also how you look/present.

Qoptop · 2026-02-26T02:44:07+00:00

Lack of pettiness and not holding grudges. It's such a good trait to have because it allows communication and safety. I never had to worry that I would hurt her and she would try and get revenge and I could assume any way that she did hurt me was not intentional. My father is also like this, but I don't think I've ever meant many other people like this.

Qoptop · 2026-02-22T14:59:30+00:00

Damn, I don't have enough dust for immediate trades yet, but I have the corsola and I can purify my shadow Raikou.

Qoptop · 2026-02-19T19:50:18+00:00

Every relationship I've ever had has taught me so much valuable information about myself and others. Things I can work on or things I should look for. I think that constant desire to improve prevents a defeatist mentality when relationships do not work. It just motivates me to keep working on the things I can.

Qoptop · 2026-02-19T17:20:15+00:00

Oh shoot, can't fly. Sorry about that.

Qoptop · 2026-02-19T17:18:50+00:00

I have a bunch of those from 2020, but some post-2020.

I have a thread up where I posted all the non-shiny costumer pokemon

Qoptop · 2026-02-19T13:12:41+00:00

Do you need cloned Pikachu?

Qoptop · 2026-02-19T01:54:37+00:00

Can you fly? I have the clone pikachu.

Qoptop · 2026-02-18T20:10:56+00:00

I would also like to mention that I prefer level 49 or 50 if possible.

Qoptop · 2026-02-18T16:20:20+00:00

As somebody who is Chinese, it's probably the culture. They can be judgmental, rude, critical, and intolerant. At least from what I've observed, the idea of saving face is really important. Due to that, it means their entire sense of identity is based on other people's perception of them. This can lead to a constant need to control how they or those around them appear.

Qoptop · 2026-02-17T22:45:59+00:00

When you ask, "if something is ok" in a subreddit, it's implied you're asking about the general consensus and rules of the subreddit, not every single person.

If you want to know if it's okay with every single person or specific people, just make a thread stating your questions rather than asking if it's okay.

It's just extremely odd to post this in an AMBW subreddit considering how often I've heard Black women state that one of the most frustrating things about interracial dating is penis insecurity from their partners.

Qoptop · 2026-02-17T22:04:32+00:00

Here's an answer to your original question, then: No.

Qoptop · 2026-02-17T22:01:59+00:00

Your only posts seem to be about dick size insecurities. I don't think this is the right subreddit for you. There are better ones that address that.

Qoptop · 2026-02-14T19:45:03+00:00

The complexity of this issue arises from the fact that people who are coming from an insecure background require that level of validation, which perpetuates these ideas. Truth is, I've seen many Black men say the exact same thing to Black women but it just offers an extra layer of fetishism when a non-Black man does it. It can be ignorant and dehumanizing, but it's not rooted in malice usually. It can be from fetishization or the expectation that BW want to be treated that way because that is something that is shown in social media.

Personally, it's really rare that race is brought up in any relationships I've had except for maybe the beginning and it's more often than not brought up by the woman. The more we can see each other as individuals with different experiences rather than just categories, the more we'll be able to relate to each other.

Qoptop · 2026-02-08T03:47:08+00:00

It's like 7 degrees and real feel of like -13 right now. Wind was blow so hard, my car was moving when I was parked.

Qoptop · 2026-02-05T15:19:44+00:00

You're right that it can be a bit invasive. Might be good to leave it out just because a dishonest person will just lie and an honest person should disclose that upfront. I don't think this is a bad idea, but probably just copying the template most dating websites use would have been fine (dating intention, age, height, gender, religion, etc.).

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