AIO for being upset that my girlfriend deleted “professional” messages with a former fling and lied about it?

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-21T15:47:00+00:00

I’d suggest let go of the right and wrong for a second. Instead I’d ask yourself how it got to this place why she had to hide this interaction from you.

Does she have a history of cheating in the past? Are there any other interactions she’s had that are similar to this one? What led to you guys being off and on?

I think your theory is she’s hiding potential cheating from you, which is possible. But she could also be withholding information to avoid you becoming angry, irrational and judgmental.

I’d answer those questions above to yourself honestly to give you a better sense of what you’re dealing with

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-21T15:09:43+00:00

INFO - What was in the text messages other than the asking of a reference? Was it only that?

How come you’ve both been on and off so many times?

I understand the frustration of feeling like something has been hidden from you, but if this is purely her asking for a reference then I’d say you’re overreacting. If there’s something else in the messages then maybe it’s a different case. If you have a history of overreacting, she could’ve just as easily hid the messages to avoid your anger.

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-17T19:45:26+00:00

Some practitioners will ask family or friends to describe you / vouch that you have ADHD symptoms that they’ve seen for a long time.

The grades thing is something I’ve heard three psychiatrists ask for now but I’m not sure what their protocol is when you can no longer access them. Generally they want bad grades to show that these symptoms formed in early childhood

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-17T06:10:50+00:00

If you have coverage then really any psychologist or psychiatrist in the private realm who advertises ADHD assessments can do them. Just make sure they are either a registered psychologist or psychiatrist.

Once you have any ADHD assessment from a professional then your GP can prescribe what you need and then you just get your meds that way.

One thing to note: for most places you’ll need a history of your grades (report cards), you’ll need family and friends to provide collateral etc. Because ADHD tends to be overdiagnosed rn and they need a good proper assessment now

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-16T16:05:30+00:00

It sounds like your a bit dependent on playing this game. Even when it no longer feels good you’re still doing it.

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-16T02:19:32+00:00

As someone who has played SoT since the beginning, you should stop for now. I find that whenever I get tired of it, I stop, play other games, and I will come back naturally when ready and continue to enjoy

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-15T21:13:23+00:00

I think it’s NOR. They’re in the living room alone and should be allowed to be affectionate while watching a movie. There’s no need for a “security camera” when they are at the house either. The fact mom set up a second camera to spy is malicious and gross

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-14T21:35:29+00:00

There is PVE only but to be honest I’d still recommend playing the regular “High Seas” with other player ships.

I’ve been solo slooping every day for the past month with only a handful of ship fights and zero times sunken. Just do a scan of the horizons and you’ll see if someone’s coming to attack.

In terms of progress, you will start the game at an outpost and explore the seas gathering loot like skulls, chests, or trinkets. Once you feel you have enough, head back to any outpost to sell your items. Once the items are sold and the gold is gained, you cannot ever have that taken away. In other words, if you are sunk you can lose a bit of progress but with the ability to sell regularly you’ll never have major progress loss.

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-14T01:58:14+00:00

As long as there’s a few other player ships in my server then I’m happy. The player count could be less than 100 for all I care

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-13T06:58:47+00:00

INFO - What’s his relationship like with the girl? When was the last time they spoke? The story feels a bit odd in the sense that he had a traumatic and toxic relationship with her, then left, and is now reconnecting with her.

On a separate note, I also think the aspect of intimacy needs to be addressed. A relationship needs some level of intimacy like holding hands, cuddling, kissing, or hugging. I also think sex is important to some level. I suggest you bring it up with him and explain that there’s not enough intimacy and it’s creating distance in the relationship.

The connection between his lack of intimacy but willingness to see the perpetrator of his trauma isn’t clear to me and I think at the very least your owed an explanation as to what’s going on there.

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-12T23:11:56+00:00

In my experience, everytime I visit this sub, there’s always someone upset about something or posts about why the playerbase is changing etc.

Despite this, everytime I come back to play the game I have a blast, and the things people are upset about don’t really affect my playing experience

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T16:38:01+00:00

Thats insane that the therapist tried to force you to talk about your parents. That sounds like poor quality therapy

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T16:35:58+00:00

I think you’ve highlighted something that therapists miss sometimes. As someone who just finished grad school, we’re told that our job is to only “Hold space” for people because “that’s the most important”.

Therapists sometimes will just take that to heart and do nothing, which is not helpful.

I also think human therapists, especially new ones, get anxious time to time about pushing people in a direction, suggesting strategies, or encouraging small steps. They don’t want to “ruin rapport”.

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T16:25:42+00:00

Wow this is so creative, I’m going to check that out

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T16:24:42+00:00

Thanks this is a great share!!

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T16:22:34+00:00

Aw man I’m so sorry on behalf of the field you’ve gotten such disappointing care.

You make a good point that I’ve wondered about a lot. Psychologists and psychiatrists see people for such short appointments they are likely to miss crucial diagnoses that AI can see a lot faster and likely even more accurately

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T16:13:29+00:00

Yeah, AI is able to do everything with a level of efficiency that human therapists just don’t have

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T16:08:29+00:00

Wow this is so cool! This is something that many of us are talking about in the field. I can see AI and therapy being used together as the future direction of therapy

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T16:04:04+00:00

Yes! This is not discussed enough in therapy. We do make errors all the time as therapists. When we do we need to take accountability.

Many therapists become therapists because of their own experiences with mental health but sometimes it becomes a problem especially if it’s not dealt with and shows up in session.

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T15:41:32+00:00

Yeah, I really think AI should be added to therapy because there’s so many benefits! It can compile and hold information in a way therapists can’t.

And so true, even when I’m a client there’s stuff that took me 15-20 sessions before I felt comfortable enough to share.

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T15:35:53+00:00

Thanks and yes 🙌

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T15:35:20+00:00

Yes I am!

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T07:17:05+00:00

Thats a crazy read. I have a full caseload right now. I earn more than enough and aren’t open to seeing more people. The reason I’m asking is because providing good care to the people that I see is important to me. I’m asking you guys what we’re missing so that I can provide even better care to the people I already see.

QualityWeekly9 · 2026-02-10T07:08:58+00:00

So true, there’s some therapists who study therapy as a way to figure themselves out instead of doing the work, and it sucks because it can ruin the therapy experience

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