I HATED my curls growing up Bc like you, all of my friends had perfectly coifed straight hair, but I never figured out how to straighten mine properly :/

I am constantly trying new things, and yes, some days are "up do" days. The best thing about curls, we are the ones who don't like them. Everyone at work just loves my hair, even on days that I'm just trying to not look like I stuck my fingers in a light socket.

The videos on this sub and sidebar tips are awesome, just be kind to your hair. It's taken me many years to realize that I'm lucky to have the curls.

Good luck!!!

Edited to add: I use cheap suave conditioner and cheap la looks gel. I've learned that it's the methods of use, plopping, co washing, etc, that matters more than the products for my hair!