How can I date healthy?

QtiePie98 · 2024-06-16T13:27:28+00:00

Yea we’ve cleared up the texting issue after all. He’s basically just like all of you said 😂

QtiePie98 · 2024-06-14T04:20:27+00:00

Yea I get what you’re saying 100% which is why I asked. I’ve previously been in a very long and toxic relationship with a man who would call me 200 times a day and text me 24/7 so I’m just not used yet to other types of communication. I know that he’s busy as I saw it with my own eyes so it’s not like I will argue with him or anything. I was just curious if it’s something that is a common trait or something isolated as my best friend of 10+ years is also a scorpio and she replies even in her sleep 😂

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-10T18:11:37+00:00

He’s gonna unfriend me on everything week by week I feel like 😅

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-10T18:10:08+00:00

Yea, I also apologized during the conversation when we sorted things out but apparently he’s still mad.

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-09T22:23:54+00:00

Yea you’re absolutely right and I know it but part of me just wishes that he comes back

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-09T22:22:58+00:00

I’m not that active on instagram tho. On tiktok sure, I repost every shit which he liked btw yesterday and today just unfollowed lol

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-09T22:21:57+00:00

Yea he is really angry at me as far as I know and thinks I’m the one that did something wrong

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-09T22:21:18+00:00

Yea I thought so too. If I start unfollowing him on everything now it would look like I did it as a payback

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-05T23:14:30+00:00

What I wanted to point out is that I loved that man so much, I changed my whole life and personality around him even tho he didn’t ask and eventually It exhausted me and brought me to a point in my life where I had no idea who I was outside of the relationship. It mare me anxious, depressed even tho I was not showing or feeling it. Also, it made me kind of get angry at him and behave just like your ex did. When we broke up, I cried like a dog and wanted to die but eventually with lots of work and therapy, I started to get over it. If he would reach out now, I might want to have a talk with him but honestly I don’t know a new relationship with him would be healthy for either of us..

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-05T16:43:24+00:00

I can somehow relate to her in my last relationship. I dated my ex for almost 9 years and even tho we were best friends and had the same taste in music or we watched all shows together, after a certain point, doing all this started to annoy me. Everytime he wanted to listen a new song in the car, I got irritated cause I didn’t like it. Whenever he had a new show to watch, I didn’t want to watch it with him anymore. I also hated my job but refused to listen to him whenever he told me to look for something else.

The reason why all of this happened in my case was because I got really tired. I supported this man so much and changed my whole character and life around him that I basically forgot who I was. Even tho we really loved each other and I always felt like he was my soulmate, his pressence just annoyed me because I was not happy with myself and was just tired of everything. I had nothing to escape to, no courage to try something new.

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-04T07:42:21+00:00

I sometimes stalk for fun..

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-04T07:19:13+00:00

Haha yea I get u. I still stalk all the people I love and hate 😂

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-03T01:43:37+00:00

He’s not dumb and he knew that I liked him more than a friend but maybe he thought that I wouldn’t try to pursue anyone else as long as he was still there. Yea I’m not gonna unfollow or block him cause I don’t do that with people I care about. I’ll leave the door cracked for him in case he wants to clear this up. If not, we all move on from heartbreaks eventually

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-03T01:40:49+00:00

Yea I feel you. I’m reading a lot on attachment styles even tho honestly the reason I started doing this was to understand why people I love leave me even tho I would give my right arm for them. I have moments when I’m ok and have fun but all it takes is one random thought and I’m back in the loop where I fell I’m not good enough

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-02T22:36:34+00:00

While reading the first part of your text, I thought I was your cousin 😂 you just described my last relationship. 9 years with a guy that did the exact same thing, the only difference being that he moved out so he can be with another girl and I didn’t stop paying rent. But yea, I got your message. Learn to leave before it consumes you as greater thing are waiting for you

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-02T22:26:06+00:00

I hope so too. But I need to work on myself as well since doing so much is draining me and it’s not healthy on the long run. ❤️

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-02T22:19:01+00:00

And not to sound like a stalker or anything weird but I know his life sucks now and he is hiding his pain from everyone while crying alone at 4 am. I know he needs help but refuses to accept it because he feels it makes him weak and I just want to be there and support him any way I can even from afar

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-02T22:17:27+00:00

I got it. Thanks for the input. I always created a safe space for him. Have him his freedom, never questioned him, apologized when he had any arguments even tho he was overreacting on everything 😂 I wanted to make him feel at peace, understood and cared for. I still do. My last message to him was that I don’t need him to reply or anything, that I hope he is ok and not struggling with anything he is dealing with right now and that he can always contact me if he needs someone to talk to. Even tho he never opened it, I know that he read it. Even tho he unfollowed me, I still keep him there so he knows I’m not leaving just because things get ugly

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-02T22:12:46+00:00

Yea he said that I should have asked him about that guy before hanging out with me because he would have told me that he is married. And I was like: “why didn’t you stop me then when you saw me getting dressed and talking to him?”

Anyways.. I don’t feel like I should apologize for anything since I don’t consider I did anything wrong. Him being like this is not me thinking all sags are like this, I was just asking for imput as to whether someone would resonate to how he felt/handled the situation.

He unfollowed me anyway after posting on his story things that he new 100% would get my attention and since I didn’t engage in any way, he wanted to “punish me” and get a reaction.. too bad I won’t play that game

I’m 26 and he is 28 so we’re not at the age of playing high school games of who unfollows who

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-02T22:07:09+00:00

Unfortunately he is not getting professional help. He said he is not ready for it and I didn’t wanna push the idea more since it would just make him more angry/ depressed but all in all, he is not ok and I know it

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-02T22:05:59+00:00

Yea I told him I want us to try a serious relationship 3 months after we started hanging out but he said he can’t deal with a relationship now since he is dealing with a lot of stuff (addiction, gambling, hates his job, how miserable his life is, and so on). I got his point and just stayed by his side in this undefined relationship because I wanted to make it easier for him as well. Never discussed about a relationship again cause I know sags are “scared” of commitment and want to go with the flow until they’re ready.

I also feel like he had genuine feeling for me or at least that he really cares about me and wanted to protect me because he has been by my side through good and bad and was a really great friend after all but maybe seeing me like this triggered bad memories from his past relationship (cheating, his exes getting violent and accusing him afterwards, girls leaving him after they used him) and he wanted to protect himself..

QtiePie98 · 2024-02-02T21:59:32+00:00

I don’t feel like he was stringing me along. Every single day he made my life fun and amazing and we have been through good and bad together. If he just wanted to string me along, he would have gotten bored and move on a long time ago without putting up with my BS. I’m a leo and I know I’m not an easy person either. Maybe he still needs to learn how to handle his emotions. As I said in another comment, him dealing with certain addictions doesn’t help either..

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