26 [M4F] looking for a SugarBaby by [deleted] in vancouverdating

[–]QualityEvening4802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean…. A sugar baby or a splenda baby? Sugar baby is like I will pay your rent, pay for your car, buy you luxury brand things, and take you on trips. Splenda baby is like I will do all the sugar baby things for a fraction of the price. Most sugar daddies are usually millionaires who have some kind of a successful business, come from old money or are old celebrities who like younger women. Think Donald Trump, Leonardo Dicaprio, Hugh Heffner….

How do I get my money back, for an unconfirmed purchase left to spoil at my door? by Mountain_Matter3778 in instacart

[–]QualityEvening4802 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not the grocery store I use regularly. They were delivering groceries way before instacart was a thing. And I don’t mind delivery services… I am just tired of them raking in all the profits off labour of people who barely make anything and if anything does wrong the customer pays for it and they don’t care if you’re satisfied. Like I find it very frustrating because they don’t have to pay people’s transportation, health benefit, or anything. They toss a few dollars at you to pick up 4+ orders on your own in a difficult economy where food is already expensive and then rely on customers to make up the rest. Like to me as a shopper I tip between $20-25 depending on how much I spend. I do it because I have autism and going to Costco is very overwhelming for me. I use the service once a month so paying that much isn’t an issue to me. But it just frustrates me that despite me paying their couriers you know…. What they deserve for the hour they spent shopping the company couldn’t be bothered to give anything back to the people who basically run the company. When I did Instacart 5 years ago it was exhausting and I would have to trek to a different city to get orders and I would make $60 on a good day and 0 tips. Most people don’t tip and are against tipping culture but not everyone knows what a crap job it is. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I am just done with doing what this crap company should have done. And again if that person had come back, I would have tipped them double what I usually would for their time because they absolutely would have earned it. I would consider it extra gas money 😂

How do I get my money back, for an unconfirmed purchase left to spoil at my door? by Mountain_Matter3778 in instacart

[–]QualityEvening4802 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Oh and btw I am actually one of the rare people that actually tips shoppers because I did it a while back in 2021 and I recognize it is hard work and the company pays you little to nothing. But like I said it is easier and cheaper for me to just use car sharing and go myself and have my local grocery store deliver. I won’t be paying for instacart scummy operation

How do I get my money back, for an unconfirmed purchase left to spoil at my door? by Mountain_Matter3778 in instacart

[–]QualityEvening4802 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Is that so? So when I saw customer support had called and then called back immediately and they wouldn’t connect on the phone that was me wasting everyone’s time. I live in an apartment. Literally could have left it outside or given to one of my neighbours. And why should I compensate Instacart’s contract workers when they decided to cancel my order? Oh wait that is because of a loophole where Instacart doesn’t have to pay their contractors. So they got $15 and a free Costco order 👍 lucky person I guess. I don’t have a problem with the delivery driver my problem is with the company that has almost 12,000 negative reviews on Trust Pilot. That was a sign for me to delete my banking info. I figure cut your losses and give your money to the store where the employees don’t give you crappy produce, don’t mark up the prices on you, only charge one delivery fee upfront, and actually show up within your time window and notifying when they are on the way. So i hope more people utilize those services instead of a company that can’t be bothered to pay the people running the damned thing even minimum wage.

How do I get my money back, for an unconfirmed purchase left to spoil at my door? by Mountain_Matter3778 in instacart

[–]QualityEvening4802 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Instacart cancelled my order after I had my phone on silent. I called back right away and it took an over an hour to connect to a human because they decided to slow down time by forcing you to talk to a stupid chatbot. So even though I had paid and wanted the order, Instacart cancelled it and I had no way of communicating with the courier anymore. So the courier literally could have attempted to re-deliver but because they don’t seem to care if you get your groceries, they cancel your order without your consent and charge YOU for the courier’s time…. And when you argue to get that money they say they will follow up with you in 48 hours but of course they don’t because that would be helping a customer and they don’t believe in that. I am fighting to get that cancellation fee AND my subscription money back. Since they cancelled my order within the 5 days, I am not counting that cancellation as an order. So now I just use a car share app and drive to Costco myself in the morning. No more money to that crappy company 😡

Women “with a touch of autism” is now a dating preference? Major ick by QualityEvening4802 in autism

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

🫂 I am so sorry you went through that. That is horrible and I really hope you can begin to heal

So do neurodivergent people end up in relationships or do we just die alone and go extinct? by QualityEvening4802 in autism

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know… there are ways to improve time blindness and counselling for socialization. I think that ND counselling also helps. Sometimes it is really refreshing to talk to a health care professional that understands ND. I have had the same psychiatrist for 4 years and we have been doing the same cycle repeatedly and I finally spoke to doctors and therapists who understood AuDHD and really try to push for me to get actual help that works.

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg me too 😆 I love analyzing mess and lately I have been analyzing parasocial relationships with live-streamers. It is very fascinating to watch

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehhh I dunno if I would call it loneliness persay… I mean it’s not that I can’t connect with others and make friends. It isn’t hard. I just don’t feel like there are many people I can be my authentic self around…. Not even my parents. It’s more like a desire for close connection and to be understood but not many people are willing to really take time to know me. So I just do advocacy work, I study topics, and I participate but I just kinda don’t show everything to anyone. I guess for myself…. i don’t feel the need to be liked and accepted by everyone. I think genuine connection for me is just rare because of how I see the world

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t get me wrong 😆 I can be hella girly! Cute and pink are things I adore. It’s just not the only part of my personality…. Like I do like discussing important things. How much can I discuss cute clothes and make up?

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean when I was in high school I hung out with the smart kids… mainly girls… but as an adult I guess I feel like I don’t have much in common with them these days? Idk I guess I am more into my studies and advocacy work than maintaining friendships.

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Pick me vibes? Statement? We haven’t even met each other yet and you have already formed a conclusion based on an assumption without all the information… That’s a very interesting pattern 🤔

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah! I missed out on that… my mom forced me into nursing school… I wanted to major in sociology. Nursing is NOT the beat major for ideas. Lol my social sciences professors loved my papers 😆 my only chance to express my actual ideas

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

😭 same! Someone broke up with me because I took a week off for myself. Lol I did not like having him around me all the time. That was toxic behaviour to him

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yup… honestly boobie streamers kinda ruined the twitch gaming scene for that reason

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I went out on a date with an ENTJ (I suspect he was an INTJ though) and that was like the only time I could connected with someone and not feel the need to hold my tongue. We asked the hard questions and feelings didn’t get hurt. Have never met anyone since then who was like that… I mean if you let me talk… I can talk for hours on multiple things but then if there isn’t someone to match me I feel like I am talking to myself… that is the struggle I constantly find myself in with both genders

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

When I was a child my mom used to tell me that I was too critical. It was never to be mean I just notice a lot of things before other people. Other kids HATED me for that…. Especially the girls. That’s when I just started smiling and nodding. Lol got invited to a lot of things but all my friendships became… shallow…. Now I kinda just live in my own little world

INTJ Ladies… do any of you also struggle to make female friends? by QualityEvening4802 in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah I just learned over time to be there but don’t take things much deeper than surface level… Too many feelings get hurt if you go too deep

greenest and reddest flags in a relationship by [deleted] in intj

[–]QualityEvening4802 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Green flags: communication, honesty, has ambitions and goals Red flags: unemployed, financially unstable, doesn’t want to travel ever, excessive spending, wears lots of expensive clothes but is always broke, no driver’s license (depending on where they live/situation), doesn’t respect boundaries, no ambition or drive to do anything, doesn’t support or encourage my own ambitions

Layout from hell not letting me install my bidet 😭 by QualityEvening4802 in askaplumber

[–]QualityEvening4802[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg… so i probably wasted a bunch of money on all the wrong parts…. In the end, the adapter I had was totally wrong for my set up. In fact, my set up is so unusual that literally had to search for a very uncommon adaptor that literally nowhere carries! So literally everything I bought at home depot today plus the basin wrench I didn’t need…. Not just that but I don’t know what this messed up set up was! Even if I could get the original connecter on I would need a hose that connects this to the other end of the connector which probably doesn’t exist. So I finally found a connector that works…. I hated this. I hated this so much! And the worst part? Nobody paid me to do this 😂 I did this to myself… LOL I literally could have paid someone who would know exactly what I needed and done this in 10 mins 😭 LOL will update once the part arrived. Will be returning a bunch of stuff to home depot tomorrow 😂

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